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rug

(82,333 posts)
Sat May 21, 2016, 06:58 PM May 2016

Is this picture disgusting or beautiful?

This photograph of a father holding his son in the shower has been shared tens of thousands of times on Facebook in the last fortnight. But over the same period it's also also been taken down by the social media platform more than once before ultimately being reinstated each time. Why?



20 May 2016
By BBC Trending

In some ways the picture appears to show a fairly everyday scene. A dad cradling his severely sick child in his arms. Except in this instance, they are in the shower and both naked. The picture was posted on social media by the photographer Heather Whitten who lives in Arizona in the US. It shows her son Fox and her husband, the boy's father Thomas Whitten.

For many viewers the image is a touching portrait of parental care and affection. The reason that father and son were naked was because Fox had Salmonella poisoning for which he would soon after be hospitalised.

"Thomas had spent hours in the shower with him, trying to keep his fever down and letting the vomit and diarrhea rinse off of them both as it came," Whitten wrote in her post accompanying the photo.

"He was so patient and so loving and so strong with our tiny son in his lap... I stepped out and grabbed my camera and came back to snap a few images of it and, of course shared them."

http://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-trending-36322279


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Is this picture disgusting or beautiful? (Original Post) rug May 2016 OP
one terrified parent and one sick child oldandhappy May 2016 #1
Neither. Rex May 2016 #2
My thoughts as well Scootaloo May 2016 #6
This. bigwillq May 2016 #7
Seconded AgerolanAmerican May 2016 #9
Yes. Life is often far beyond the categories. enough May 2016 #14
Yep. GoCubsGo May 2016 #29
Gorgeous and touching. A HERETIC I AM May 2016 #3
There are humans way sicker than Fox malaise May 2016 #4
On doctors orders I had to drench my naked kids in a bathtub when they ran dangerous fevers. mikehiggins May 2016 #5
Something is mentally wrong with people who associate this pic with abuse. Oneironaut May 2016 #8
Having experienced a bout sarisataka May 2016 #10
+1 JimDandy May 2016 #11
I'd call it 2naSalit May 2016 #12
It's beautiful due to the raw depiction of everyday life. herding cats May 2016 #13
K&R a 5th rec for publicity. The story is more beautiful than the photo Jeffersons Ghost May 2016 #15
salmonilla? Oh, that poor baby. What a great dad! liberal_at_heart May 2016 #16
Beautiful. Igel May 2016 #17
Neither? left-of-center2012 May 2016 #18
It's the context that determines whether the picture is disgusting or beautiful Lurks Often May 2016 #19
Other: In the eye of the beholder. People with a dirty mind will find it disturbing. Binkie The Clown May 2016 #20
There's photo at the link of another child. There the parent was the mother. rug May 2016 #25
Well babies come out of the vaginas of women underthematrix May 2016 #26
Nice photo of a father and his caring whistler162 May 2016 #21
back when the pedo scare was getting into swing in the early 90s paediatricians MisterP May 2016 #22
Neither. WillowTree May 2016 #23
I hope the kidhas recovered Liberal_in_LA May 2016 #24
I can't find any updates but I expect if he didn't recover it would have been mentioned. rug May 2016 #28
I don't like pics like this but I definitely hate this one underthematrix May 2016 #27
Do you hate the picture or that it was put on social media? rug May 2016 #30
I mostly hate that it was put on social media but naked hairy dude with A kid on his lap underthematrix May 2016 #31
How do you know it's not his kid? nt Quackers May 2016 #36
Post removed Post removed May 2016 #32
Either you forgot the "sarcasm" thingee, or you are a total asshole. The jury is out. n/t mikehiggins May 2016 #33
Jury is in. Post was hidden. HOPNOSH May 2016 #35
That child is probably 2 maybe 3. Children that age take a shower with their parents quite often HOPNOSH May 2016 #34
I don't think anything is wrong with it, but I think sharing it is unwise. LeftyMom May 2016 #37
 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
2. Neither.
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:00 PM
May 2016

It is a simple picture of life, people need to stop making mountains out of mole hills.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,390 posts)
3. Gorgeous and touching.
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:00 PM
May 2016

The people who are or would be offended by such an image need to do 2 things;

1) Get the hell over it
2) Stop being such a god damned busybody.

malaise

(269,704 posts)
4. There are humans way sicker than Fox
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:02 PM
May 2016

Those are the ones who would find it disgusting. Every day of the fugging week parents bathe with their children - sick or well.
We are so afraid of our own nakedness - no wonder this planet is fucked up.

mikehiggins

(5,614 posts)
5. On doctors orders I had to drench my naked kids in a bathtub when they ran dangerous fevers.
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:04 PM
May 2016

Didn't do them any harm and may have prevented brain damage.

