Does anyone else just randomly break down and cry since Trump was inaugurated?

[agenasolva]

I'm trying to be strong. Especially for my daughter. Yet she still doesn't understand why I cry. Sometimes we will be at the store and I'll just break down. She asks me "Why are you crying daddy?" and I don't know how to put it into words for her. I don't know how to tell her that she is going to grow up in a world fueled by sexism and misogyny. A world where it's okay for men to "grab her by the pussy" when she gets older.

I was incredibly disheartened and depressed when Trump won. But I still held out hope that the electoral college would stop him. Or the courts. How could they let such a blatantly racist fascist take the highest office in the world? I mean Hillary was supposed to win. She had a 95% chance in most of the polls. I just sometimes stop and think in the middle of the day how this happened and I break down.

I thought we lived in a progressive country. I thought we were moving towards progress. We elected Obama twice but how did we go from that to this?

I am at a loss for words.....

[MFM008]

1. No

But I get very angry.
I had a peptic ulcer but it's healed.
So hurrah.

[butdiduvote]

2. Yes.

To be honest, it's more about Hillary losing, though. I do believe we will survive Trump, but I won't ever feel okay with not having Hillary as my president. I had a lot of high hopes for her. Another female president will come along someday, but she wont be as badass as Hillary.

[LisaM]

26. I have that anger, too.

I almost let myself believe she would be elected and that they wouldn't succeed in taking it aeay from us. Unfortunately, that feeling was wrong.

[LisaM]

3. Yes.

It came on the other morning when I was waiting for the bus. I hate how friends are going after each other now. I seriously got called a Nazi twice last week. Which is ridiculous.

[nolabear]

4. Not after the first couple of days. I'm between disbelief and rage.

I don't feel helpless but the sheer insanity of this whole thing certainly has made an impression.

[Phoenix61]

5. First ... Breathe

Nice, slow, deep belly breaths. Move your breathe down from your shoulders to your belly. Then..I cannot imagine how fearful you are for your daughter but please recogninize the most important indicator of how she will be treated by men is how you treat her. If she grows up knowing she is valued for who she is she won't put up with that effing groper shit. She will shut them down before they even start. This has been a rude wake up call for us. We aren't where we thought we were. Do we give up or do we dig in and push though to get there. I'm for digging in and pushing through and it seems that so are the rest of us. Hang in there, we will prevail.

[AlexSFCA]

6. no

this was a wake up call. We were in deep sleep during Obama years; he protected us from 'real' America. We trusted him, the media trusted him, we became very complacent and relaxed and went into a deep political sleep. We now woke up to reality. Reality bites and is full of extreme hatred.

There is no use in crying, we have to remain strong, teach our children to be strong and always fight for what is right, never compromise on civil liberties. Do not cry, teach your daughter that what is happening is wrong, teach her to protect herself, to be an independent woman and never rely on men to get by in life.

[Blue_true]

60. The "real" America did not elect Trump, reactionaries and people in fear of

The modern economy did. My biggest fear with Trump is that he will bumble his way into policy that will buttress him, one area is with H1B visas, if Trump greatly reduce or eliminate them and that results in 40 year old plus engineers and technical people getting jobs that they are now being looked over for, that is an outcome that could greatly override Trump's Muslim hate and other hate. Trump gained his margin of victory because older, laid off factory workers believed that he would once again make them relevant - to ignore that is insanity on our parts. President Obama actually brought back manufacturing, but that manufacturing was highly automated and required few people. Classic capitalism is dead, there simply are not enough jobs for people, especially with smart machines continuing to eliminate workers - what is needed is a new look at capitalism that involves a guaranteed minimum income for everyone - the problem is society is not at the point where such an idea takes hold, so we are left with figuring out how to fight Trump's cons.

[demtenjeep]

7. all the damn time

I am just barely hanging on

[fleur-de-lisa]

8. Yes. But now I'm mostly pissed.

Winter is coming! We snowflakes will kick ass!

[Canoe52]

9. Yes, but not since my wife and I went to the woman's march.

It gave me hope and at 64 I've never seen anything like it, 1,200 people showed up in a town of 1,000. (we have a lot of rural residents)

[2naSalit]

10. No but I don't sleep well.

I have started to have a "nightcap" to help me relax enough, I don't sleep well anyway so now I'm not looking the picture of health I was just three months ago.

