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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI am losing my memory.
I can't drive anywhere because I get lost and that panics me. I make lists and keep a big calendar where everything gets written down as to my drs. appointments. My kids are going to have to plan our downsizing and the sale of my house and our move to assisted living. The very thought of such a huge undertaking is daunting to say the least.
We do have a house cleaner who also does my grocery shopping and I depend greatly on her. My husband is recovering from back surgery and at present can only drive a few blocks but not to dr.'s appts. So I call a cab or get someone to take me. I have a lot of caring and concerned neighbors. I have to help my husband with his bathing and I am making meals. Today I forgot to get him his breakfast.
I'm having an ultrasound next week to determine whether I have a fatty liver. I have stopped drinking alcohol as that could be causing the problems with my liver.
So I am reaching out to you folks. If I am not making sense in my posts, please understand. My hands shake so much that it is hard for me even to type. I depend on my DU folks for online friendship. I'm having difficulty understanding what is happening in the world of politics and you are all so helpful.
Thank you all.
spanone
(135,816 posts)LisaM
(27,800 posts)Other than a break I took after the 2008 election, I have been on DU for a long time - since 2001 - and some people here seem like second family.
I admire that you reached out and that you are taking steps to help yourself where possible and I wish you all the best.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)demmiblue
(36,838 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)and posted here from 2014 to 2016. The books is going to be called "Immanent Truth" and many of you have requested a copy. I will have as many copies as I can afford and I am keeping your requests. The book will be free.
Tanuki
(14,918 posts)and mailing it, not to mention fair compensation for producing something of value that I would enjoy!
Have you thought of having your husband's physician order home health services to help with his bathing, etc.? Also please explore public transportation for the disabled. Many communities have a van or other options but often people are unaware of it.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Hubby's home health aide was "timed out." It was good while we had him.
I will ask about public transportation for the disabled. Also Uber.
monmouth4
(9,694 posts)PufPuf23
(8,764 posts)Glad that you have a good and caring support system.
I am working towards an exit strategy for my home because I need a place smaller and close to civilization.
My move time is not as immediate. Several mornings ago I struggled to remember the word "wheel barrow".
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,500 posts).
catbyte
(34,367 posts)MuseRider
(34,104 posts)like this for years due to a seizure disorder that is now in control but he has little memory and loses his way now and then. I am so sorry to hear you are going through something like this yourself with your husband to take care of as well. I hope you are relieved soon to know at least what is happening to you and I hope you can find someone to help you a little more at the moment. It is hard enough when you are not ill yourself. Thinking of you. We will forgive just about anything so never mind just keep in touch with us. We will work it out. Be well and content that you are certainly among friends here.
renate
(13,776 posts)I'm glad you have help from your kids, neighbors, and house cleaner. It's such a tough transition from complete independence to relying on help from others, but thank goodness that help is there for you. Many many hugs to you.
hlthe2b
(102,205 posts)Finding out what the cause may be--no matter how difficult, is clearly the first to tackle. Then you can do the things possible to address or treat it. Telling you to try to stay calm and not focus on the "worst" you can possibly imagine might seem like asking the impossible, but I hope you can try. There may be a LOT of medical explanations for what you are experiencing and many are readily managed/treated.
I know everyone of your DU family will watch for your posts and updates as we send you the very best of wishes.
to you every hour of every day!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Solly Mack
(90,762 posts)DoBotherMe
(2,339 posts)enough
(13,256 posts)Are your children aware of the seriousness of your difficulties?
Thinking of you CTyankee, and hoping you find your way through this to a place of calm for you and your husband.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)I talked with my son today and he is in charge of planning all this. I have great kids. I know they'll help and do anything they can.
StevieM
(10,500 posts)I am proud to be part of your DU family. And I will be happy to help as much as I can with your online experience.
grantcart
(53,061 posts)Write it down and put it on the wall.
