HomeLatest ThreadsGreatest ThreadsForums & GroupsMy SubscriptionsMy Posts
DU Home » Latest Threads » Forums & Groups » Main » The DU Lounge (Forum) » I've just been outsourced...

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:22 PM

I've just been outsourced as a father.

My son just came back to the US from a research project in France and went to a scientific meeting in the American Midwest with the professor under whom he worked over there.

At the conference he went to lunch with that professor and his undergraduate adviser at his university here.

He informed me that over lunch the two professors planned his entire scientific career. They discussed that he needs to take all kinds of undergraduate courses before he can graduate, so they kind of have him locked up for the next three years, where, among other things, he can be assigned to write all their papers for them.

Hey! Planning his scientific career was my job!

Over the speaker phone when I was informed about this information both my sons informed me that I've been outsourced as a father for less than satisfactory performance.

Sigh...

Good for him. They'll do a better job than I would.

10 replies, 1100 views

Reply to this thread

Back to top Alert abuse

Always highlight: 10 newest replies | Replies posted after I mark a forum
Replies to this discussion thread
Arrow 10 replies Author Time Post
Reply I've just been outsourced as a father. (Original post)
NNadir Jul 2018 OP
TeamPooka Jul 2018 #1
CincyDem Jul 2018 #2
NNadir Jul 2018 #9
question everything Jul 2018 #3
CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2018 #4
NNadir Jul 2018 #10
Lint Head Jul 2018 #5
NNadir Jul 2018 #8
woodsprite Jul 2018 #6
NNadir Jul 2018 #7

Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:24 PM

1. They'll be back. You've got all their stuff.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:27 PM

2. "They'll do a better job..." Probably not, but they do a more objective job.



Been there, done that 5 times.

In each case, what I learned from the experience is that the college folks that became mentors for each of the kids had a clearer view of their strengths and limitations...characteristics that I would like overstate (in the case of strengths) and underestimate (in the case of limitations).

They've all done great - and I still get Father's Day cards.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to CincyDem (Reply #2)

Sat Jul 21, 2018, 12:34 AM

9. Thanks. He worries a lot that he's not as smart as everyone seems to think he is.

I advised him that these are experienced people along the lines you suggested.

My oldest son is an artist, and the father's day and birthday cards are all hand made and I treasure them very much because of their wit.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:30 PM

3. Could have been nice to give him three days to think it over

after all, we can do this with major purchase..

Hope he is happy.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:30 PM

4. My dear NNadir...

You will always be their father........you helped give them life! I know you know that.....I couldn't resist.

You helped them build the foundation that makes it possible to grow into the fine young men they are.

They would not be where they are if they hadn't had you there in their childhood.



Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #4)

Sat Jul 21, 2018, 12:36 AM

10. Thanks, Peg.

Their mother had a lot more to do with who they are than I did.

Seriously...

We all joke that without her, we'd all be working at the car wash, all three of us.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:56 PM

5. But. You have the Father's Pride thing going for you.

Brag like you never have before.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Lint Head (Reply #5)

Sat Jul 21, 2018, 12:31 AM

8. True, dat. n/t.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to NNadir (Original post)

Fri Jul 20, 2018, 11:59 PM

6. Just tell him to make sure he gets publication credit if he's

Doing research that will be published by the prof. I worked for a prof who used his students as research assistants but didn't attribute them or their research in his publications. He milked those kids research for almost 10 years.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to woodsprite (Reply #6)

Sat Jul 21, 2018, 12:30 AM

7. I'm not too worried about that with these guys. They've been nothing but great to him.

He's a smart kid, but if you told me that after his first year of college he'd be sent to France and actually get paid to go there, in an academic setting, I would have thought you were out your mind.

I kind of hoped he'd be able to get a job at the local ice cream shop for the summer, maybe an usher job at the movies. Instead there's this.

This took place because his adviser took him under his wing. I'm grateful.

Were it a concern, and it's not, my feeling is that they can take away your stuff, and they can take away credit for your accomplishments, but they cannot take away what you know and they cannot take away your experience.

When I was his age I had no where near the experience and knowledge he does, and I'm very happy he's among these people.

I'm less concerned about what might be taken from him, than with what he's been given. I trust he will embrace the responsibility those gifts imply.

In any case, his adviser made it clear that he wants my son to publish as a co-author. Both of these guys have published hundreds of papers each, and they surely don't need credit of any of whatever my son, or any other undergraduate, graduate or post-doc might do. They're just good scientists and good men.

We are really blessed.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink

Reply to this thread