they are taking my wife off of life support and letting her expire today

[dingosatemyusername]

I just feel numb

back story https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181172498

[leftieNanner]

1. My condolences Dingo

[MontanaMama]

2. Oh my goodness.

I’m so very sorry. No words.

[charlyvi]

3. So sorry!

[gademocrat7]

4. So very sorry.

[DFW]

5. There is nothing in the world I could say to make you feel better after something that horrible

Condolences seem so damned inadequate, I'm sorry.

[AJT]

6. I am so sorry. I was there when they took my husband off of life support.

Please know many of us will be thinking of you and will be here if you need us.

[nocoincidences]

7. So very very sorry.

The shock you are feeling will last awhile, I suspect. Just heal at your own rate.

[hotrod0808]

8. You have my deepest condolences

The people on this site helped me immensely when I lost my daughter almost five years ago. Please lean on me or anyone else here when you need some love or support. You and your wife will be in my thoughts all day.

[matt819]

9. So sorry for your loss

As I age, I'm at the point where these concerns bubble to the surface regularly. I have no idea how I or my wife will deal with them, though I hope it's with confidence that we've had lives well lived and whatever time remains for the surviving partner will be okay (or at least okay enough).

[yankeepants]

10. Oh Dingo I can't even imagine.

I hope you have people close at hand to help you through this. Love Yankeepants

[underpants]

11. Im so sorry

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

12. So sorry!

I can't imagine... You have my deepest condolences.

[redstatebluegirl]

13. Hugs to you, so sorry.

[UpInArms]

14. Oh no ... I am so sorry

[lark]

15. Oh Dingo, I am so sad you are having to deal with this decision.

I went through a similar scenario with my mom, made so much worse because the doctors never told us she was terminal so it was a total shock to us. I pray you have more peace with this than we did and that you don't have family members who disagree.

[akraven]

16. My heart hurts for you.

Will light a candle for her tonight. Please take care of yourself in this very difficult time.

[sinkingfeeling]

17. I'm so sorry.

[Moostache]

18. My sincere condolences...

I wish I had words to soothe your soul on such a terrible day.

[The Blue Flower]

19. My heart goes out to you

So sorry for what you're going through.

[handmade34]

20. so very sorry...

been there... I understand "I just feel numb"

allow yourself whatever comes... let others help if you can

[Rainbow Droid]

21. You are not alone. *hugs*

[dingosatemyusername]

23. thank you all for your sympathy

we had a relationship that most people can only dream of. in 20 years we never had an argument. she stayed by my side no matter how tough things got. we were homeless and living in a tent for almost two years, she could have easily have found a better situation for herself.

[luvtheGWN]

107. Yes, she could have "found a better situation", but

that would have been without YOU. Obviously she loved you very much. Take some solace in the fact that her 20 years with you were her happiest -- because of YOU. The love of my life (47 years) died of a massive stroke in his sleep just over a year ago. I kept telling myself "This is your new normal, get used to it". I was afraid to give in to grief, but I should have. Take your time, accept the condolences and everything else that your friends and family want to give you. Cherish your memories of love. Place a photo of her in every room and beside your bed. And please know that we all care about you.

[3catwoman3]

24. As everyone has already said, words are so inadequate...

...for times such as these. I hope you have people to lean on.

It is very clear how much you love her.

[agingdem]

25. I know exactly what you're going through

two years ago my husband of 47 years had a massive stroke while he was gassing up his car...I was on my way to meet him for breakfast when I got a call from his phone informing me that he was in the emergency head trauma unit of a hospital across town... by the time I got to the hospital there were tubes everywhere, his pupils were fixed and the neurologist asked me if he had a DNR..so at 6 in the morning I was a wife and 6 at night I was a widow...

You will mourn, and you will grieve...go with it for as long as it takes...I want to say it will get better but it won't ..but it will get different...my heart breaks for you...take care

[Docreed2003]

26. My deepest condolences

I can't even imagine your pain right now. You'll be in my thoughts

[Ohiogal]

27. I'm so sorry

Wishing you peace and strength

[lostnfound]

28. You have loved her all the way to the end

That is a gift you have given her. Maybe you can find some comfort in that.

I am so sorry.