"My friends at DU love me".
annabanana
(52,791 posts)bdamomma
(63,836 posts)Write down that your DU friends are here to support you.
ms liberty
(8,572 posts)flying rabbit
(4,632 posts)LibraLiz1973
(8,197 posts)Print out some of these messages <3
barbtries
(28,787 posts)I hope that your transition to assisted living will be a godsend and make your life so much less stressful than it clearly is right now.
by the way i didn't catch a single typo in your post.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)typos and the meaning of what I was trying to say.
barbtries
(28,787 posts)do it all the time, and i still sometimes go back and read what i wrote and realize i forgot to put in a word or used the wrong spelling or whatever.
i'm glad you have our community during this time. please be well and try to relax as much as possible.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)barbtries
(28,787 posts)there are legions of us
japple
(9,819 posts)are everywhere. Don't mean to make light of your situation, but you seem to be moving in the right direction, with the aid of family, friends, and others. You are taking the steps that everyone will need to make, at some point in their lives, and you seem to be perfectly on top of it all.
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)Things like insufficent magnesium levels can (i've read) exacerbate memory issues.
i think low Vitamin D can be an issue as well.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Iwasthere
(3,158 posts)As we get older we tend to back off water intake when we need more! Tons of study's lately that ate showing widespread over diagnosis of Alziemers, when in fact it turned out to ne dehydration.
Drink at the very least a gallon a day. Good water with a pH level of 8 or so, that has a natural silica content.
B12 too.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)I've never liked water. But I bought a Brita filtered water pitcher & have started drinking the cool, filtered water.
My body seems to need it more, now?
Demsrule86
(68,539 posts)high blood sugar does it. Best wishes.
oasis
(49,370 posts)are blessed in that regard. I hope both of you receive all the care and patience you need.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)CousinIT
(9,238 posts)...and go easy on yourself too. This must be really frightening for you.
I'm bookmarking this so as to remain aware.
Never be afraid to ask here for help, reminders, explanations. Over and over again if need be. I think DUers would understand and help as much as they can.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,975 posts)Second, my husband, who is the other half of me, has MS and is also struggling with some memory issues. It scares him, as it must scare you. I think you have good people around you, and a lot of people here respect and admire you.
For what's it's worth, I understand.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)Never be afraid to come here to DU to express your fears or thoughts. We will stand with you through thick and thin, and will not judge you for any changes or confusion.
I hope you are being checked out for more than your liver. There are some meds that might help.
Surround yourself in your family's love and help.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)They are all kind and understanding.
eleny
(46,166 posts)You're doing a great job communicating.
I'm so sorry this is happening. Thank goodness you have kids and neighbors who have your back. It will all work out with your house and the move. A lot will be taken off your shoulders so you can concentrate on day to day life with your dear hubby.
..... .....
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Another friend is going to pick hubby up for some down time and a local watering hole. I asked him to talk about his issues and to persuade him to start getting on the stick with the prep to selling the house.
eleny
(46,166 posts)Sometimes I tell myself that I can deal with anything for a day or an hour or even a minute at a time. Just breaking it down to what I can cope with. And with the help you have, like your neighbor, it will work out.
I so looked forward to each of your artful postings. You're a joy, dear CTyankee.
Leith
(7,808 posts)Online friends are the only reason I got through it.
It sounds like you are handling it the best you can by making lists to help you do what you need to do. Your family, friends, and neighbors are helping you out, too. It's terrific that you have that support.
Whenever you need to chat or tell your troubles to someone, there will always be somebody on DU to listen. Please don't ever feel like you are burdening anyone here because you're not.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Leith
(7,808 posts)I can't fully understand your situation because for me it was severe depression made worse by circumstances that could improve. When it was obvious that it would not improve, I still had the option of leaving the situation behind (which I did).
I wish with all my heart that your situation does not get worse. I enjoy reading your posts and there has never been a hint of an issue with memory trouble that I have seen.
Your friends on DU are here for you.
Take care!
calimary
(81,195 posts)Much love & empathy & good vibes to you, my friend. My husband and I are getting up there ourselves.
Getting old is definitely NOT for the faint-hearted! You do not struggle or face this alone.
And btw, your writing still looks great and totally coherent to me!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)irisblue
(32,961 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)femmocrat
(28,394 posts)I always loved your art history posts. I do hope your daughter gets them published.
