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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI just heard that we lost my brother this afternoon.
He had been very ill and was in the liver transplant program at UCLA Medical Center, but his condition simply was not good enough to survive until that could happen. I'll be flying out to California sometime this week for his memorial service and to provide whatever comfort I can to the rest of the family.
It's very hard to lose your younger brother. He was only 67 years old. It is a sad, sad time for everyone who knew him, and especially for my sister and I. My parents, who are 92 and 93 years old, are heartbroken.
Uff da!
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Historic NY
(40,092 posts)lost my twin brother on July 28 , my world is upside down.
redwitch
(15,269 posts)Love and light to you, I hope you are surrounded by people who love you and will lift you up.
malaise
(296,995 posts)
Siwsan
(27,867 posts)I lost my younger sister, so I can empathize, with you. I will keep you in my heart and thoughts.
LeftInTX
(34,561 posts)Your parents must be besides themselves. 
Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)There is no pain for a parent that is worse than losing a child, at any age. I lost my 45 year old son, I speak from experience. So very sorry for what you and the family must be going through.
Raven
(14,275 posts)redwitch
(15,269 posts)This time spent with your remaining family will be very powerful. Love and light to you and yours.
shraby
(21,946 posts)RKP5637
(67,112 posts) smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)That was just too young and I know you must all be heartbroken. Please accept my condolences. 
delisen
(7,403 posts)and for your parents.
sheshe2
(97,971 posts) LuckyCharms
(22,699 posts)
csziggy
(34,189 posts)
Take care of your parents - I know from experience how losing a child takes a toll on parents.
LisaM
(29,667 posts)You're right; 67 is too young.
world wide wally
(21,836 posts)
meadowlark5
(2,795 posts)
CTyankee
(68,315 posts)I lost my brother to a sudden stroke and heart attack when he was only 68. I had to break it to my mother who was then in a nursing home. I flew to Dallas and made all the funeral arrangements but then had to tell my mother that her son had died. It damn near finished me off to do it, but I helped her through the ordeal and the burial. What a sad, sad time.
Hope you will be OK thru such a difficult time, MM...
mahina
(20,687 posts)Hearts with you. Life can be so hard.
Thank you for telling us about him. Aloha no.
MaryMagdaline
(7,968 posts)So sorry. Horrible to lose a brother and to watch your elderly parents suffer.
left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)I have lost three brothers, but they were all older than me.
That didn't make it any easier,
and I miss them very much.
JohnnyLib2
(11,338 posts)It leaves a hole that can't be filled, other than with memories.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,471 posts)
livetohike
(24,346 posts)your brother. May every good memory bring you comfort .
CentralMass
(16,993 posts)Iggo
(49,976 posts) fierywoman
(8,608 posts)
guillaumeb
(42,649 posts)As a parent myself, I sympathize with your parents.
malaise
(296,995 posts) 
defacto7
(14,162 posts) JI7
(93,773 posts)And no matter what age it has to be difficult to lose ones kids.
cilla4progress
(26,525 posts)So sorry, MM.
iamateacher
(1,120 posts)My sincere condolences to you and your family.
hlthe2b
(114,253 posts) RIPGothmog
(180,789 posts)spanone
(141,867 posts) 
badhair77
(5,200 posts)I’m sure your presence will bring comfort to your family at this heartbreaking time. I hope you all can find a way to some peace together.
3catwoman3
(29,610 posts)I have been without my younger brother, who was my only sibling, since 1976. He was only 23.
Wishing you both the inner strength when family members need to lean on you, and strong people around you when you need to do the leaning.
leftstreet
(41,082 posts)sorry to hear it
madamesilverspurs
(16,517 posts)You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Hortensis
(58,785 posts)
Leith
(7,864 posts)
oasis
(53,800 posts)Have a safe trip to California.
TexasTowelie
(127,789 posts) sharedvalues
(6,916 posts)dalton99a
(94,782 posts)My condolences to you and your family.
mac56
(17,824 posts)Peace to you and your family.