[mnhtnbb]

39. Alcohol before bedtime will interrupt your sleep and give you poorer quality sleep

Much better to stop drinking several hours before going to sleep.

https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-topics/how-alcohol-affects-sleep

[2naSalit]

53. I understand that

"nightcap" is traditionally indicative of alcohol, however, I don't use alcohol. I prefer organic things like lavender tea or something else that helps to ease my mind enough to doze off. Appreciate the advice though.

[mnhtnbb]

54. Many of us are consuming more alcohol since Nov 8th...me included...but

a lot of people don't know that alcohol does interfere with sleep.

Maybe you want to refer to your tea as something else, since the traditional definition of nightcap refers to an alcoholic
beverage of some sort.

[Doodley]

11. Take heart that Trump hasn't been able to unleash all he wants.

The courts, the media, the protests, the polls have all moderated what he has been able to do so far. If Trump's polling numbers continue to slide, he may move away from the right. I rate Trump's win as the second worst thing that has happened in my life, but soon the polls will show more than 50% disapprove of his performance. That gives some comfort. The scandals, such as news about Flynn gives comfort.

If Trump becomes much more unpopular, we will see Republican lawmakers peeling away from him. He hasn't been able to get away with the travel ban. It doesn't look like they are going to easily repeal Obamacare. Things are heading in the wrong direction for him. They will get worse. These are things to give us hope. We have to move on from the doom and focus on hope.

[manicraven]

33. Yes! The obstacles to DJT's agenda give a bit of hope and peace, too, though I'm still guarded.

Really, though, I have had some moments of elation that I wasn't expecting to have after the election, but the Women's March, for example, lifted my spirits tremendously. It was amazing and wonderful and powerful. When I watched video clips of people in France, Germany, England, Australia, Kenya, and all over the world rallying with us, I felt encouraged and stronger.

I won't be truly at peace, though, until DJT and his accomplices are out of office, and I'm extremely worried about the GOP's plans to undermine the social safety net.

[Grammy23]

12. Hang on. Don't let the despair consume you.

I was so sad and upset after the election. So deeply let down by the turn of events. Every indicator showed that Hillary was poised to win. Then she didn't. They told us the polls were ALL wrong. I have never bought that for one minute. These were professional pollsters who dedicate their lives to statistics, polling and collecting data. The idea that ALL if them were wrong just doesn't fly with me.

Now we are starting to hear that the Russians interfered with our election with the express purpose of making sure tRump won. Michael Flynn was communicating with them for months before Election Day. Who else was involved remains to be seen. But now there is talk about collusion between Russia and the trump campaign. The word treason is even being used by some.

The calls were monitored (between Flynn and the Russians) so tbe details of who knew what and when did they know it is probably already known and contained in the tape recordings of those calls. So hang on. There may be help coming soon. It will be a big hairy deal if this mess breaks wide open, but lancing the boil that has infected the White House is necessary to heal what has gone wrong.

[Blue_true]

62. Pollsters have and ARE having a very difficult time

Polling people whose only phone service is a mobile phone, pollsters are simply missing this now massive category of Americans. And cell service as the only phone service will become more common. Initially, we were undercounted in polls relative to the right because the right used landlines more, in the last eight years, cell use has evened out. There are still more of us, but when people like long laid off factory workers and their now voting age kids that witnessed their parent's struggles first hand and now can vote, take the words of a conman over a woman that could have truly helped them with jobs, our advantage gets neutralized and as Trump, with his lies, showed us, we can get beaten.

We are also weakened by some that claim to believe as we believe. I read a national news feed earlier today where a group is proposing that Bernie Sanders form his own party, the group wants to field local candidates and a Presidential candidate in 2020. The group is either a collection of republican ratfuckers or are seriously misdirected. The best course of action would be to get involved with local democratic groups and use their energy to influence who gets backed in local and state elections - anything else only insured continued republican rule, that isn't good for any of us.

[SammyWinstonJack]

13. I'm too angry to cry. I find myself walking around in a fog at times, especially wben out in public

It sucks

I have a granddaughter and a great granddaughter with another on the way, worried about their future.

[meadowlander]

14. No. John Oliver said it best.

Trump is the boss monster. After him we win or level up.

Your daughter is going to grow up in the same world you did. One where horrible shit happens and some people are always assholes but the arc of moral universe bends towards justice.

What made me cry? Pride at seeing all the lawyers and protestors drop everything to rush to the airports to help people and to stand up for our country's values. There's a shit load more of them than I thought there would be or that I've ever seen in my life before.