You are beloved at DU and have many online friends here. Please keep us updated on your progress, even if you make some typos! We just want to hear from you.
Love and prayers.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)gademocrat7
(10,654 posts)You are supported by many here. We are with you.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)niyad
(113,232 posts)whatever your DU family can do to help, know we are here for you.
PJMcK
(22,025 posts)Your posts are a large part of this community. Take good care and good luck!
suffragette
(12,232 posts)We are here for you.
One challenging aspect to memory conditions that isn't discussed as much is having fun. We all need to and it's especially important to be able to relax in a stress free environment when there are so many additional stressors in daily life.
In the 90s, a man in the Netherlands started holding Alzheimer or Memory cafes. They are gathering places for people with memory issues and their partners or care givers. They are held anywhere from cafes to churches to museums and provide a nice space to socialize with others who understand the issues you are facing.
They have become so popular that they are in many cities now.
Here's some info about these:
http://www.memorycafedirectory.com/what-is-a-memory-cafe/
Here's a directory for the Northeast:
http://alzlive.com/resources/community/memory-cafes-northeast/
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Maybe one could be started in AL...
suffragette
(12,232 posts)Info here:
https://www.moma.org/momaorg/shared/pdfs/docs/learn/GuideforMuseums.pdf
Sometimes these are listed under Alzheimer's resources, as with MOMA, but can be helpful for anyone with memory issues and their partners, too.
This might be a way to combine your interests, by having an art aspect and being around others who share that passion.
shraby
(21,946 posts)pnwmom
(108,973 posts)nolabear
(41,959 posts)It's important. But I know nothing is perfect and I'm glad you're here. Stay. It might be good for you and you're certainly good for DU. ❤️
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Coventina
(27,093 posts)HeartachesNhangovers
(814 posts)issues), but try to stay as physically and mentally active as you can. I just spent a week with my in-laws and they both have physical problems (COPD and Lupus) and unfortunately, they have turned into TV couch potatoes. If they didn't have grandkids in the area, they probably would never leave the house, and the grandkids are getting to that age (some are college-entry age) where they will be around less and less.
I'm recently retired and I have to keep on myself to work on my hobbies, find new hobbies, really try to get better and better at something.
Good luck!
A-Schwarzenegger
(15,596 posts)KitSileya
(4,035 posts)From someone who really appreciated your art posts, even if I seldom posted in them.
lunamagica
(9,967 posts)Fla Dem
(23,637 posts)Your difficulties now are breaking my heart. I wish only the best for your and your husband, may you both have many happy and peaceful years ahead.
Achilleaze
(15,543 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I would suggest is finding a specialist in geriatric psychiatry- they are brilliant at coping with whatever ails the aged brain. They help a great deal with resources and strategies and involve the family and it caregivers to make sure there's an auditing, in a sense or management of treatment. I would not have survived my Mom's Alzheimer's years without their help.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)As so many memory issues are difficult to diagnose. They're very very thorough and helpful. It's radically different than traditional medicine as they include help planning and involve the family to whatever extent they can. I'll Kew a good thought for you.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)It's a certification that should be searchable in your insurance company's listings of providers.
livetohike
(22,133 posts)loving thoughts to you. Looking forward to you posting for a long, long time!
Phentex
(16,334 posts)we are here for you.
kwassa
(23,340 posts)who has Lewy Bodies dementia that seems to randomly affect memories throughout her life, not necessarily just the recent ones. This condition has also affected her balance and appetite. She is sometimes completely lucid and at other times quite confused.
The only lesson I can draw from my experience is that you will need someone close to support you in the ways you need it at all times. You may be a temporary burden on your children, but that is o.k. . As someone else mentioned, get exercise, and exercise your mind as well; keep doing as much as you can. Stay active.
I have greatly enjoyed your art history threads as well, speaking as an art teacher. Continue that, too, if you can!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Warpy
(111,237 posts)and little has shown up in your posts. I'm hoping this is something that can be fixed, it sounds like a horrifying process.
