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retrowire

(10,345 posts)
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:16 AM Dec 2016

Christmas with a Trump supporter.

Today, I'll be attending my family's Christmas. And there will be a young man there who is currently dating my niece.

He's a full blown Trump supporter and I'll be treating him as an equal on this day.

It is hard. But, just the other day, I was blessed with an epiphany. One of my next door neighbor's, I recently discovered was a Trump supporter. I drove by their house one day and saw a Trump sign in their garage.

But yesterday, that family happened upon my doorstep. Just to say "Merry Christmas" and give us a box of homemade cookies. We had just met them the day before and, through the spirit of Christmas, they were generous to a stranger.

Who's to say what would have happened if I were a minority? We'll never know.

But today, like the soldiers in WW2, I'll be laying down my arms in the interest of humanity and kindness, just like the Christmas spirit, and I will be gracious.

Merry Christmas DU.

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Christmas with a Trump supporter. (Original Post) retrowire Dec 2016 OP
We have to find commonalities, keep relationships viable if we're going to return no_hypocrisy Dec 2016 #1
Some Trump voters are civilized mainer Dec 2016 #2
We'll never persuade anyone with hate. femmedem Dec 2016 #3
Beautiful post, Retro PlanetBev Dec 2016 #4
What if he starts bragging up Trump Making doc03 Dec 2016 #5
Just say you're worried about something greymattermom Dec 2016 #6
You should treat him as an equal every day oberliner Dec 2016 #7
Trumpeters are beneath contempt. Lucky Luciano Dec 2016 #9
You are talking about 60 million people oberliner Dec 2016 #11
Yes, paleotn Dec 2016 #22
1930's Germany? oberliner Dec 2016 #28
S rozhdyestvom Hristovym!, Comrade safeinOhio Dec 2016 #8
Your a better person than I am Va Lefty Dec 2016 #10
I'm with ya. La Coliniere Dec 2016 #15
Orange carbuncle Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Dec 2016 #20
Same here. Won't give them the opportunity to be sore winners with SammyWinstonJack Dec 2016 #17
Same here, I think. Buckeye_Democrat Dec 2016 #12
Thanks.. mountain grammy Dec 2016 #13
May I suggest: lambchopp59 Dec 2016 #14
Merry Christmas to you and yours! Blue Idaho Dec 2016 #16
I like that. Love thy neighbor. Merry Christmas. nolabear Dec 2016 #18
Mother in Law is a Trumpster and we're going there for dinner today ihaveaquestion Dec 2016 #19
My Family "Agrees" To Not Talk Politics OldYallow Dec 2016 #21
merry christmas. have some cookies. now get in the boxcar. nt msongs Dec 2016 #23
Trying to be nice today MFM008 Dec 2016 #24
It was the right wing media, specifically FOX news that always had an outrageous Jim Beard Dec 2016 #25
My philosophy, too Hekate Dec 2016 #26
ALL the misery coming in the next 4 years is directly on their heads!! retread Dec 2016 #27
Your niece should be cautious with that guy kimbutgar Dec 2016 #29
Well the way i look at that is barbtries Dec 2016 #30
A Trump supporter I know announced at a family Christmas gathering milestogo Dec 2016 #31

no_hypocrisy

(45,317 posts)
1. We have to find commonalities, keep relationships viable if we're going to return
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:25 AM
Dec 2016

democracy to this country. They will follow us as easily as they followed Trump if we continue to reach out to them.

mainer

(12,001 posts)
2. Some Trump voters are civilized
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:26 AM
Dec 2016

But others -- like the "Christian" who said she hoped I have the worst Christmas ever just because I support the Rockettes who don't want to dance for Trump -- just can't be civil back.

Btw I responded by wishing her a joyous Christmas.

femmedem

(8,165 posts)
3. We'll never persuade anyone with hate.
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 09:31 AM
Dec 2016

Just as a gift of cookies makes it easier to be friends with Trump supporters, so too will your graciousness help this young man not dismiss Democrats as the enemy.