JHan
(10,173 posts)sorry for your loss.
kimbutgar
(27,375 posts)
tblue37
(68,445 posts)I especially feel bad for your parents. It must be the worst sort of grief to outlive your child.
MineralMan
(151,444 posts)I'll check back in tomorrow morning.
diva77
(7,880 posts) 
cate94
(3,110 posts)It is so hard to lose a sibling or a child.
heaven05
(18,124 posts)Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)n/t.
GaryCnf
(1,399 posts)
irisblue
(37,664 posts) 
longship
(40,416 posts)
phylny
(8,818 posts)mvd
(65,934 posts) Wellstone ruled
(34,661 posts)Lost my friend Two months ago while waiting for a Kidney. Nine years of Dialysis.
appleannie1943
(1,303 posts)
AmandaRuth
(3,200 posts)So sad. I am glad you can be there for your mom and dad.
brer cat
(27,631 posts)It must be terrible for your parents.
cry baby
(6,876 posts) monmouth4
(10,747 posts)day. Peace and comfort to your family.
Mrs. Overall
(6,839 posts)
barbtries
(31,324 posts) yardwork
(69,479 posts)
mnhtnbb
(33,446 posts)Love and hugs to you and the rest of your family.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)you all feel. Spend what time you can with your parents. That has to be worse than losing a younger sibling (for thier own child to pass before they do )
Take care MM
*
Not sure of the circumstances for your brother, but he was not alone in early death from liver issues
Death from liver diseases has been on the rise the last 20 years
I can't find a good article right now and this one only mentions weight diet and alchohol
but I've read our daily exposure to just more chemicals adds to the rate increase no matter how hard you try to avoid by keeping other healthy habits - uff da !
http://news.sky.com/story/dramatic-rise-in-liver-disease-deaths-10373239
uponit7771
(93,532 posts)
lpbk2713
(43,282 posts)I know it must be especially hard on your parents.
bluedigger
(17,440 posts)I also lost my younger brother to liver disease earlier this year.
DonCoquixote
(13,971 posts)but you do get better at handling it, and i say this as someone who is admittedly getting his sea legs after his late sister died.
annabanana
(52,805 posts)My heart goes out to your Family.
TheBlackAdder
(29,981 posts)My heart goes out to you and your family during this sad and stressful time.
Your parents are now at a delicate age, where this type of stress can really affect them.
FM123
(10,375 posts)
They_Live
(3,373 posts)peace.
shenmue
(38,598 posts) 
madaboutharry
(42,034 posts)
DesertRat
(27,995 posts)Peace to you and your family.
snowybirdie
(6,725 posts)Be strong and help your parents
a kennedy
(36,123 posts)soooooo sorry for you. May he Rest In Peace, and you and your family have only the happiest of remembrances.
awesomerwb1
(5,117 posts)Condolences to you and family.
mcar
(46,182 posts)Best to your family.
tavernier
(14,470 posts)You have an open wound. Allow yourself time to heal. I lost hubby in May. Talking to him helps and that's when I feel him around me.
democrank
(12,641 posts)and may your family find comfort. I'm sorry for your loss.
nolabear
(43,850 posts)KT2000
(22,180 posts)don't know what I would do if it were by brother or sister so my condolences to you and yours.
Silver Gaia
(5,381 posts)I know what it is like to lose a younger sibling. It has been 10 years since I lost my younger brother unexpectedly. The pain becomes less acute with time, but it is still painful. My heart is with you.
BobTheSubgenius
(12,239 posts)Instead of reflexively saying "I know how you must feel," I actually do have some idea. I lost my sister almost 3 years ago to PSP, and she was 7 years younger.
I wish you the best.
SHRED
(28,136 posts)Take care.
sinkingfeeling
(57,884 posts)
chowder66
(12,379 posts)liberalnarb
(4,532 posts)We recently had a loss in my family. An uncle of mine. He was around the same age.
chillfactor
(7,694 posts)be strong for your family MineralMan.
