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...but my family that is of a more tan disposition over in DC did not even watch it yet because they hear it was bad. That is a bit sad, black man slams the media for its actions (loved the attack on msnbc) and they in response attack him back, then the black audience hear that and thusly don't watch it because they believe the fucked up media. 
Or are you saying some white guy out there is using it as a disparaging term? Because if it is the second, then that is laughable, it is like a grandmother using the word fleek...it just doesn't work. If you want proof look at the youtube comments below the video, you will find a tone of racists people posting about the "N" word, and they always use the "er" in the posts because they think it is the same, or try with and "a" and then move to an "er". It is all about context...and what Larry did was to show the audience that Obama was a part of society that had been long treated poorly by them. It was basically rubbing in their faces, no matter how you thought he did as president, he did that much better because he had to deal with racism from the start of his campaign from his running mates all the way to now with the congress and the senate that have gone out of their way to make him one term or failed. It was showing no matter what Larry may have said negative about him in the speech, he still was proud of him and was in awe of everything he did. For us to cast doubt on the usage of the word is for us to censor him and his message.
If you want additional proof, notice you only spelled one version of the word, but not the other...there is a reason for that.
Also you can read this article on it as well...
Obama's response—pumping his chest in solidarity before rising to hug and thank him—was actually far more significant than Wilmore's words, and explains, in part, why he and his wife Michelle are so beloved: They are widely seen as a man and woman of their community who have not lost track of their roots.
...for a brief moment, what we witnessed Saturday night were two black men who did not care that white people were present.
The mainstream media and Twitter-verse responses were, of course, visceral and speedy: Had Wilmore gone too far? Was it disrespectful? Or did the comedian's race offer him a kind of immunity?
But for many African American men, it may have been the most natural thing in the world: Reflecting the tacit signs of respect given to one another everywhere from the barbershop to the boardroom.
During the 2008 election cycle, Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid was caught on tape saying that Mr. Obama spoke "with no Negro dialect, unless he wanted to have one." Former President George W. Bush and incumbent Vice President Joe Biden both referred to Senator Obama as being "articulate." (The latter famously also used the word "clean."
What their statements reflect is an ignorant but mostly benign prejudice that plagues many white conservatives and liberals alike: They implicitly expect middle- and upper-middle-class black Americans to mirror their own linguistic norms.
Yet for a brief moment, what we witnessed Saturday night were two black men who did not care that white people were present. For Wilmore, it may well have been for comedic effect, but even he would acknowledge that it wasn't all that funny—at least not in a conventional sense. Instead, this was a fiercely political moment.
http://www.vice.com/read/what-it-means-when-larry-wilmore-calls-president-obama-my-nigga
