Andrew Sullivan on Barack Obama: The First Gay President
Andrew Sullivan on Barack Obama: The First Gay President
May 13, 2012 12:00 AM EDT
The presidents bold support shifted the mainstream. Andrew Sullivan on why it shouldn't be surprisingObamas life as a biracial man has deep ties to the gay experience.
It was the spring of 2007, back when Barack Obamas bid for the presidency seemed quixotic at best. Id seen Obama speak to a crowd and was impressed but wanted to see if what Id seen from afar held up under closer scrutiny. So I asked to attend a private fundraiser in a tony apartment in Georgetown. I promised not to write anything. I just wanted to see the man up close and get a better sense of him and his character. At one point in the question-and-answer session, a woman looked him square in the eyes with what can only be called maternal grit. My son is gay, she said, and the room went suddenly quiet. I dont understand why you dont support his right to marry the person he loves. Its so disappointing to me. Obama, without losing eye contact for a second, told her: I want full equality for your sonall the rights and benefits that marriage brings. I really do. But the word marriage stirs up so much religious feeling. I think civil unions are the way to go. As long as they are equal.
My heart sank. Was this obviously humane African-American actually advocating a separate but equal solutiona form of marital segregation like the one that made his own parents marriage a felony in many states when he was born? Hadnt he already declared he supported marriage equality when he was running for the Illinois Senate in 1996? (The administration now claims that the questionnaire from the gay Chicago paper Outlines had been answered in typenot Obamas writingby somebody else.) Hadnt Jeremiah Wrights church actually been a rare supporter of marriage equality among black churches? The sudden equivocation made no senseexcept as pure political calculation. And yet it also felt strained, as if he knew it didnt quite fit. He wanted equality but not marriagebut you cannot have one without the other. On this issue, Obamas excruciating nonposition was essentially Yes we cant. And yet somehow, simply by the way he answered that mothers question, I didnt believe it. I thought he was struggling between political calculation and his core belief in civil rights. And it was then that I realized he was both: a cold, steely, ruthless, calculating politician who nonetheless wanted to do the right thing in the end.
Last week he did itin a move whose consequences are simply impossible to judge. White House sources told me that after the interview with ABC News, the president felt as if a weight had been lifted off him. Yes, he was bounced into it by Joe Biden, the lovable Irish-Catholic rogue who couldnt help but tell the truth about his own views on TV (only to be immediately knocked down by David Axelrod on Twitter). But Obama had been planning to endorse gay marriage before his reelection for a while. White House sources say that if Obama had been a state senator in New York last year when the Albany legislature legalized gay marriage, hed have voted in favor. But no one asked. The make news reveal was scheduled for The View. In the end, scrambling to catch up with his veep, he turned to his fellow ESPN fan, Robin Roberts, a Christian African-American from Mississippi, to quell the sudden kerfuffle. Even this was calculated: to have this moment occur between two African-Americans would help Obama calm opposition within parts of the black community.
Newsweek
The interview, by coincidence, came the day after North Carolina voted emphatically to ban all rights for gay couples in the state constitution. For gay Americans and their families, the emotional darkness of Tuesday night became a canvas on which Obama could paint a widening dawn. But I didnt expect it. Like many others, I braced myself for disappointment. And yet when I watched the interview, the tears came flooding down. The moment reminded me of my own wedding day. I had figured it out in my head, but not my heart. And I was utterly unprepared for how psychologically transformative the moment would be. To have the president of the United States affirm my humanityand the humanity of all gay Americanswas, unexpectedly, a watershed. He shifted the mainstream in one interview. And last week, a range of Democratic leadersfrom Harry Reid to Steny Hoyerbacked the president, who moved an entire party behind a position that only a few years ago was regarded as simply preposterous. And in response, Mitt Romney could only stutter.
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