The right wing is pulling this shit because they're desperate, not because they're the majority. This is one of the last national elections that they possibly could win based on demographic and cultural trends and they pulled out every dirty trick in the book to do it.

[Blue_true]

63. Agree. We are better off forcing change than we are crying.

Turn the tears into activism. People that think the DNC does not represent their views can get on their local DNC and take it over, this crap about supporting a third party that can't win only makes republicans stronger. The national DNC is simply a collection of local DNC groups, gaining local influence insures national influence, without tearing shit up.

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

15. No, I'm more of a rager.

I haven't cried about any of it. I don't feel in despair. I mostly feel frustrated and annoyed with this situation, but I know we're going to make it through because we are tough. It's just not going be pleasant, that's for sure.

I'm a mom raising two boys right now. My youngest is too young to comprehend anything that is going on. My oldest boy is in high school and I've talked to him lots of times about the situation with women in this country. I tell him he needs to stand up for women and their rights because it affects him too. I also have explained to him about the privilege he has being a white male in this country. He can use it for good. Anyhow, just letting you know that despite what you hear from the Trump admin, lots of us are trying to raise boys to have respect for women. Just because you see this ugliness now, doesn't mean that is going to be the future of this country. I actually think this is the death throes of old, stupid ways of thinking. This conservative shit will end eventually simply because the majority of people overwhelming hate it.

[democratisphere]

16. I sputter, bitch and swear outloud everytime I'm reminded he is the illegitimate president.

It is damn depressing.

[ismnotwasm]

17. No

But I get sickened and full of righteous rage at the number of sexist, racist asshole bigots who either wanted it to happen or passively made it happen.

[Behind the Aegis]

35. That....and...

All those people who keep telling us to "calm down"! "Stop being so hysterical!" "Nothing has happened that bad." "He may be an asshole, but give him a chance!"

Frankly, those assholes are really making this disaster much, much worse!

[logosoco]

18. First of all...{{{{hugs}}}}

The night of the election was when I really cried from the pain of it,since then it has just been very sore!

I am very open and honest with my grandsons (ages 9 and 7) about how I feel about the president. I think it gives them a sense that they can question the actions of a grown up by using common sense and caring. It's like I am telling them that some people have to be in charge but they can't do it by being bullies or not understanding how the basic rules work.

We still do have too much sexism in this world, but it does seem like a lot less than when I was younger (I am 52). My sister and I were raised by a single mother in the 60s which was not very common and I could see a difference then that I don't see as much now. So there has been some recent improvement even within my lifetime. I like to think that your daughter and my grandson's generation will keep this trajectory going. tRump's BS is NOT going to stop us. We are just waylaid as the last of the old types have a last hurrah.

We do need to stay connected, and the internet has made us more of a collective than in the past. Hearing each other and reaching out.

Take care of yourself so you can be the best for your daughter! She will grow through these years and make progress, and SO WILL WE!!!

[Glamrock]

19. Just twice.....

The first time was watching Michael Moore's "Where To Invade Next". I did get a little overwhelmed seeing what goes on in Europe. The second time was after a talk with my mom. I've been wanting to write a post about it, but I'm just not ready. That one was devastating. Other than that, I've been a combination of pissed and smug. But hey, we're all in this together. And you got people to talk you through it. Here at least. Hugs and good thoughts mama.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

21. No, but I'm mad as hell

and horrified that so many people in this country are damn fools.

[Jim Beard]

22. I was just depressed for about a month. I am retired and found a 19 season

British murder mystery series and watched all of it. Lots of episodes and long ones.

Now, I would never though I would be watching so much AFTER the election. I really enjoy watching Trump screw up and more and more they are revealing they wanted to make a lot of money off their positions.

CNN seems to be taking Jon Stewarts place in finding old video clips of Washington people that claims that they are telling a lie now.

[toddwv]

23. Not really.

But TBH, my grim situation looks grimmer on many levels the longer the GOP is in power.

[akbacchus_BC]

24. I was sick to my stomach on election night and could not believe that

Mrs. Clinton was not elected. Since then, I am still sick to my stomach that a man baby got elected and I keep asking myself, what were you Americans thinking when you voted for that asshole. Not the Democrats, just the assholes who voted for that clown. I hope SNL keeps at him until he gets ballistic and resign. Draining the swamp my ass, he is filling the swamp with his nominations. How on earth his supporters are not getting angry is beyond me.

