Bam is dying...Lymphoma...we are dying inside.

[Dystopian]

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I'll make this short. My son rescued Bam, his given name, four years ago.
Jonas was looking for a female, a Husky-type dog...
Bam kept pressing up against his kennel, a black dog, male Pit Bull and Black Lab mix.
Each time Jonas walked by... Bam freaked out with love....wagging his whip-like tail...crazy.
Bam chose Jonas.
Bam was one - two years old at the time.
He was so difficult that he had been returned to the shelter.
Here are some pictures of his first day of adoption.
This is all for now....to be continued.









All for the love of a dog....till death do we part.
Four to eight weeks.....

peace~

[Angry Dragon]

1. .........

[Dystopian]

21. Thank you...

Angry Dragon
Thank you for the hug ....it was difficult to come back to this thread.

peace~

[sinkingfeeling]

64. I'm so sorry. I've lost one to cancer and don't want to go through it again.

[bluesbassman]

2. Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that.

I know Jonas is probably heartbroken too. Peace and comfort to both of you, and safe passage to Bam when the time comes.

[Dystopian]

23. bluesbassman~

Heartfelt thanks for your kind words ... his heart is breaking ... Bam is all he has ...
We'll make it through this ....

peace~

[Baitball Blogger]

3. I am so sorry.

He's a sweetie.

[Dystopian]

24. Heartfelt thanks ....

Baitball Blogger
He's the sweetest doggie in the world ...
A gentle giant...

peace~

[cliffordu]

4. Tell Jonas to please,

never change.

Bam had the best there is.

[Dystopian]

25. I will tell Jonas....

Thank you, cliffordu
They were meant to be together ... even but for this short time.

peace~

[Kali]

5. I am so sorry

unfortunately we can't love them with out pain eventually
just had a close call with one of ours - I was a little shocked at the depth of my own reaction

[Dystopian]

26. Thank you, Kali

We take them into our hearts, knowing they will leave us ....
I'm thankful that yours is okay ....
We never know the depth of our feelings until the time comes...

peace~

[pacalo]

6. Oh, Dystopian...

I'm so sorry! I hope you'll find comfort in the fact that Bam knows how much he's loved by your son & you.

The pain of my last dog's death was so great that I've savored each day that I've had with my now-12 yr. old Gizmo. When this one goes, I'm going to be crushed.

Another

[Dystopian]

27. I know this only too well ....

pacalo
Yes, there is comfort knowing that Bam has been loved by all....
I understand the pain, as I was not able to open my heart to another dog for almost thirteen years after I lost mine.
In fact, Jonas picked her out when he was five-years-old.....twenty-five years ago.
I know you are treasuring your time with Gizmo....
Hugs from us ... to you and your Gizmo..
Lots of love...

peace~

[fizzgig]

7. what a good looking boy

[Dystopian]

28. fizzgig ~

Thank you...
Bam is beautiful ...
Jonas always tells him, "You're the best boy!"
(I have to smile inside when I think of all the mischief Bam got into...)

peace~

[mythology]

8. Unfortunately, no matter what, they never live as long as we'd like

So love and cherish your furry family members for as long as they have and always remember how much they loved you, or in the case of some cats, tolerated your inferior existence provided you served them to a basic level. And from those pictures, Bam clearly unquestionably loves your son and Bam's time with him.

[Dystopian]

30. Truth...

mythology
Yes, we take them into our lives, knowing they will leave .....
Thank you.... Bam and my son share that bond.
It's hitting me twice as hard as I share my son's pain ... as I deal with my own.
Our dogs are best friends .. so we are all cherishing ....
I'm going to post more pictures of them as time goes on...
And there is not much time .... yet making the best of it ...
We had a good day today...

peace~

[Odin2005]

9. :-(

[Dystopian]

41. ((hug))

Odin2005
It is a very sad story...
I've only touched on the beginning ... and impending departure ...
Yet there are the sweet memories...and crazy antics...
I'll post stories and pictures while enduring the end of his journery....

Thank you for caring ....

peace~

[Phentex]

10. So sorry...

What a cutie!

[Dystopian]

42. Yes : )

Phentex
Thank you... a cutie...
And we still have him...
One day at a time...

peace~

[siligut]

11. Jonas did so right by him

I am sorry he is sick, but I am so glad he had time with Jonas.

[Dystopian]

43. Thank you, siligut

Your kind words help...
Jonas will read these words in the near future...
He will need comfort ... and will find much comfort here...
Thank you for being a part of that healing of time..

peace~

[nolabear]

12. Ah, the things they give us.

Lessons, love, joy and sadness, everything we so often don't give ourselves.