Merry Christmas! I hope many follow your example.

doc03

(34,980 posts)
5. What if he starts bragging up Trump Making
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:09 AM
Dec 2016

Merika Great Again and won't shut up? Good luck and Merry Christmas

greymattermom

(5,746 posts)
6. Just say you're worried about something
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:24 AM
Dec 2016

like how you will afford to retire without social security or medicare
like how your relative with type 1 diabetes may have to move to another state to afford insulin

just make it personal and say you're worried.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
11. You are talking about 60 million people
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:46 AM
Dec 2016

Being kind to those with whom you disagree is a virtue, in my opinion.

paleotn

(17,688 posts)
22. Yes,
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 12:22 PM
Dec 2016

graciousness is a virtue, but they're still beneath contempt. Like those nice, regular folks who voted for the National Socialist Workers Party in 1930's Germany. A fatal mistake. Lets hope this one isn't as fatal, but my opinion of them stays the same. There are just some things you can't gloss over in good conscience, no matter how virtuous it might seem.

La Coliniere

(603 posts)
15. I'm with ya.
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 11:12 AM
Dec 2016

Luckily none of my significant others or immediate family members voted for Orange Carbuncle. On the other hand, first and second cousins, and a couple of aunts and uncles love the idiot and were proud and vocal about their support. My wife and I have declined two invitations to holiday parties where this group will be in attendance because we all love talking politics and I fear I will become quite aggressive and confrontational (not my usual laid back demeanor) in regards to their votes and opinions. As usual I would come with facts and they would come with Fox News talking points. My nerves are still too raw. Contempt? Hell yes!

Buckeye_Democrat

(14,839 posts)
12. Same here, I think.
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 10:49 AM
Dec 2016

My brother probably voted for Trump, but he never told me. I'd prefer to maintain a "Don't ask, don't tell" situation with him regarding Trump. At least he's not a loud-mouth about politics like many Republicans that I've encountered around here.

Blue Idaho

(4,903 posts)
16. Merry Christmas to you and yours!
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 11:27 AM
Dec 2016

And check back with him in about six months. I suspect that by then - many Trumpers will have soured on that psychotic old bastard.

ihaveaquestion

(2,340 posts)
19. Mother in Law is a Trumpster and we're going there for dinner today
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 11:57 AM
Dec 2016

I'm going to try to be civil, but she's pretty volatile at times and I'm not sure how I'll react if she goes off.

In my head I'll calmly tell her what I think of that orange faced, autocratic, pussy-grabbing, putin lover, but who knows?

 

OldYallow

(90 posts)
21. My Family "Agrees" To Not Talk Politics
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 12:18 PM
Dec 2016

They are good people, and not racists, but "think different" as my brother in law says.

Still trying to find a way to bring them into the light......

 

Jim Beard

(2,535 posts)
25. It was the right wing media, specifically FOX news that always had an outrageous
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 01:18 PM
Dec 2016

news story about liberals just before Christmas for the specific purpose of having the highly anti liberal point of view.

Don't fall for their crap.

Hekate

(89,645 posts)
26. My philosophy, too
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 01:21 PM
Dec 2016

I've lived in detente with my politically-opposite neightbor for 3 decades, and I can still do it this coming year.

kimbutgar

(20,574 posts)
29. Your niece should be cautious with that guy
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 05:04 PM
Dec 2016

Sounds like he has no common sense if he''s an orange hitler supporter. Lack of judgement is not a good quality in a boyfriend or husband imho.

barbtries

(28,631 posts)
30. Well the way i look at that is
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:08 PM
Dec 2016

I won't start anything. i've already been censored at the company holiday party when a guy at our table made a comment about the NYTimes that could have been lifted directly from a trump tweet. i held my tongue but i doubt if anyone at the table was unaware of my disgust.

milestogo

(16,829 posts)
31. A Trump supporter I know announced at a family Christmas gathering
Sun Dec 25, 2016, 08:13 PM
Dec 2016

that Michelle Obama is a "tranny".

Hate doesn't take a day off on Christmas.

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