I get the "where the hell am i?" from time to time because I have trouble reading street signs and business landmarks are disappearing as they go under. It is a horrible feeling.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)As to fixing it, Ii don't know what else can be done. Perhaps I'll hear something encouraging...
Hekate
(90,633 posts)I'm glad for you that you and your husband have grown kids, kind neighbors, and a good support system. I hope you settle in to your new digs soon.
As for that book -- I trust your daughter is checking your PMs here to collect the names of those of us who would treasure it. If she doesn't have your DU password yet, please be sure she gets it very soon. I'm going to post my IRL info there now.
With love and hugs,
Hekate
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)GreenPartyVoter
(72,377 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Eliot Rosewater
(31,109 posts)Ms. Toad
(34,059 posts)I don't know whether it is better to recognize that you are losing your memory or not (my spouse's situation).
It sounds like you have good coping strategies. One suggestion that worked for my spouse for driving is a GPS system. She kept getting lost - usually because she remembered the old location of someplace. I bought a GPS system using the excuse that I wanted a new toy (since she was oblivious & would have refused any suggestion she needed it). But once it was in the car she quickly started using it. If you don't have one already, that might help.
She uses sticky notes all over the place - she still loses track of appointments, but having sticky notes on her steering wheel, her desk, the door into the garage, etc. seems to help.
Cirrhois can cause hepatic encephalopathy (a fancy word for liver-induced brain fog). If you have cirrhosis from your fatty liver you may be able to improve some. (My SIL had hepatic encephalopathy from cirrhosis due to Hep C, and is back to normal now by taking good care of her liver.)
Good luck!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)use it and, of course, I don't drive anymore.
Ms. Toad
(34,059 posts)and using it was pretty straightforward. (Part of what I looked at when I bought it. At that stage I didn't know how quickly or slowly things might progress, so I wanted the simplest possible system.)
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)BainsBane
(53,029 posts)That must be frightening.
democrank
(11,092 posts)Stay as strong as you can. We're here for you.
JHan
(10,173 posts)I'm glad you have support around you,
hang in there.
Lots of hugs in this thread, and I'll add one more
Freethinker65
(10,009 posts)I ask because my mother had many of the same issues while caring for my father and the entire family home by herself.
They both ended up moving across the country to be with my sister. The downsizing and move did not solve all of the problems. My sister works full time in a professional stressful field, and my Mom tried to keep up caring for my dad 24/7. Mom became more jittery, run down, and forgetful. When I came for a visit I made her sleep in the spare room and I attended to my dad's needs. Within a few days we all noticed a considerable change for the better in Mom (and I can personally attest to a cognitive function decline from lack of sleep that week!). They ended up paying for in home care several hours/week and my father eventually ended up with hospice (truly life changing for our family) care.
Both my mother and father had professional cognitive assessments which were also very helpful in determining what options were best for our specific situation.
I am so sorry you are going through all of this, but I am so amazed and admire your openness and courage in facing it. Sharing what you are going through may help someone else out there suffering alone with similar problems.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)A million hugs to you my DU sister!
Tarheel_Dem
(31,232 posts)you have an involved family and circle of friends. Take good care of yourself and hubby.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)someone in an online environment is that you cannot give them a hug and a shoulder when they're in real life distress.
Please know that many, many people have you in their thoughts and care deeply about you, even across this electronic gulf.
The list of people who have made DU suck over the years is long, while the list of those who made it great is much shorter. Be assured you're on that second list.
Javaman
(62,510 posts)hang in there.
We are all here to help.
iamateacher
(1,089 posts)From a health care agency like Senior Helpers (my son worked for them), Home Instead, Visiting Angels, etc. They are all national firms. They can drive you places, cook, do light housework, help you pack, and most places will let you have someone for a few hours a day or a few hours a week. It is temporary, you can stop when you need to.
Drahthaardogs
(6,843 posts)May they find a cure.
malaise
(268,885 posts)Get fresh rosmary - infuse, add a lil fresh mint and sip like tea.
CountAllVotes
(20,868 posts)That would improve things dramatically no doubt!