Enoki33
(1,605 posts)and the emptiness is still there at times. Wishing all that’s good.
lunamagica
(9,967 posts) Thor_MN
(11,843 posts)
Lucinda
(31,170 posts) 
ancianita
(43,313 posts) 
MuseRider
(35,176 posts)It is very hard to lose your younger brother. Be well.
TuxedoKat
(3,843 posts)for the loss of your beloved brother. If you haven't already bought a ticket, some of the airlines offer bereavement fares. They won't volunteer the info, so ask them. Again, so sorry.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(130,884 posts)Condolences to you and your family.
spiderpig
(10,419 posts)Our siblings are the people with whom we are likely to have the longest relationships in our lives.
Despite fighting like hell when we were kids (oh, c'mon - we all did!), we develop a bond over time that is like no other.
My sister is my best friend. But don't tell her.
Glorfindel
(10,175 posts)n/t
FailureToCommunicate
(14,611 posts)name?
I lost my younger brother, John, to pancreatic cancer a while ago. Miss him so.
The band is geting smaller, but, we play on.
Wishing you strength in the coming days.
Turbineguy
(40,134 posts) 
Sunlei
(22,651 posts) Duppers
(28,470 posts)
ATL Ebony
(1,097 posts)
bigtree
(94,454 posts)...best thoughts to you and your family.
Maeve
(43,480 posts) 
StevieM
(10,580 posts)
montana_hazeleyes
(3,424 posts)Hugs for you and your family.
mountain grammy
(29,101 posts)Lost my sis 9 years ago..still hurts.
Doreen
(11,686 posts)bdamomma
(69,590 posts)and your family.
jaysunb
(11,856 posts)
boston bean
(36,945 posts)I send them and your entire family my thoughts of sympathy and condolences.
May your parents stay strong. Loss of a child at any age is a parents worst fear and heartache.
JHB
(38,268 posts)I'm not exactly the prayerful type, but my rancorous family has managed to settle on "sending good vibes" as an acceptable nondenominational expression of support, and you and your family have mine.
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)
revmclaren
(2,613 posts)
Quayblue
(1,045 posts)Permanut
(8,471 posts)FuzzyRabbit
(2,217 posts)
spooky3
(38,743 posts)
davsand
(13,446 posts)I'm so sorry.
Laura
California_Republic
(1,826 posts)
FakeNoose
(41,999 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a good time to gather around with family & friends and reminisce the good tmes with your brother.
That's the only good thing about it that I can think of.
JoeOtterbein
(7,870 posts)...of time. The most precious element.
mobeau69
(12,420 posts)Seems like the worst things happen to the best people. Take care, MineralMan.
SixString
(1,057 posts) 
ucrdem
(15,720 posts)
InAbLuEsTaTe
(25,518 posts)
calimary
(90,393 posts)So sorry to hear this, MM. All my sympathy. Use DU for strength during this rough time. Many strong shoulders here for you to lean on, at least figuratively.
still_one
(98,883 posts)
Willie Pep
(841 posts)herding cats
(20,052 posts)I can't imagine losing my younger sibling before me. My heart hurts for you and yours tonight.
I'm not great at times like this like I wish I were, but I wish you all love and peace to guide you through this painful event.
Laffy Kat
(16,961 posts) 
Judi Lynn
(164,155 posts)
Angry Dragon
(36,693 posts)IndianaDave
(660 posts)My younger brother is not in great health, and I have sometimes played that same scenario in my head. I simply can't imagine what you're going through, but I know it's numbingly painful. I send you my prayers and hope that you find the strength to get through this difficult experience. - Dave
Raine
(31,207 posts)much sympathy to you and all who loved him..
BainsBane
(57,771 posts) DFW
(60,321 posts)I have a younger brother, too. Our parents are gone, but it would be a staggering blow. My wife had a younger brother, and lost him nearly ten years ago.
I hope you and your parents find your way to cope with the loss, because no words from anyone else will quite get you there.
