I expected too much and was disappointed

[lees1975]

https://signalpress.blogspot.com/2023/05/i-expected-too-much-and-i-was.html

Without going into too much detail, today marked a decision in my life that I honestly never thought I'd make. I'm a "give 'em the benefit of the doubt" kind of guy, and I gave too much trust away and got burned. But I've seen some things in people that, if I'd been more careful, I wouldn't ever have trusted. I did anyway, because of my background and being merciful and all of that. But I've learned my lesson and today will be the last time I let myself be sold out by Evangelical Christians.

Leaving means my livelihood is affected in a major way. I'll have to figure out how to navigate the next year and a half until I can start collecting my social security benefits. Even then, I'll have to work, but it will be better than working in the environment in which I am now. I'm done. I've been sold out, thrown under the bus to suit someone else's agenda. No compassion, no consideration, no one coming to stand with me though they repeatedly offered to do such. Nothing there that shows me there was any difference between them and the worldliness they condemn.

[sprinkleeninow]

1. "BLESSED are the merciful for they shall receive mercy."

Prayers for you. 🩷🤍🩵

[Meadowoak]

2. From my experience, "christians" will knife you in the back quicker than anybody.

[multigraincracker]

3. Then they will have

chapter and verse for their loop-hole.

[Meadowoak]

13. Exactly

[dcmfox]

4. Move

I'm also waiting one year and a half for SS, but I moved to South America, hell on just SS you can live like a king and not work if you want too. Is worth exploring the idea

[lambchopp59]

11. Where r u

I've considered that option.

[lees1975]

5. I should have expected this.

Honestly, I don't know why I didn't. They've done this before.

[Karadeniz]

6. Emily Dickenson, from memory so probably not perfect...

It fell so low in my regard
I heard it hit the stones
At bottom of my mind.
Yet blamed the fate that flung it
Less than I blamed myself
For entertaining plated ware
Upon my silver shelf.

We all misjudge some people...and I've unfortunately been the disappointer, too !!!! Anyway, I often recite this part of the poem to myself to remind me that the main problem was my lack of good judgment. I should have known better !!

[anciano]

7. Sorry to hear about your bad experience....

Although none of us get a redo on our decisions the next chapter in life is always a blank page, and I hope yours will be covered with new found success.
Sending peaceful vibes your way. 🙏

[Mosby]

8. Be careful out there.

[usonian]

9. Many issues involved, but one big one is humility, IMO.

Through their lack of humility, arrogance, people twist everything to suit their small wants.
This is putting the secular before the spiritual, and even though I don't call myself Christian, I know that's the reverse.
And it has been normalized.

Two things immediately came to mind.
1. The parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector, and
2. The more mundane and perhaps more apt "In God We Trust: All Others Pay Cash"

Forget the bad loan. It's not what others do to you; it's what you do to others that matters.
I just posted:
https://democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=17949649
From "If Life is a Game, These Are the Rules":
Rule Seven:
Others are only Mirrors of You

You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.

Your tormentors are reflecting something inside that is other than what they preach.
You are just and if help doesn't show up soon (as I expect it will), then ask here.

In our monthly discussion meeting, a member recounted how his decades of loyal service to a company were "rewarded" by he and his wife (they are a team) being fired on the spot and being replaced with someone junior he had hired recently. But being just people, they found similar positions at another company shortly.

Your compass is set on inertial, or stellar guidance.
Others have been distorted by various and varying unreliable magnetic forces.

[lees1975]

10. Thank you, I needed that.

And a job in the education field in Chicago.

[usonian]

12. You're welcome, and good luck!

I don't know anyone in Chicago, but will ask my "network" ...
TBH, my daughter's network.

[calimary]

14. I find that beautiful surroundings, especially green and leafy ones

can be calming and restorative, especially if your old job was stressful. A time of unwinding, untangling, and less combative. Parks and open places can be therapeutic as can be. Go where it’s green and leafy. Where the only tweeting is what the birds do. Peaceful surroundings where you can contemplate and you don’t hear traffic noise or other dissonance. Trees really feed my soul, maybe because I lived for decades in L.A. where there was so much pavement and crowding and noise.

Seaside, lakeside, or riverside. Water can be very calming even just to look at. There’ll be birds to observe. I read in Julia Cameron’s book “The Artiss Way” a recommendation to take yourself on an “artist date”. Where your senses can be fed and indulged. The sights and sounds and scents and everything. It nourishes the spirit. Seriously! Even if you just find your way to a quiet shady green ‘n’ leafy spot and sit there or stretch out on a blanket or beach towel. Take some deep healing breaths and just be. No one’s ordering you around, cutting you off, acting unreasonable or impatient or unkind, or telling you what to do.

And ask yourself: don’t you deserve it? And the answer is and will be YES.

[Skittles]

15. I guess I am confused

they worked for a church?