[unitedwethrive]

25. Yes, but I've stopped arguing with the deplorables.

I figure that time will show them what we already know.

[Blue_true]

64. I have noticed that deplorables are starting to thin

Out. I even see some posting in confoundment now and know from their posts that they voted for Trump.

Instead of being sad and losing sleep, we should instead be organizing and preparing for any election that comes up between now and 2022, when we should become dominant in a way that can't be overcome, even with gerrymandering.

[True Dough]

27. Just shocked

Still! Whenever that moron is on TV addressing the nation with his 77 "best words," I have to shake my head. The contrast with Obama is so stark. And the narcissism! He is tough to take.

[butdiduvote]

28. I'm actually surprised at the number of no's.

I've cried practically every night since the election, like full-on ugly crying for a half hour or longer.

...I need help.

[Hortensis]

38. Yes, Butdiduvote. Our son too. Our DIL reports

his anger is so strong sometimes that it worries her. I've done almost no crying, but I wake up worrying and unable to get back to sleep virtually every night since the election, These are worrisome times, and we'll only be able to relax once we've pulled through.

That said, please do take care of yourself by talking about this with a doctor. I'm also trying to get our son and DIL to join or form a political action group with a few of their friends. As Manicraven said above, joining others and feeling you are doing something, that you are not helpless, helps tremendously. I know, just need more of those fixes than I'm getting living in an intensely conservative rural area.

In any case, thousands of Indivisible groups have sprung up around the nation. Maybe plug your zip code in here just to see if any of these new action groups are meeting near you?

GROUPS TAKING INDIVISIBLE ACTION
https://www.indivisibleguide.com/local-action-groups/

[gordianot]

29. No I maintain my seething hatred for Trump voting relatives.

They know my position and lines not to be crossed.

[Initech]

30. No I've been seething with rage.

I'm angry that a minority group of militant white supremacists led by Richard Spencer and Milo Yiannopolous hijacked our country. As I've been saying since the election, we went from "hope and change" to "go fuck yourself". I'm angry that foreign influence was allowed to infiltrate our country and elect a dangerous mad man. I'm angry that the minority party regained the majority and now thinks they're above the law and above the constitution. I'm angry that our government is about to be auctioned off to the highest bidder. I'm not crying, I'm pissed off. And every day makes me angrier and angrier.

[Dave Starsky]

31. I have successfully transitioned through shock and denial.

Now I'm firmly in rage mode, and I'm happy to say this will persist until this ass clown and his team of incompetents are removed from office by hook or by crook.

If it makes you feel better, this cackle of jackasses has motivated the American people like nobody I've ever seen before. I've started to experience occasional tiny flashes of hope that we might actually see some positive change in this country after this orange Godzilla is done with his rampage.

[irisblue]

32. I have sleep problems.

[JI7]

34. no, i have become more angry at those who supported him and those that attacked Clinton

including those who claim to be on the left but said stupid shit about lesser of two evils or their fucked up conscience couldn't vote for her and other shit.

[BadgerMom]

36. Yes

Every so often I've cried. For instance, two weeks ago as the first TROs were issued but people still were not released and members of Congress were dismissed, I cried. This week, with the judicial victory, I've been better. When the punches come hard and fast I'm vulnerable, though.

But I've also had moments of rage. Most recently I was apoplectic over the treatment of Senator Warren by the dismissive old white Southern men of the Senate. What a bunch of… I won't go there because Elizabeth Warren didn't. She held it together and read Mrs. King's letter outside the chamber. Misogyny engenders feelings of powerlessness and extreme anger in me. I'm still trying to learn not to react with rage and frustration. I know I must persist.

I do find myself hypnotized by breaking news. It feels as if so much occurs so frequently I can't take my eyes from my phone for 10 minutes without missing something important. For my well-being I'm forcing some breaks from it.

This week has had a few brighter moments, although I know we have a long struggle ahead. I feel I've sensed the darkness gathering for a while now. It's here. The rest of my life I must work, resist and shine light. I should have been doing more of that my entire life. That is the silver lining now. So many of us are energized. We have to hold each other up and fight on. Your daughter won't face a world that bleak. We will resist.

[manicraven]

37. I'm all over the board, sometimes sad, other times angry, and occasionally even joyous.

Yes, we learned that millions of people voted for a terrible person for varying reasons and put our nation and the world at risk. It seems overwhelming and terrifying at times, but we also learned that there are millions of us and we're unifying and rallying and speaking up. Attorneys, judges, elected reps, agencies, and many more are all taking action and achieving some successes. Did you ever expect this much fight and passion against DJT's cruel agenda? It not only helps obstruct his plans, but it boosts morale for all of us who want to protect our democracy and who believe in the law, ethics, equality, compassion, etc. You're not alone in this journey!