I'm glad you have him and he you, and though it hurts to lose him it's a testament to your humanity and his lovely dogness.

[Dystopian]

44. Lovely dogness...

nolabear

Thank you for your kind words .... wisdom.
So very true ... and I never thought of it as such...
...everything we so often don't give ourselves.

As I attempt to get through this thread before he's gone...
You touched my heart ...

peace~

[bigwillq]

13. What a beautiful dog.

This is very sad. I am very sorry.

[Dystopian]

45. Thank you for reaching out....

bigwillq

Your words of kindness are so appreciated...
And taking the time.... priceless.
Heartfelt thanks...he is beautiful...
And still with us...

peace~

[SammyWinstonJack]

14. ...

[Dystopian]

50. Thank you for the hug...

SammyWinstonJack~

It's taking time to get through this...
And now....the clock is ticking too quickly...

peace~

[YankeyMCC]

15. That's one handsome dog...

peace to him and you all who love him

[Dystopian]

51. He is handsome...

Heartfelt thanks, YankeyMCC ~
For your kind words....
Quiet peace will come for Bam soon...
And we will also come to terms ....
Peace in knowing that he was loved by so many...

peace~

[myrna minx]

16. I'm so sorry.

[Dystopian]

53. Thank you...

myrna minx

Your words will be passed on to my son...
Heartfelt thanks...

peace~

[Worried senior]

17. Sorry to hear this

and so sorry for Jonas.

[Dystopian]

54. Thank you....Jonas is my life...

Worried senior
And so the grief is twofold ...
Knowing his pain...
And loving Bam as I do.
Yet....we'll make it through another loss.
We always do....
It's not easy...

peace~

[RebelOne]

18. So sorry, I know the feeling of dying inside.

My Rottweiler had incurable cancer. She was almost 13 years old. And I was dying inside just watching her get sicker each day until I finally had to take her to the vet for the last time.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

34. Our Cocker had kidney failure.

And that last day and last trip to the vet was the hardest with him. I still cry for him. I miss that sweet guy. It's been a little over a year without him. We found Poppin to keep our Dachshund company, but Leroy was special. He was a pound puppy and I loved that kid.

[Dystopian]

55. We know...

Thank you, RebelOne
I'm so sorry for your loss...
I know you still miss her...as I miss my girl when I brought her to the vet for the last time..
So many years ago....

Our pets are family...
And soon Bam will be going to the vet for the last time...
Soon...

peace~

[Brigid]

19. Such a sweet doggie!

for Jonas.

[Dystopian]

56. Hug...

Brigid

I will not only pass this hug to Jonas..
He will see it...
I didn't know that Bam would fail so quickly...
I'm printing this thread for Jonas after Bam has left him.
It will be soon.
Thank you for being a part of the circle of DU love for my son and his dog.

peace~

[Bertha Venation]

20. I'm very sorry.

[Dystopian]

57. Bertha...

Thank you for taking the time to express....
It has taken much time for me to return to this thread...
It breaks my heart....

Heartfelt thanks...

peace~

[applegrove]

22. I'm so sorry.

[Dystopian]

59. applegrove....

For you... a

Jonas will notice your name...applegrove.
There is an apple grove next door where they used to walk and romp together...
This just came to mind...

Bam will be buried near the apple grove...
The most beautiful and peaceful fun memories of all...
Thank you for being you, making this come to mind.

peace~

[hamsterjill]

29. My sympathies.

I'm so sorry to know this. All of us animal lovers understand how you feel, and cry with you.

Thank you for loving him!

[Dystopian]

60. A bond of love...

hamsterjill

Yes, we all love, and are as one.
Thank you for your kind words and understanding.
The circle of love for our pet families on DU is overwhelming...
You are a part of it...
And so we live, love... and let go...

Yet we never let go of the memories and love..
This will bring peace to Jonas....
And within his peace...I will find mine.

peace~

[one_voice]

31. I'm so sorry!...

he's a beautiful dog. My thoughts are with you and your son.

[Dystopian]

61. Heartfelt thanks ....

one_voice

Bam is a beauty...
Always filled with love for all..
Thank you for keeping us in your thoughts....
Thank you...so very much.

peace~

[Dystopian]

32. Before he knew....

I need to stop for a moment ... needing to connect with all the heartfelt responses ...
And I will....
Before telling the entire story ...

This is a fun memory ... not so long ago... in March.

A picture of Bam a couple of years ago ....
I put a sticker on a chain ... Jonas's band, and took his picture.
I made a goofy birthday card for Jonas and posted it on his FB page...
It made him smile ...



