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Capt. Obvious

(9,002 posts)
Tue May 17, 2016, 12:31 PM May 2016

Using a Target bathroom got really uncomfortable really fast

....

I was alone in the restroom. There were two large handicap-access stalls, complete with baby-changing tables, and two regular stalls. I headed all the way down to the farthest single stall, up against the wall, and I sat down to take care of business.

That's when stuff got weird.

The outer door opened, and someone came in. She walked past the three open stalls and stood directly in front of my door. Then she leaned over and placed her eye firmly up against the gap between the door and the frame and stared in at me.

I am not making this up. And let me tell you, it was awkward. Bizarre, even. This wasn't a case of someone hoping all those occupied stalls aren't really occupied. Mine was the only stall that was occupied. She deliberately stopped and stared in at me. My startled eyes met hers, and she moved away, into one of the larger stalls.

I got out of my stall as quickly as I could, and as I stood washing my hands, her voice called out.

"Sorry about that," she said. "But you know, Target lets men and homosexuals use just any bathroom now. I was making sure you were a woman."

....

SheKnows


This has gone off the deep end. I don't want any perverts peeking into stalls so I'm peeking into stalls.
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Using a Target bathroom got really uncomfortable really fast (Original Post) Capt. Obvious May 2016 OP
That might be a good time to whip out your phone, take a picture, winter is coming May 2016 #1
wasp spray is accurate at 20 feet elehhhhna May 2016 #3
That (or something similar) was my thought as well. woodsprite May 2016 #5
most facilities have a fire extinguisher onhand if there's nothing else available! MisterP May 2016 #38
Better yet... blogslut May 2016 #19
Or just use your outdoor voice Warpy May 2016 #30
No, do NOT whip out a phone camera in a bathroom. Dr. Strange May 2016 #31
Potty Party Perverts Piss me off! lagomorph777 May 2016 #46
Does Target have security people? drm604 May 2016 #2
This. Glad you suggested it. Butterbean May 2016 #20
It would be a good time to kick the door open sharp_stick May 2016 #4
Second that. Kick the door hard. You don't want any of those preverts in there. Vincardog May 2016 #7
This tale is full of ... Gormy Cuss May 2016 #6
"men and homosexuals" . . . HughBeaumont May 2016 #8
If the stall door is closed, it would seem... 3catwoman3 May 2016 #9
Sounds like a good time for a can of bear mace! Rex May 2016 #10
Pepper spray. Straight to the fundie's corneas. backscatter712 May 2016 #11
Hell, a jar of Target jalapeno slices will do! KansDem May 2016 #13
Good idea mountain grammy May 2016 #14
Well , that was her excuse for taking a good long peek. keithbvadu2 May 2016 #12
This is getting fucking scary. Initech May 2016 #15
Image Capt. Obvious May 2016 #16
Talk about a first world fear! AZ Progressive May 2016 #17
God damned Potty Party Perverts Piss me off! lagomorph777 May 2016 #18
how did she 'know' you were a women? spanone May 2016 #21
She called in the village wizard to inspect her hyman Capt. Obvious May 2016 #26
there is that. spanone May 2016 #33
I would have told them I was going to call the cops for harassment. Javaman May 2016 #22
Yeah, I certainly wouldn't want to let any "weirdos" in the restroom with me. BlueStater May 2016 #23
Target lets men and homosexuals use just any bathroom now. AlbertCat May 2016 #24
hermetically sealed peeper proof stalls are the answer NoMoreRepugs May 2016 #25
. ohnoyoudidnt May 2016 #27
I love that so much... it is so amazing how little self-awareness these idiots have Fast Walker 52 May 2016 #35
+1 uponit7771 May 2016 #40
New excuse? Mnpaul May 2016 #49
This rings as true as the Whole Foods Cake Episode TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #28
Mace them, run, call the police. That was a sexual assault and she should be arrested.n/t jtuck004 May 2016 #29
One day these homophobes will assault each other in an epic misunderstanding. eShirl May 2016 #32
Did you bring a spork? snort May 2016 #34
Fuckin' religion. It makes the world crazy. nt valerief May 2016 #36
She wrote a follow-up to this piece oberliner May 2016 #37
I would have kicked her peeper ass Skittles May 2016 #39
Sometimes Dorian Gray May 2016 #41
When in doubt, always go to the Jerk Store comeback Capt. Obvious May 2016 #42
LOL, that's funny! DawgHouse May 2016 #44
Ha ha Dorian Gray May 2016 #45
Same idea - variation: salin May 2016 #48
That is seriously disturbed mcar May 2016 #43
Ugh! Bigredhunk May 2016 #47
what a fucked up person JI7 May 2016 #50
I believe I'd kick the door hard enough to make the idiot regret it. DisgustipatedinCA May 2016 #51

winter is coming

(11,785 posts)
1. That might be a good time to whip out your phone, take a picture,
Tue May 17, 2016, 12:34 PM
May 2016

and say, "I'm reporting you to Security as a pervert".

woodsprite

(11,912 posts)
5. That (or something similar) was my thought as well.
Tue May 17, 2016, 12:40 PM
May 2016

After all, a girl needs to carry mace to protect herself.

blogslut

(37,999 posts)
19. Better yet...
Tue May 17, 2016, 02:57 PM
May 2016

scream it loud as it happens: "Pervert! Help! Help! There's a pervert in the ladies room!"

