The Bully Experiment

[1monster]

[yuiyoshida]

1. This is hard for me to watch this

even though I know they are acting. It brings out a few triggers in me.. of days when I had things like this happen to me in High School. I don't think I could jump in there and stop something like this, as I have been the victim one too many times.

[1monster]

4. People take different things from unpleasant experiences. I think my son, who was bullied in

school, would say he felt the same way you do. But when one of the kids who bullied him started picking on a younger, handicapped friend of my son's, my son found the courage to stand up to the bully. He told him, "I don't care what you've done to me, but when you start pushing around someone I regard as a brother, YOU had better watch out!"

Standing up to the bully on behalf of someone else made my son feel empowered and made it more difficult for the bully to intimidate him.

Sometimes it's easier to stand up for someone weaker than it is to stand up for one's self and so doing makes one stronger.

[freshwest]

5. Agree completely!

[Dont call me Shirley]

2. Cheers to the guys who did this experiment and cheers to those with courage to step in!

[BlueJazz]

3. I would intervene. I suppose there are two ways to look at it.

1. You are putting yourself in danger or even extreme danger.
2. A coward dies a thousand deaths.

There may well be no correct way.

[tomm2thumbs]

6. wish they had shown the answers to the questions

I didn't find the prearranged set-ups were very convincing. For instance, that first one, where they start by entering the building.... I don't believe that the victim was truly acting in distress in a realistic manner.

Wish they had shown the guy's answer in that instance, because I think it would be enlightening.