Hang-in there ... you are tough CTYankee!
DFW
(54,335 posts)Your memory might be shaky, but our friendship never will be.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,661 posts)Botany
(70,483 posts)I wish you well and that you get to see more joy in this world.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)malaise
(268,885 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)malaise
(268,885 posts)You have nothing to lose
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-33519453
MLAA
(17,274 posts)No Vested Interest
(5,165 posts)I'll have them more pronounced than at present, when names and words are my sometimes problems. My mother was memory-impaired at my age, so there's no reason to believe I'll not have the same difficulty in the future.
A post here on DU last week asked "who was the oldest geezer" on DU. I believe I was that one, though I deleted my post, as I said I would, because I believe many of the younger folk, not just on DU but in general, tend to disregard the thoughts and opinions of us seniors.
You have a very full plate - normal home routines, plus physical care of your husband, plus preparing for a move from a home long lived in. A friend of mine, preparing her move from a two-floor townhouse to a smaller condo, advised me, still in my over-large for me one-floor- "Let your kids do it." I'm beginning to think that is good advice and will happen, regardless of my intention to downsize and not have a yard, which I surely don't need.
It's good to hear from you, and I hope you will continue to keep in touch with us on DU, as we've come to know and welcome your thoughtful posts, including the art history, which was always a delight.
In addition to the good words offered here by others, the only thoughts I'll add are to remind you to be kind and loving to yourself and to know that you are loved by your own family and your family here on DU.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)is another cost I won't have in AL!
You're a sweetie, V!
flamingdem
(39,313 posts)for this honest explanation you have shared and also for your knowledge about the arts. I imagine that your long term memory is still very much intact and that you can enjoy beauty in all of its forms.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)and they are still in my memory.
justhanginon
(3,289 posts)and I would hope that your memory of that caring does not ever fade.
Many of us remember reading and looking at your excellent art essays and always looking forward to the next one. You have brought happiness and knowledge to so many and that is quite a legacy. I wish you well and do not worry about tipos. I mean tpyos, oh hell, you know what I mean. ))
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)redstatebluegirl
(12,265 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)I know what you are experiencing is scary.
Remember that you don't have to be perfect. In fact, you don't have to be anything but yourself. People will understand any slips more than you think they will. Don't be too hard on yourself...all you can do is the best you can.
I have been reading this forum for awhile now, but posting only recently. I can tell you that people here will provide some good support. Also, don't be afraid to depend on others in your real life.
Everything is going to be alright. I'll say it again...you don't have to be perfect.
Smile often, think of things that give you pleasure, and fight the good fight.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)RKP5637
(67,102 posts)best for you. I always enjoy your postings. Always know all of DU is with you!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,382 posts)It's hard enough to have a husband needing your help, but to know you are losing the ability to help makes it especially painful.
My husband has recently been diagnosed with the second most common form of dementia, Lewy Body Dementia. It's been
described as Alzheimer's meets Parkinsons. Symptoms of both, yet not fully either one. Comes and goes. Very difficult to diagnose
as it's essentially defined by a constellation of symptoms, and only finally diagnosed on autopsy, as there is no definitive "test"--
like blood or MRI or CAT scan--for it.
I hope you both can make the move to assisted living as soon as possible so that you both have the support you need. Just knowing
that there will be help for your husband is bound to reduce the stress on you.
We are here for you.
Sending you a cyberhug.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)in my. It's good to cyber chat with friends...
sheshe2
(83,728 posts)I know something about that.
Please just take a deep breath...breathe. We are here for you, CT. This place is open at all hours if you need us.
Huge hugs to you and yours.
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)functionality...very possible. I wish you the best and am grateful you have friends and fam to help you. It's okay to need, ask for, and accept help. Hugs.
Me.
(35,454 posts)But my most sincere best wishes
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Pathwalker
(6,598 posts)of your trips, important happenings you've photographed, etc., and put them in a scrapbook along with your memories of those events, while you can still remember them. Then, they will help you recall when your memory fades, as well as providing your family with a precious momento of your life.