Warpy

(111,253 posts)
30. Or just use your outdoor voice
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:22 PM
May 2016

"DO YOU MIND? YOU FUCKING PERVERT!"

I'm all for offending the self appointed bathroom police as much as possible.

Butterbean

(1,014 posts)
20. This. Glad you suggested it.
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:01 PM
May 2016

If it happens to me, I'm going to report the "pervert." Let them reap the rewards of what they've sown.

3catwoman3

(23,975 posts)
9. If the stall door is closed, it would seem...
Tue May 17, 2016, 12:57 PM
May 2016

...reasonably certain that the person within the stall is engaged in performing one of the bodily functions for which said stalls are provided, and will not be peeping through the cracks, unlike the perv outside the door.

 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
10. Sounds like a good time for a can of bear mace!
Tue May 17, 2016, 01:03 PM
May 2016

Let the lady explain why she just has mace in that one eye!

backscatter712

(26,355 posts)
11. Pepper spray. Straight to the fundie's corneas.
Tue May 17, 2016, 01:55 PM
May 2016

Seems pain is the only teacher that can get through to them.

KansDem

(28,498 posts)
13. Hell, a jar of Target jalapeno slices will do!
Tue May 17, 2016, 02:15 PM
May 2016

Unscrew the cap and let the juice fly!

Waste of good jalapeno slices, though...

lagomorph777

(30,613 posts)
18. God damned Potty Party Perverts Piss me off!
Tue May 17, 2016, 02:53 PM
May 2016

Next time, dial 911 immediately and have the asshole hauled away.

Javaman

(62,521 posts)
22. I would have told them I was going to call the cops for harassment.
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:12 PM
May 2016

this kind of shit has stalker written all over it.

these creepy bastards need to be taught a lesson.

http://definitions.uslegal.com/p/peeping-tom/

BlueStater

(7,596 posts)
23. Yeah, I certainly wouldn't want to let any "weirdos" in the restroom with me.
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:15 PM
May 2016

Thanks, mysterious genital checker!

 

AlbertCat

(17,505 posts)
24. Target lets men and homosexuals use just any bathroom now.
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:16 PM
May 2016

No.

Target lets people who identify as women use the women's bathroom, and those who identify as men use the men's bathroom.

Trans is not a drag act. It's not an act at all. In fact it's the opposite of an act.

That's what stupid people don't seem to get.

It's akin to the "homosexuality is a choice" lie.

TexasMommaWithAHat

(3,212 posts)
28. This rings as true as the Whole Foods Cake Episode
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:21 PM
May 2016

Even crazies can wait until you walk out of the stall to look you over.

I hate, hate, hate it when attention seekers get caught lying about serious issues that affect real people.

(The only people who have ever peeped in at me have never been more than four years old. )

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
37. She wrote a follow-up to this piece
Tue May 17, 2016, 03:48 PM
May 2016

When I wrote my post about Target last week, I remember thinking, "I'm gonna have some yahoo comment that this is all made up. Or that I'm a biased liberal hack."

I know the story sounds bizarre. It was. A thoroughly bizarre event. And BlogHer decided to feature it, which led to a good amount of fan mail and supportive comments, and a few yahoos who called BS or called me names. Whatever.

http://www.singlemomtism.com/2016/05/i-went-viral-and-wow-has-this-been.html#more

Dorian Gray

(13,493 posts)
41. Sometimes
Wed May 18, 2016, 07:01 AM
May 2016

comebacks come to me too late. But the obvious thing to say in this case would be: "You're worried about perverts coming into the bathroom and making the ladies room an uncomfortable place for us? Because where I sit, that person is you."

salin

(48,955 posts)
48. Same idea - variation:
Wed May 18, 2016, 11:37 PM
May 2016

So because you are worried about someone peeping in on you while you are 'doing your business', you 'peeped in on me' while I was doing my business? How about we just ban people who 'peep in on' others while they are doing their business, from using these bathrooms?

Bigredhunk

(1,349 posts)
47. Ugh!
Wed May 18, 2016, 08:42 PM
May 2016

My gf is dealing with this at her school now (she's a teacher). Idiot f*cking conservative boys were storming into the girl's bathroom to prove a non-point ("See! We told you this would happen!&quot . People are getting into physical fights over it. The school is having meetings about it over the next few school days.

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