The shame is that anyone could find a picture like that dubious. Says more about the critics than the parents.

Oneironaut

(5,561 posts)
8. Something is mentally wrong with people who associate this pic with abuse.
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:22 PM
May 2016

If your mind instantly jumps to pedophilia, there's something wrong with you. I used to be naked as a child all of the time. Big deal.

I guess children must be clothed at all times now, since their fathers are raving sex maniac pedophiles waiting to strike at any moment.

sarisataka

(19,073 posts)
10. Having experienced a bout
Sat May 21, 2016, 07:31 PM
May 2016

Of salmonella poisoning, I consider anyone willing to sit in the shower and care for you worthy of sainthood.

herding cats

(19,569 posts)
13. It's beautiful due to the raw depiction of everyday life.
Sat May 21, 2016, 08:03 PM
May 2016

It shows the reality of human interaction. Which isn't always glamorous, or pretty. It's just life.

Igel

(35,425 posts)
17. Beautiful.
Sat May 21, 2016, 08:48 PM
May 2016

But at the same time, inappropriate.

Some things are private and should stay private. Daddy did good, mommy (I assume) did vain.

 

Lurks Often

(5,455 posts)
19. It's the context that determines whether the picture is disgusting or beautiful
Sat May 21, 2016, 09:07 PM
May 2016

Because it is a parent taking care of his child who is sick with vomiting, diarrhea and a fever that makes it an inspiring picture.

On the other hand, if this picture had been found in the collection of someone who collects child porn, we would be angry and horrified.

Binkie The Clown

(7,911 posts)
20. Other: In the eye of the beholder. People with a dirty mind will find it disturbing.
Sat May 21, 2016, 09:11 PM
May 2016

Not because of its content, but because of their own warped interpretation of the content.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
25. There's photo at the link of another child. There the parent was the mother.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:14 PM
May 2016


In photos where a child appears naked with an adult there are additional complications and there may be evidence of something of a double standard. A nude man may appear more sinister to some than a woman without clothes.

Last month, an Australian woman Kelli Bannister posted a photograph - in a similar pose to Whitten's photo - cradling her daughter Summer. It was taken by her five-year-old son on a mobile phone. The reaction to that image was overwhelmingly positive.



underthematrix

(5,811 posts)
26. Well babies come out of the vaginas of women
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:16 PM
May 2016

so I think peeps are okay with it from that perspective even though children enter families through adoption surrogacy etc.

 

whistler162

(11,155 posts)
21. Nice photo of a father and his caring
Sat May 21, 2016, 09:13 PM
May 2016

about his child. Though self censoring as to what goes on social media is a problem many share with the parents.

Cool water, diarrhea, and vomit for hours. Yup... a caring father.

MisterP

(23,730 posts)
22. back when the pedo scare was getting into swing in the early 90s paediatricians
Sat May 21, 2016, 09:39 PM
May 2016

were getting attacked by the self-righteous bluestocking brigades

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
23. Neither.
Sat May 21, 2016, 09:55 PM
May 2016

Not a photo that I would have taken and certainly not one that I would have shared publicly, but I tend to be a pretty private person, not to mention more than slightly old school when it comes to what I think is appropriate so it's likely I would qualify as being out of touch in that respect.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
28. I can't find any updates but I expect if he didn't recover it would have been mentioned.
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:18 PM
May 2016

Odd, isn't it, that the buzz is about the picture but not the child's health.

I'm glad you asked.

underthematrix

(5,811 posts)
31. I mostly hate that it was put on social media but naked hairy dude with A kid on his lap
Sat May 21, 2016, 10:25 PM
May 2016

ewww - How do we know it's his kid? just ewww

Response to rug (Original post)

 

HOPNOSH

(37 posts)
34. That child is probably 2 maybe 3. Children that age take a shower with their parents quite often
Sat May 21, 2016, 11:21 PM
May 2016

A child that young should never take a shower alone. Ever. Baths at that age are supervised as well. Lapdance? You are twisted.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
37. I don't think anything is wrong with it, but I think sharing it is unwise.
Sun May 22, 2016, 12:25 AM
May 2016

I also don't know why anybody would want to keep a picture of a kid who's that sick, seems like an odd choice, but a harmless one if the picture had stayed in the family.

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