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[JustAnotherGen]

1. You did fine

It's not 1981 anymore. Back then - when the n8lover to my mom and that other nonsense you mentioned came up - my dad told me to march right back down the street and bloody that kids nose.

Seriously - these days an 8 year old little girl would go to prison for life if she bloodied the nose of a boy two years and two heads taller than her.

BTW - that 'little boy' is now married to a black woman and still lives in the development!

[TEB]

8. I like how your dad thinks

[JustAnotherGen]

9. He was great

My parents got married in 1969 - met in 1967. Got stationed at Fort Knox! Ohhh Kentucky Mixed Race couple - no Bueno.

[democrank]

2. Sorry this happened to your boy

but I know you'll figure out a way to help him through it. Your kids are lucky to have a Dad like you.

[Delphinus]

3. This -

yes, quite lucky for a Dad like you.

[SouthernIrish]

4. You handled it well.

Keep pumping up his self esteem and it will take some of the sting out of the hateful words. As the sister of someone bipolar, I would suggest you to get all info you can to help you understand the disease. Your family sounds like my kind of people. You have a very loving ♡ and God Bless you all.

[TEB]

13. Will work it out he is awesome son I have two sunshine now

[WhiskeyGrinder]

5. Are you involved with any adoption/fostering support groups that specialize in transracial

placements? Does your foster son have access to people his age who look like him? Do you have friends who look like him? If not, I encourage you to start working toward those goals. Love is not enough.

[TEB]

6. Yes

Well his caseworker has mentioned groups on foster/ adoption I'll ask about bi racial we went thru foster programs classes for parenting and opened up everything finances background checks it was lengthy process.ill ask his caseworker and yes at school when he starts this year our son told us there is other bi racial children. This is new to us my wife approached me 2 years ago on this. I said sure why not we both work good jobs and have the room thing is he has moved into our other sons room he did not want to sleep alone. And both boys they are extremely close and tight. We our figuring this out as we go along as parents, I remember being in maternity after our surprise son late in life baby boy was born. I was 38 I told this young father with his first born he was nervous. I said man we have three daughters and with children there is no owners manual , love em teach them true tenets of Christ And oh yea don't forget to feed em.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

7. Your big heart will take you far; some education on transracial adoption will take you farther.

[SweetieD]

10. Sounds like you danced around the race issue. Maybe you should get professional help

On how to deal with this sort of thing. Anti black racism is something this kid is going to face his whole life if he is black or half black and looks it. He needs actual tools on how to deal with these kind of racists. Just saying we all experience prejudice isn't going to help him. He is obviously already surrounded by people who don't look like him and probably already thinks blacks are bad and whites are good.

[lunatica]

11. You don't need to protect him from racists'

All you need is to love him and explain that racists exist and that they just happen to be the scum of the earth. As long as he knows you and his new brother have his back he won't need for anything else. And be open to discusing this issue many times and in depth.

It won't hurt to make friends with some Black people to learn their perspective. He is Black and should be taught to be proud of that.