Dear Abby: Mrs pothead letter (Wow, just wow)

[Bennyboy]

Dear Abby: Pot-smoking husband lives in haze of youthful memories
Dear Abby

Dear Abby: My husband, who is 53, talks often about his college days when he smoked marijuana. I tried it once and didn't like it. Over the past several years he has started smoking it again.

I have told him I don't approve, but he says he does it only occasionally "to take the edge off." Many times he has smoked when we're out on bike rides, on road trips or a Sunday drive. It makes me feel like he needs to be high in order to have a good time with me.

I tried compromising by asking him not to do it when we are together. He agreed, but he doesn't keep his word. He does it thinking I don't know what he's up to.

I have noticed that he is becoming forgetful and is sometimes unable to understand information. Is this a midlife crisis he's going through? How do I get him to stop?

Mrs. Pothead In Winona, Minn.

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http://www.eagletribune.com/lifestyle/x1483808301/Dear-Abby-Pot-smoking-husband-lives-in-haze-of-youthful-memories

[Warpy]

1. Worst advice ever

The guy in that scenario is self medicating for something. He needs to go to a doctor to find out what.

However, yeah, he shouldn't be toking up and driving. He needs to turn the driving over to her if he feels the need to burn one.

Nothing is going to help until and unless they find out what the underlying problem is. It's likely not nostalgia run amok and it sure as hell isn't addiction.

[Voice for Peace]

6. if he goes to a doctor he should go to a pot doctor

because if pot's satisfying some need he has, maybe
that's the way to go, just with some medical & therapeutic
support. Too many doctors would give him bad advice
as well. Abby should smoke some pot, too.

[Warpy]

8. Pot is not a cureall

and might be masking something that is very treatable.

You're just as off base as Abby is.

[Voice for Peace]

9. no, I'm not off base, please don't do that.

I'm a medical mj patient myself; I went to many doctors, for years,
who said this is wrong with you, that's wrong with you.

I had many different diagnoses, and was prescribed all sorts
of things that either made my conditions worse or did nothing.

Not only physically/psychologically chaotic, but it contributed to
a sense of hopelessness that I'd ever feel well again. Nobody
in the medical profession seemed able to help, or even seemed
to know what they were talking about.

Through those years I had a strong craving for mj at times, which
was, to me, peculiar, as it felt physiological, the way hunger
or thirst does. Rather than see this as a drug problem, or a
sign of being some kind of addict, I started looking at the craving
as information, something my body was telling me it needed.

I'm still exploring what works for me, using it medicinally --
not as a cure-all, but part of a whole picture, as I keep learning.
There are many like me, and as you know, tons of research re
medical benefits.

The man in the OP is self-medicating for something. A good
"pot doctor" (as I called it) would not simply prescribe pot --
but would be able to help the guy discern what his pot use was
about, & whether there were other underlying medical problems --
and guide him toward using pot in a beneficial way (if he continued
using it) -- and in addition help him educate his wife. I don't
think most doctors would look at or understand the whole
picture.

Locally someone told me he knows a probation officer who
helps his clients get signed up for medical pot. His reasoning
is that the person who keeps getting dirty urine is probably
going to keep smoking and shouldn't keep getting busted
for it, because there appears to be a legitimate need for
the pot as medication.

I hope this clarifies what I meant -- if you still think I'm
off base, let's just drop it, as I don't want to debate. I do feel
strongly on the subject for personal reasons. I know people
can and do misuse mj, and some people are better off without it.
But if people have a big urge in their life for it, as this guy does,
it's worth looking at why?

[orpupilofnature57]

2. Why doesn't she approve , she married a pothead

it sounds like the woman should start smoking and stop bothering Abby.

[Voice for Peace]

3. LOL. this is also very good

http://jezebel.com/5905455/im-a-mom-and-im-stoned-right-now

I’m a Mom and I’m Stoned Right Now

I wanted to get my husband to watch our daughter so I could get stoned and pound out this essay about being a mom who smokes pot. But when I stepped back into our apartment after smoking about half a bowl of something called "purple train wreck" out on the terrace, I knew I'd never be able to get any work done with this cute ass baby around to distract me. In the middle of playing some totally vacant, rule-less game that involved pretending to chew stuff, making growling noises, and giggling, I realized that she's like the funniest fucking person I've ever met. Anybody who thinks that weed makes parents ignore their children has clearly never been high around one. (much more at link)

[Bennyboy]

4. That is great....

But, I am still thinking about the Dragnet episode where the kid drowns.

[1-Old-Man]

5. Yeah, and that guy who bit the top off a coke bottle and raped the girl too ...

Bawahahahahaha

[Sans__Culottes]

7. You get drug information from Dragnet?

BTW, Jack Webb was a conservative and frequently got drunk and beat Julie London.

He was fond of jazz, though.

[onethatcares]

10. I guess that as long

as he isn't chewing her face off, things are ok.


Now, just keep him away from the bath salts.