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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThe Rock Test: A Hack for Men Who Dont Want To Be Accused of Sexual Harassment
https://medium.com/annevictoriaclark/the-rock-test-a-hack-for-men-who-dont-want-to-be-accused-of-sexual-harassment-73c45e0b49afFrom Harvey Weinstein to like all of Uber, it seems each day a wealthy and powerful man is being brought down by accusations of sexual harassment or assault. And just today the New York Times reported that men are becoming less likely to mentor females out of fear.
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While navigating professional relationships can often require that dreaded thing known as any amount of work at all, there is hope. You see, by following this one simple rule, you too can interact with women as people.
Its as clear cut as this: Treat all women like you would treat Dwayne The Rock Johnson.
I cackled. Having seen and heard sentiments along the lines of "It's gotten so you can't ________ anymore!" here and in other progressive circles, I thought this might be helpful to some.
Wednesdays
(17,306 posts)Pacifist Patriot
(24,652 posts)TexasBushwhacker
(20,131 posts)Do you compliment male coworkers on their clothing or appearance?
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)I think the difference is that we were both straight so there was no implication beyond his liking that particular tie. He was even my boss and that didn't matter.
On the other hand, if a man (at least one who's straight or a closeted gay) compliments a woman's clothing, she has to consider whether he's making a sexual overture. The further complication is that he might actually be making a sexual overture, or, to put it another way, flirting. If he wants to ask her out but doesn't want to risk rejection, he might make a remark like that to see how she reacts. As a result, if the exchange occurs between co-workers, and especially if she reports to him, there are problems that didn't arise when my boss complimented my tie.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,131 posts)An occassional compliment is nice, but if someone was complimenting me on my appearance on a regular basis, it would seem like flirting to me.
ProfessorGAC
(64,827 posts)Nice piece of well placed humor by the author.
Major Nikon
(36,818 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Major Nikon
(36,818 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Nothing to be proud of. Just more "boys will be boys" poison.
Major Nikon
(36,818 posts)You already have my vote, so not sure why you'd want to continue, but feel free to do so without me. I generally just ignore your posts anyway, which is why it's always you initiating replies to me and not the other way around. At least I can rely on you to always read mine.
Cheers!
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Insidious and it's tiresome watching men - purported "progressives" among them too- play at being stupid. Congrats! it actually works- makes you look stupid.
Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,494 posts)snooper2
(30,151 posts)Like, Really
"From Harvey Weinstein to like all of Uber"
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)It's a melting pot of writing tones and techniques. One person's hip, breezy tone is another person's evidence that kids these days are the worst.
Drahthaardogs
(6,843 posts)She said "like" 45 times in five minutes (I was bored so I counted)
How can this be hip? Valley Girls started talking like that 35 years ago...
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)Drahthaardogs
(6,843 posts)How is this hip?
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)literary tricks is a popular one now, especially in pieces such as this one. Just because it's old doesn't mean it's not useful or popular. The longevity of "like" as a modifier is an interesting one for linguists, as it can convey how we say things and not just what we say, without using adverbs or another sentence about our internal monologue. Its overuse can grate, as does overuse of any dialect.
Crunchy Frog
(26,574 posts)kcr
(15,313 posts)Dæghwîl...
Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)I didn't get what they meant in one of their sentences. Now I get it.
Exultant Democracy
(6,594 posts)It doesnt appear like he minds but if you watch video of the Rock interacting with people 90% of the time they end up feeling his arms or chest (more men than women) I would say about 40% of the people ask permission to touch him. Most just get a dazed look on their faces and reach out and then go, oh sorry is it ok after they already have.
mopinko
(69,982 posts)ask first. if you can ask first, say sorry after. in the mean time, dont be too surprised if you get punched in the nose. if you do get punched in the nose, realize you had it coming.
see? not so hard.
Merlot
(9,696 posts)Big difference between a star struck fan touching a star (who probably has body guards close by) and someone who is in a position of power makes unwanted advances.
Exultant Democracy
(6,594 posts)Wounded Bear
(58,584 posts)And would probably work.
whathehell
(29,026 posts)Good one.
DetlefK
(16,423 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)Merlot
(9,696 posts)mythology
(9,527 posts)To be accused of it? And even better it's so easy it's like you don't even have to do anything.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)maxrandb
(15,292 posts)mitch96
(13,869 posts)Just don't say or do anything that could be alluded to sexually. Use non gender specific terms.
You look nice, not you look pretty etc.. Kinda sucks but with the world we live in today it worked for me!!
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Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,304 posts)I mean, WHAT ELSE are you going to talk about?
mitch96
(13,869 posts)With many strong willed upwardly mobile women... I did not have a problem with it. They did their thing and I did mine.. Retired now so it's all good.
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Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)Retired and still commenting on it. Damn "upwardly mobile women." I'm sure the others were smitten at your personal comments about their appearance. Not those uppit.... I mean "upwardly mobile women."
mitch96
(13,869 posts)Ouch!
Feel better now bunky?
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IronLionZion
(45,380 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)I'd be trying to get him to do the eyebrow thing.
Weekend Warrior
(1,301 posts)"From Harvey Weinstein to like all of Uber, it seems each day a wealthy and powerful man is being brought down by accusations of sexual harassment or assault."
Dark n Stormy Knight
(9,760 posts)"From Harvey Weinstein to, like, all of Uber, it seems each day a wealthy and powerful man is being brought down by accusations of sexual harassment or assault."
(If it was the "like" that threw you.)