I have a suggestion, about sexual assault

[uppityperson]

Find a time to talk with you partner, spouse, friend, sibling, child, parent, etc. Ask them about their sexual assaults, and listen to them. What your stories with them.

Have an open mind, accept survivorship. Be gentle. Be kind.

You, and they, might well be surprised at what is shared.

[Pachamama]

1. The biggest shock, especially to the men who love us women, is how often this has happened...

But this of course is not to suggest it's only women who have been victimized. I sadly know several men who were sexually assaulted and molested when they were boys by adult men.

It is something that happens too much and destroys and damages lives. Silence is what allows it to continue and hide in the shadows. Talking about it heals and gives courage and hopefully the "Rape Culture" that is real can be stopped or at least minimized.

And yes, I too am one of the many women who knows from experience....

[uppityperson]

2. Indeed, MrUP was surprised at my story. And I kept the OP gender free because it happens to people

regardless of gender.

[Pachamama]

3. Hug to you Uppityperson

It has been awhile since I was on DU.. The events of this election brought me back because I knew this was a safe forum...

[upaloopa]

4. I believe my wife was assaulted though she hasn't said she was

She can't stand to here about what Trump is accused of. My wife's way to deal with things she can't deal with is to put them out of her mind


Her father was an abusive alcoholic

[Behind the Aegis]

5. I have never discussed it with my husband.

He knows a few things, but I never got into the "nitty gritty". I have explained more on this site. I am well into the survivor stage and rarely have any type of trauma associated with the event.

While I understand your suggestion, people need to take care in opening up, because some people just aren't equipped o handle such information and may not be as "supportive" as a survivor might need. It sucks to at, but sometimes, one needs to be understanding of the other end too (meaning those who haven't been victimized).

I am male (some people still think I am a woman. ).

[uppityperson]

6. Thank you, there is that also. Be careful about opening up, listening is good also

It's ok to share even small things, doesn't need to be everything.

I was past most of it, most being ancient history, but all that's coming out with Trump makes me realize how angry I am that some think this is just fine behavior.