Mom died last night
So far I am numb. it's not as if it were unexpected. She was 97, was diagnosed with a bad aortic valve ten years ago and refused surgery to repair it since she never had an operation in her life. Since Dad died in 2013 she had worsening dementia. Last year the same day I had my kidney removed she was diagnosed with metastatic liver cancer. They think her heart gave out.
I can't follow the news - just can't concentrate on it. I turned over to streaming TV but can't remember what I watched all afternoon. The funeral is Saturday. I'm not ready to say good bye.
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My parents have been gone for quite some time, but I was numb for a very long time after their deaths. Still am, I think, but now I can remember happier times without the overwhelming wash of sadness coming first.
Take care of yourself. 
I am very sorry. Losing a parent is always hard.
I will leave you with a thought from a favorite author of mine, which I find to be at least a small comfort in such times.
Do not despair at saying farewell, for a farewell is necessary in order to meet again.
And meeting again, in moments or in lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.
Richard Bach - Illusions
I'll light a for you both.
It's so hard to lose a parent. My condolences.
She had a long life! Wow. I lost my mom when she was 74 and I was 35. I'm always so envious of people who got to keep their parent(s) well into their adulthood. How much wisdom and support they must provide. So many times I would have loved to ask my mom about things during different points in my life.
I'm truly sorry for your loss 
and my sympathy.
It's really hard to lose your mom, no matter how long she's lived, whether her passing was expected, or how old you are. She was still your mom.
Peace to you as you travel this journey .
I wish you some peace in these hard times.
Just keep reminding yourself that she is no longer suffering!
I do know what you mean. I had gotten out of the hospital and the next day I get a call telling me my brother had metastasized cancer, point of origin unknown. Just like my mom, he was dead in a few months.
Hang-in there friend!
My thoughts are with you!
I feel for you, so sad to lose a true friend, mom is irreplaceable.
during this time.
Losing a parent can be so difficult. I lost my mom to cancer and dad to dementia. Their deaths were somewhat expected but still traumatic. I felt I was on autopilot for a long time. Be gentle with yourself. We will handle the news, you take care of you. Peace to you during these hard days.
You have my deepest condolences. My heart goes out to you.
I'm sorry she is gone, may you find peace.
I lost my mother seven years ago last week - and it's been on my mind, not unexpectedly. And I lost my mother due to an accident. Hurricane Irene hit us here in New York, lots of damage, and my mother fell downstairs in the dark when the lights went out. She was 85, was a little unsteady after hip replacement, but otherwise healthy. I kept thinking she would recover.
My advice to you is to be good to yourself. This is an extremely tough loss and no matter her age, that doesn't matter - she was your Mom. Stick close to those who loved her, too - talk about her, savor the good memories, do whatever it is that comforts you. And always remember how lucky you were to have each other and that she loved you like nobody else and that she would want you to be happy. 
I am so sorry for your loss and the grief you are suffering. Hopefully you will make it through the funeral Saturday okay and that you have close family to draw comfort from and comfort in return.
My deepest sympathies.
I lost mine 2 years ago when she was 98 years old. Just give yourself time to heal.
Please just take care of yourself. Wishing you and your family strength at this very difficult time.