I wish you all the best, you represent the very best of DU. And thank you again for Friday Art Class!
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)Squinch
(50,935 posts)SunSeeker
(51,550 posts)maddiemom
(5,106 posts)When my mom was ninety and in her last years in a nursing home, she asked one of her caregivers to post a sign outside her door, apologizing to any one if she didn't recognize them, or seemed out of it when they visited. She really always knew her family and those close to her, but was also largely bedridden due to a neurological disorder diagnosed as M.S. originally (long story). I was struck by your reference to politics because Mom was very interested and active in politics and even greeted and introduced JFK when he came through town campaigning in 1960. One of the things that made me saddest was her loss of interest in politics somewhere after her mid-eighties. You're doing the right thing in assisted living, as long as you have thoroughly vetted your facility. My mom started out in assisted living and there were plenty of activities and transportation available to outside events, taing the worry out of trying to stay as active as possible. This was great for my mom, who was widowed, but there were also more than a few couples. Best of luck to you and your husband!
no_hypocrisy
(46,070 posts)You can start a notebook where you record things you need to remember. At least this works for me.
Simplify your life and even that helps with memory preservation.
I'm rooting for you big time.
N_H
whathehell
(29,065 posts)HipChick
(25,485 posts)I have had to hide my father's car key...
it's been really hard for me to cope...I'm not coping actually
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)To make matters worse, my husband is losing his hearing. I have to practically yell at him just to tell him something.
yuiyoshida
(41,831 posts)And actually smoking weed has helped...however, I think the culpert is my cellphone. As someone once said you are holding to your head a device that emits Radio waves and that can't be good for the Human Brain.
I even forgot my caregivers name today, and that doesn't normally happen but since vaping Weed (legal medical marijuana ) My memory has gotten some what better. Not saying its a cure but it helps.
Edited to note, JuJuYoshida has this condition where her hands shake constantly and she can't even hold a door key to get inside, but since Smoking Medical Marijuana, she has it under control. Again, not saying is a cure but it helps, seriously.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)yuiyoshida
(41,831 posts)whats posted in the CANNABIS Group!!
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1279
As mentioned above, JujuYoshida has a conditions where her hands shake so much she can't even hold her keys to get in the door. The Medical Marijuana has helped her control that. This is in supplement with her normal medications...
JuJuYoshida
(2,215 posts)I suffer from essential tremor meaning I shake for no reason. There is no cure and it will increase with age, much like your memory loss. Some people focus more easily when smoking cannabis so it's definitely something you wanna look into. Yui and I wish you the best of luck!
Patterson
(1,529 posts)needed a pacemaker and had atrial fibrillation. She got those taken care of and she's back to normal. Also ask your doctor and pharmacist to go over your medicine.
elleng
(130,861 posts)So So sorry to hear of this situation. You know we're with you, in Paris or home!
EKG!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)raccoon
(31,109 posts)JonLP24
(29,322 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)That displeases me!
But I AM glad to hear you're not in denial and you've set up a smart plan of action.
It's good to know that DU is full of smart, caring people. You needn't worry about posting here. I know you'll get friendship and whatever advice and help we can give.
An idea for your husband---try writing what you want to tell him? Seems that would be helpful. Gestures also help to make yourself understood.
I'll have to find your art history essays! I'd love to buy a copy of your book too!!!
Should I just pm you?
❤️
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)You can pay for the shipping but the book is free. Let's wait, tho, till I find out if my daughter will be able to continue her efforts at self publishing it...
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)yardwork
(61,588 posts)Your Friday evening art quizzes were a joy to me - literally joy - during a dark time in my life. I will always be grateful to you.
May blessings light your way as you walk this new path on your journey.
Lint Head
(15,064 posts)madaboutharry
(40,203 posts)I have much empathy for you. Hopefully the transition to assisted living will be a little easier than you anticipate.
luvMIdog
(2,533 posts)I was touched by your post. Any of us can end up in the same boat. I hope things go as smoothly as possible for you .
Demsrule86
(68,539 posts)MLAA
(17,274 posts)posts. Sounds like many, many loved them and even more clearly love you!