What also helps me is actually doing something, such as donating what little I can afford to Planned Parenthood, buying one of the Zoe bands (money goes to refugees for food, medicine, or even sleeping bags), contributing what I'm able towards the rebuilding of the burned down mosque in Texas, calling or sending emails to representatives and senators, signing petitions, etc. I feel better and stronger emotionally, too, when I'm taking action. I obviously cannot personally stop DJT from causing havoc and upset, even sleepless nights, but he can't take away my right to reject him and his goals or to pursue compassion and help people and strive for the best in myself. I like being in opposition to his hate, bullying, pathological lying, and wicked agenda!

http://www.getazoeband.com/

Here's a bit about the Zoe Bands (in case you haven't seen anything about them):

Zoë Bands are handmade uni-sex bracelets made from the life vests refugees wear on their dangerous journey into Lesvos, Greece.

All profit goes towards providing refugees with critical resources like food, clothing and medical supplies.

[threethirteen]

40. Almost every day.

I think about the advice my therapist gave me when greif is overwhelming. Treat grief like a book, pull it out acknowledge it, feel it, then close the book and put it back on the shelf.

[jmg257]

41. Like most thing, this too shall pass. It will NOT be ok for your daughter

To be grabbed.

His supporters will always be the minority...ever shrinking, till they too diminish and pass.

Buck up and resist.

[KingCharlemagne]

42. Now that Trump has openly declared a war on workers (immigrants), I

find I'm having trouble sleeping normal hours.

[BlueStater]

43. I've been reacting more with rage than with sadness.

I'll never get over the fact that 63 million Americans were stupid enough to let this happen. I gave the citizens of this country way too much credit. That's a mistake I'll never make again.

[braddy]

44. A little hope--Crosby Stills & Nash - Helplessly Hoping

[calendargirl]

51. I'd be more likely to cry

--just having to listen to CSandN

[nikibatts]

45. I really feel you.

[Squinch]

46. Today, with DeVos taking down the IDEA information from the Department of Ed website,

I am feeling such rage that I could cry.

[NCTraveler]

47. The same way you were going to tell her before Trump was elected.

"I don't know how to tell her that she is going to grow up in a world fueled by sexism and misogyny."

"A world where it's okay for men to "grab her by the pussy" when she gets older."

That is not ok. It's called assault. It's illegal today and was illegal before Trump was elected.

"I thought we lived in a progressive country."

We live in a country that is progressing in a positive direction. Not a progressive country. We are fighting every day to make it a more progressive country.

[greytdemocrat]

48. Take heart!

Resistance is NOT futile!!

[sinkingfeeling]

49. Yes.

[calendargirl]

50. Only twice

Once when I watched Shirley MacLaine screaming in the hospital in Terms of Endearment on cable, and again when my son received an acceptance letter from Harvard.
Otherwise, I think I am capable of holding it together.

[mercuryblues]

52. No, I make other people cry

then I mock them. As a matter of fact, It is time to send another text....

[BannonsLiver]

55. Nope

Because to do that let's them inside my head and if I cry, it means they've won. I wouldn't give these low lifes the satisfaction of making me cry.

*individual results may vary.

[Lint Head]

56. I'm angry as hell that bigoted bastards have taken

a big dump on the Constitution, infected the White House with a racist fungal disease, and conspired with a murdering authoritarian dictator to take over our precious country. American soldiers have died to keep fascism from our shores. Recent events have convinced me that I would be willing to die for my country in my country. I often wonder if more people feel that way.

[Vinca]

57. Only once during the SNL tribute to Obama. "To Sir With Love."

How could we have gone from such a great man to such a total fool?

[Blue_true]

58. Locate and get involved with your local Democratic Committee.

Some have party owned buildings, some meet in people's houses. Help in the process of identifying good potential local candidates.

[hack89]

59. No. Life still goes on

And there are still many good things in my life.

[trueblue2007]

61. i do too.

[Maru Kitteh]

66. The people affected most by this election will be dead, disabled, hospitalized, homeless,

deported and languishing in refugee camps.

I'm thinking a box of chocolates and some safety pins sounds awfully goddamned mean and useless.