Uff da verkligen!
Demsrule86
(71,549 posts)I wish you and your family peace.
BlueMTexpat
(15,698 posts)to you, your family and all those who loved your brother, MM!
no_hypocrisy
(55,113 posts) Ilsa
(64,443 posts)A sibling is usually a person you've known longer than anyone else in the world. May he rest in peace, and may your family find comfort in one another.
janterry
(4,429 posts) 
treestar
(82,383 posts)So hard for your parents too.
Madam45for2923
(7,178 posts) PJMcK
(25,064 posts)From your previous posts, it sounded like you had a health problem in your family.
I hope you and your family find some solace, MineralMan.
onecent
(6,096 posts)samnsara
(18,774 posts)..... You are in my thoughts during this sad time..
Freedomofspeech
(4,818 posts)
riverbendviewgal
(4,396 posts)I wish you a safe trip and my condolences to you and all your family.
MineralMan
(151,444 posts)Your outpouring of sympathy and condolences helps to ease the pain of this loss. I'll be flying out to CA on Wednesday to provide whatever comfort I can to my family, and to get whatever comfort I can from family.
I wish I could reply to everyone's replies. However, I'll have to let this post express my sincere gratitude to the DU community.
Thank you all!
ismnotwasm
(42,674 posts) 
PatrickforO
(15,476 posts)And for the rest of your family.
panader0
(25,816 posts)
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)
Phentex
(16,730 posts)I know how much it hurts. My heart goes out to you and your family.
catbyte
(39,217 posts)MoonRiver
(36,975 posts) Maraya1969
(23,519 posts)I hope there is someway you and your family can find a peace that passes understanding at this time.
geardaddy
(25,392 posts) VaBchTgerLily
(231 posts)
sandensea
(23,406 posts)Your brother is in a much better place than this crazy world of ours.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)to you and your family on the passing of your brother. May the memories he left you comfort and sustain you.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Old Vet
(2,001 posts) Raster
(21,010 posts)...
TygrBright
(21,376 posts)The sister of a close friend is terrified that she will be kicked off the waiting list for her transplant if she loses her subsidized ACA insurance.
Modern transplant technology has given so much hope to so many, it's a cruel disappointment when the hope is unfulfilled for any reason.
sadly,
Bright
peggysue2
(12,560 posts)my condolences. A loss like this is heartbreaking for family members. Blessings to you and yours. Have a safe journey.
KPN
(17,451 posts)My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and parents.
niyad
(133,238 posts)and healing and comfort.
arthritisR_US
(7,812 posts) Bettie
(19,789 posts)it is hard to lose a family member. Peace to all of you.
DownriverDem
(7,021 posts)So sorry to hear about your brother. No parent should have to bury a child. My brother died from cancer related to his Agent Orange exposure last December at the age of 67 too. My parents are long gone (mom 1989 & Dad 1994), but I can only imagine how your parents must feel. So sorry.
pandr32
(14,307 posts)Condolences to you and your family. May you comfort each other, and know that we here at DU value you here.
MarvinGardens
(781 posts)My condolences.
The Wielding Truth
(11,433 posts) 
Wash. state Desk Jet
(3,426 posts)Condolences and be safe in your travels.
GoCubsGo
(34,959 posts) 
Tumbulu
(6,630 posts)It just seems way too young to go, and all I can say is that I am so sorry for you and your families loss.
kpete
(72,903 posts)10 years ago
i think of him everyday still
so sorry,
kp
Mountain Mule
(1,191 posts)My heart goes out to you and your family.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)
Godspeed to your brother ...
peacebuzzard
(5,884 posts) Of your younger brother. I extend my deep sympathies to you and your parents. That is a tough one, my dear poster. I will be thinking of you and your family these days.
mfcorey1
(11,135 posts)
LongTomH
(8,636 posts) 
pnwmom
(110,305 posts)and I'm sending mine along, too!
We were so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother.
(Hekate has gotten accidentally locked out and is working on getting back in.)