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)I'll send you links to a few. If you'd like to see more, I could send the other links. What period of European and American paintings would you be most interested in?
MLAA
(17,274 posts)Mc Mike
(9,114 posts)can cause short term memory loss.
sakabatou
(42,146 posts)Having to navigate to new places is a pain, I often get lost. Short term memory is faulty. There may be more problems, but I don't know about them.
cate94
(2,810 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,165 posts)Since you shared info on one of your posts about your situation in this downsizing phase. You are surrounded by so many well-wishers, active supporters, both in tangible life and through the energy currents!
I send you love and best wishes dear CT,
I look forward to your future posts, and I thank you for this one.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)That doesn't make things right, but it helps.
The move might be traumatic, if you've been in your place a long time (I just moved). But realize that things will be better in the end, and you will gradually come to think of the new place as home.
I have a bad memory, too, so I can relate. I don't have a medical condition, as far as I know. Just a bad memory. Always been bad, but as I age, it's getting much worse.
I am beginning to write things down, too. That is a MUST.
I use my gmail electronic calendar on my laptop, which sends me reminders of things. That is so helpful to me, but I have to remember to put the items on the calendar.
I feel for you and hope all goes well. So glad you have kids.
JI7
(89,244 posts)i think keeping the mind stimulated could help.
and in this case you will be doing something you enjoy at the same time.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)of a work from an art heist or new interpretations of older art or perhaps some interesting pentimento having been discovered. I read those eagerly.
Arazi
(6,829 posts)Because of you're great love, here you are.
Loved. Remembered. Cherished.
I hope you always know this great truth til the end of times...
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)We're here for you.
One of the best of us....
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Liberty Belle
(9,533 posts)httphttp://www.webmd.com/diet/features/fortifying-your-memory-with-supplements#1://www.webmd.com/diet/features/fortifying-your-memory-with-supplements#1
I checked multiple sites and the ones with the most promise are ginkbo billoba, followed by omega fatty acids. There are others that may be marginally helpful.
I would absolutely try thee, they are generally safe supplements. Also ask if any medications you are on for other things may cause confusion or memory loss.
HAve your heart checked. A friend suffering memory problems wound up with emergency bypass surgery and afterwords his memory cleared up; turned out he just didn't have enough blood flow to his brain due to clogged arteries.
Don't give up. Many people can have only minor to moderate memory loss for many years.
I've enjoyed your posts here and hope you can stay engaged. It's good that you are recognizing the problem and taking steps to deal with it such as the housekeeping and not driving. Assisted living is a bit step, but sounds like it may be helpful since caring for your husband is a big responsibility when you're having your own health issues.
I've seen both parents and two grandparents go through this to varying degrees. Today with modern medicine the key to everything is do all that you can to stay healthy as long as you can - because there are medical breakthroughs every day. Who knows? A year, or two, or five years from now they may have a cure for memory loss, or several of them.
We all care about you, and are here for you as you go through these difficult times.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)L. Coyote
(51,129 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)L. Coyote
(51,129 posts)Especially true in older homes, where the connection can be pure lead.
I no longer drink unless I know what it really is, i'e., at a restaurant. At home, I only drink distilled water because the old galvanized pipes are a lead source.
syringis
(5,101 posts)I'm new here and not very fluent in English.
I' sorry to hear what happens to you.
I suppose there is nothing much to do, unless reorganize the way you live and get as much help as you can.
I don't know if it can help you a little, but curcuma is known to be effective in memory problems.
It will probably not solve the problem, but maybe help a little?
I send you all my best toughts and wishes from Belgium.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)You are among friends here, and I think it is safe to say we will be here for you in whatever way we can be.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)CTyankee, America would be incredibly better off. And no, it's not another worrisome symptom -- America really has gone politically crazy. Only the wackos are sure they know the way.
Transition from your old lifestyle must be hard, but you'll settle into new routines and be able to truly relax into the things you enjoy again.
Sunlei
(22,651 posts)Please have your children help set-up a book account for you. Set a high price for your "Amazon Book".