And ... one more thing.
When Bam leaves Jonas ...
I'm going to print out this thread for him...
It will give him much peace of mind ...
Make him know and understand how strangers can reach out with love and compassion.
This is something he's not familiar with ...
It's a lesson in life to my beloved son.
Heartfelt thanks to all....
As I work out my feelings ... and you are there for a young man...my son and his dog.

peace and love to all~

[YellowRubberDuckie]

33. So sorry you are going through this.

Been there and it blows. You and your family are in our thoughts. Thank you for giving him a great home and lots of love at the end of his life. It is the love and kindness he'll take with him to the rainbow bridge and share. Rescues are special and love a lot harder than any other dog.

[Dystopian]

72. Rescues ARE special...

YellowRubberDuckie

Thank you for keeping us in your thoughts... it means a lot.
Bam loved more than any other dog I've ever known...
I took your words to heart ... and realized how very true.
He will be crossing soon ....

peace~

[TuxedoKat]

35. I'm so sorry

it is so painful to lose a loving pet. Still I'd rather have the pain that not have had pets in my life. Bam looks like such a sweetie, peace to you and him. (((HUGS)))

[Dystopian]

74. Thank you, TuxedoKat

It's comforting ...yet sad, ...to know how many share my feelings. Yes, it was worth the too short four years.
He made life beautiful ...
Bam was a sweetie...
It simply twice as hard because I feel my son's pain ... not only my own.
Bam is slipping away....
Heartfelt thanks, we will all find our peace ... in time.

peace~

[dana_b]

36. oh I am so sorry...

my heart hurts for you. Bam looks a lot like my girl dog (also part pit and blk/wht). All the best to your family.

[Dystopian]

75. Thank you...

dana_b

Your girl must be an angel ... and fun. It's the best mix I've ever known...
I know you hold her close to your heart...

Thank you for your kind words...
This will mean so very much to Jonas..
Very soon.


peace~

[IcyPeas]

37. your words:

Each time Jonas walked by... Bam freaked out with love....wagging his whip-like tail...crazy.
Bam chose Jonas.

Bam is loved - Jonas is loved

[Dystopian]

78. IcyPeas (hug)

I read your words ... it seems like eons ago.
I couldn't come back to the thread for a while...

My words back at me....
My most heartfelt thanks today...of all days.

Yes, they are loved.


peace~

[xchrom]

38. may Peace be with all of you -- especially jonas and bam.

very difficult to lose our four footed kin.

[Dystopian]

79. My son...

xchrom ...thank you.

This is especially about Jonas and Bam...
Jonas is my youngest son ...
He's been though much in life...
One would think, if known, that other situations would have been more painful.
Not true ...
In my life... have never seen him in more hurt.

Thank you for caring...

peace~

[irisblue]

39. i am so sorry

losing your heart dog can be one of the most wreching experiences of life. your sons' face as he is rubbing bams' belly, glows. true lifelong love is rare, blessings on you, jonas and bam.

[lunatica]

40. Hugs to Bam and you and your son

He must have known seen very special about your son to insist on being adopted by him.

[Dystopian]

48. Beautiful ....

lunatica

Thank you so very much ....
Bam knew ...
Others tossed him back to the pound...
Jonas kept him ... in spite of Bam's hilarious and horrific antics...

Bam didn't give up on Jonas while he viewed the other dogs...
And Jonas won't give up on Bam ... until he knows when that day arrives...

peace~

[Flaxbee]

46. I'm so sorry about Bam.

All my best to you and your son, and Bam in his last few weeks. He was loved, and he loved back. That's a good life, even if it is too short.

[Dystopian]

47. Heartfelt thanks ....

Flaxbee

You're right....a good life, even if too short.
Your words bring much comfort...during these last few weeks...
He's doing better...medication to improve quality of life...
And then ... the decision will be made at the right time ....to let him go in peace.

peace~

[Dystopian]

49. This is so very difficult ...

To all...
It's hard to come back to this thread...
Jonas is going through the process of grieving while Bam is still with him.
As am I.

I do so appreciate all the love and words of caring kindness...

peace~

[HappyMe]

52. I'm sorry.

I don't know what to say.

[HillWilliam]

58. .

So, so sorry to hear, Dystopian. We fall in love with our furkids so fast and so hard it's impossible to let them go when it's their time to cross The Bridge. When they do, they carry a huge piece of us with them.