Amazon pays you a "royalty" for every sale. They copy write & protect your work. Only takes a few days for a book to be ready to sell.
You can still give your DU friends free copies and have a future income from any Amazon sales. Your children can manage your account.
https://www.createspace.com/diy?utm_id=6072&ref=1383688&sls=Amazon_Selfpub&cp=70170000000c3cK&ls=Amazon
Demonaut
(8,914 posts)relax, change is hard
Faux pas
(14,657 posts)powerful healing vibes I can CTyankee! The best to you and your family.
kentuck
(111,076 posts)Those were very special.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)Kingofalldems
(38,444 posts)Those weekly quizzes were awesome.
boston bean
(36,220 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)pangaia
(24,324 posts)Glad to see another LOOOng post from you...
Everybody else has said everything I could say... and have said
(Cy Twombley -remember?) YOU got me back into art.
Anyhow, for what it is worth, the English in your posts here is absolutely perfect!
Maybe it is difficult for you to write it that well. I don't know but...that says something BIG.
Question--
Can you, just sitting in a chair for example, eyes closed, imagine driving to the grocery store, every physical motion you make---- starting with getting your keys, walking out the door, getting in your car, starting it, pulling away, turning the wheel, brake at the stop sign, looking left and right, left turn, whatever, etc etc.. until you reach the store and then parking.
OR perhaps the same exercise to a simpler destination.. like-- around the block?
Did you ever hear the term 'kinesthetic imagination?' Keeping it simple, it is part of the FELDENKRAIS practice of re-training the connections between the brain and the body--- something like that.
Maybe this doesn't apply to your situation. and I am just off base, I don't know. BUT, it has helped me with certain things, mostly reorganizing the neurological connections between my brain and my left hand. And it helped Itzhak Perlman when he was a child in Israel with polio.
So I started wondering.....just maybe......
All the best, as always...
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)so I depend on landmarks and follow my instinction (what feels right) to get there. But this is only to the supermarket and back...not that many miles.
bigtree
(85,986 posts)...take good care of yourself.
So sorry to hear you're going through this. Hope you have adequate support at home to help you manage it all.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)tomorrow or send someone else if she wasn't better. We made a different plan today, hubby will drive me to the grocery store and wait in the handicap parking spot while I get my prescription meds, milk and some food to get us through today and tomorrow if necessary...
No Vested Interest
(5,165 posts)CTyankee
(63,901 posts)I pushed it too much and my arthritic back damn near gave out.
No Vested Interest
(5,165 posts)for a few days.
Though I prefer walking through the grocery store for easier access to the shelves, I occasionally use the motorized chair-cart through the aisles.
Hope your store had some ready-made meals and salads to make meal-time quicker and easier.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)I'm resting it and taking Aleve. It helps somewhat with arthritic pain...my nerve pain is another story...
bigtree
(85,986 posts)...I really like the lists and action plans.
Keep in touch.
onecent
(6,096 posts)Hang in there and come back here when you can, AND OFTEN!!!
My prayers are with you and your family!!!
brer cat
(24,555 posts)We do understand; many of us are paddling our little canoes right along side you. Getting old brings a lot of fear and heartache.
Your art posts were a highlight for me, and I miss them!
CrispyQ
(36,446 posts)I'm sorry to hear you are going through such tough times.
philly_bob
(2,419 posts)Assisted Living is not so bad, according to my mother, once you get there.
The practicalities of getting there -- money, possessions, arrangements with loved ones, etc. -- are perplexing, tiring, and complicated.
Hang in there. Don't forget to bring your art books.
CTyankee
(63,901 posts)hoping for a vibrant community with some good Dems in residence. I've eaten lunch in every one I visited and the food was all good and I got to meet some residents to ask them how they like it. I don't remember anyone saying it was terrible.
Dennis Donovan
(18,770 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I have always enjoyed your posts and you have always impressed me as an educated, articulate person - and still do. However, it must be very frightening for you and I know you are already going through so much with your husband. Please know we are thinking of you and sending you loving thoughts. And please fall back on us when things get tough. We are here for you.