[Dystopian]

77. We live ... we know....

Thank you for you kind words, HillWilliam

Jonas is finding it difficult, wants to hang on .....
Yet knows when to let go ....
Tonight ... he will make that decision.
Time has come today....

peace~

[hifiguy]

62. Oh, man there is nothing

quite so hard as having to say goodbye to a furfriend.

for you, Jonas and Bam.

[Dystopian]

80. hifiguy~

Heartfelt thanks

Thank you for caring ... and for the hug.
I will pass it on....
Yes, it's one of the most difficult things in life ...
Letting go of our furfriends ..... only for love.

peace~

[MiddleFingerMom]

63. THEY're the best boys!

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Now you can smile inside when you think of all the mischief Jonas got into, also!!!
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I'm so sorry... I know the depth of sadness and loss with the loss of any pet... but ESPECIALLY
one of those special ones that come along if we're lucky.
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All of you were lucky -- that's one thing to hold onto.
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Our loved ones live on in us... Bam will never truly leave you folks.
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for all three of you.
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Vibe belly scratches for Bam.
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OK... a couple for Jonas, too.
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[Dystopian]

71. (((MFM)))

Thank you for you beautiful words....
I smile about most of the mischief Jonas got into ...

I'm so touched as you replied before you left us on another adventure...
You are in my heart ... you know this...

I want you back...ASAP.
Belly scratches for Bam and Jonas ... none for me..

You are so filled with love....and are loved.
Thank you for being you...

peace~

[littlewolf]

65. I am sooo very sorry for your pending loss ...

all my dogs have been pound dogs ... always
had great dogs ....

remind Jonas that Bam will be waiting for him at
the rainbow bridge ....

I hate to lose my furry friends and
it makes it hard ... we do survive and
go forward ....

[Dystopian]

68. Rainbow Bridge...

littlewolf

Pound dogs are the best ....
Thank you for reminding me of the rainbow bridge...
I found it... and cried.
It's a beautiful reminder....

And yes, Jonas will go forward... surely with a hole in his heart forever...
We all love and lose...yet survive.

peace~

[RFKHumphreyObama]

66. My thoughts, prayers, best wishes, positive vibes to all involved

Safe passage for your dog

[Dystopian]

67. Thank you for your kind words....

RFKHumphreyObama

As difficult as it is ... time has come to finish this thread.
Bam's days are numbered.....
And so I sit... to ensure that I reply to each beautiful soul who reached out.
Heartfelt thanks .....


peace~

[sarge43]

69. So sad Dystopian

Our animal friends find a place in our hearts and when they leave us there's an emptiness.

But you love and are loved and that will heal your heart.

Peaceful passage Bam.

[Dystopian]

70. sarge43 (hug)

Thank you...
Yes there is an emptiness...
And love does heal the heart...

There are many beautiful and comical memories that will last forever...
And so very many photos....

peace~

[ScreamingMeemie]

73. Beautiful boys...

I'm so very sorry.

[Dystopian]

81. Thank you ((hug))

ScreamingMeemie

Through my eyes ... so very beautiful...
Through your eyes ... I thank you for seeing.
The love bond is beautiful...
I'm so very thankful that I raised sons so filled with love for their dogs......
I'm overwhelmed at times... the beauty of it all.
As the end comes near...

I thank you for your kind words and hug.


peace~

[irisblue]

76. the hardest thing

is knowing that they leave too soon. i have held two of my dogs as they left for the rainbow bridge. dukes' arthritis was causing too much pain, alexs' epilepsy caught him in a seizure that wouldn't stop. sometimes i can still feel his head under my left hand as i gave him the last touch. for jonas, and you, please talk about your grief in bams' passing. jonas' face glows in these photos, your love is clear in your posts. it is not easy but it is love to help bam out of pain. a candle, red to match his collar, will be lit for him, and his pack.

[Dystopian]

82. I will follow by example and experience....(hug)

irisblue
So very sorry for your loss ....
I've been talking to Jonas...
I just leave things for him to think about...

'I know he's yours...I want to hold him with you when you let him go'....
I'm letting him think about it...
A man and his dog....
Yet I feel that he'll want me there...
I've been caring for him daily while he's at work...
Jonas is so very thankful...
I believe we'll both be there for Bam.

Thank you...the candle...
I have no more words to give...
Tears.



peace~

[Dystopian]

83. I will give this to Jonas when the time comes...

Thank you all for your love and kindness...

I will lock this thread with these photos...
Jonas and Bam bonding the first day...
Four years ago...



The photo I took of them a couple of days ago...
Knowing the end was too near...



Heartfelt thanks to all....
peace and love to all....

[Ptah]

84. Locking by request