Grief is a deep and painful reminder of just how lucky or blessed we have been, how loved.

[JohnnyLib2]

29. I am very sorry.

[Mike Nelson]

30. Very sad...

[voteearlyvoteoften]

31. So very sorry for your loss

[ProfessorPlum]

32. good heavens

my heart goes out to you. This must feel like a very lonely time - but as one human to another, know that you aren't alone. We can't take away your pain or grief, but we are here with you.

[PeeJ52]

33. I couldn"t imagine being able to type that, so sorry....

[Tess49]

34. So sorry for your loss.

[Lars39]

35. I am so sorry for your loss, dingosatemyusername

[pandr32]

36. So sorry

[sarge43]

37. Deepest condolences

I know there are no words that can help at this time. I've been in your place twice, father and brother.

But know that peace and comfort will come to you.

If there is anything we can do, please let us know.

Peaceful passage for your wife. May she rest in light.

[Alliepoo]

38. I'm so very sorry...

I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts. Wishing you peace.

[RestoreAmerica2020]

39. So sorry.

[lunamagica]

40. I'm so sorry

[hlthe2b]

41. As one who has gone through this, I am very sorry. The numbness is your salvation...

It will slowly wear off, but let it buffer you right now. May your good memories come quickly to the forefront and ward off the sadness.

[Donkees]

42. Peaceful Passage surrounded by Love

[ms liberty]

43. I am so sorry.

[beveeheart]

44. I am so sorry to hear this.

Take care of yourself.

[DonCoquixote]

45. deepst condolences

that is one of the worst things to happen

[Hamlette]

46. oh damn, I am so sorry.

[lillypaddle]

47. Oh my god

How horrible for you both, no wonder you are numb.

I have no words to make it better.

[mfcorey1]

48. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[murielm99]

49. I am very sorry.

[Efilroft Sul]

50. My deepest condolences.

[Guilded Lilly]

51. Sending White Light.

[Pggrickie]

52. So sorry

I’m am so sorry for your sorrow. I understand as my partner has had three strokes and does not get around very well. We ha e been together almost thirty years. I know the day is coming but am not prepared at all. I feel for you for sure.

[vlyons]

53. I'm so sorry.

Take comfort that she will go peacefully and endure no more pain. Surrounded by a loving family.

[kozar]

54. condolences :(

[Thekaspervote]

55. Oh.. soo vert sorry for your loss

[KT2000]

56. Oh dear, I am so sorry

this must be so difficult. Peace to you.

[jmbar2]

57. She enjoyed 20 years of blessed life with you.

At some level, she knows that you are there as she leaves this world. You have been wonderful soulmates for each other. I know that your heart is breaking. Peace be with both of you.

[lunatica]

58. She and you had a very good life because you loved each other

It’ll be hard to live through the things you always did together but I hope you feel her love through all of it.

DU is here for you.

[Blue_playwright]

59. Lots of love from Kansas.

I’m so sorry.

[yardwork]

60. I am so very, very sorry.

[ailsagirl]

61. ......

[ProudMNDemocrat]

62. I know whst you are going through. My condolences.

My mother was in the same condition 6 years ago. I was with her when she drew her last gasps. She died knowing she was loved because she was ready.

May you find comfort knowing your wife will be happy once again.

[Satch59]

63. I'm so very sorry...

Her soul will be released into yours...and that is her last gift to you...her spirit lives in you forever...

Hoping you can be surrounded by loving family and friends during this very hard time...you also have a DU family to lean on...

[Jarqui]

64. Heart wrenching ... so sorry

[C Moon]

65. :(

[barbtries]

66. i'm so sorry!

i hope you have loved ones near you to help you through this time...and may she go in peace full of love.

[in2herbs]

67. So sorry to hear. If I could take the burden of your sadness from you I would.

[Fla Dem]

68. I am so sorry. May she go in peace.

[Glorfindel]

69. Sincerest condolences

[NewJeffCT]

70. I'm very sorry for your loss

you have my condolences.

[PatrickforO]

71. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Especially since it happened fast and unexpectedly. That makes it so much worse.

[dlk]

72. I Am So Very Sorry for Your Loss

[4TheArts]

73. We share this time

Fourteen years ago today. My sweetie expired as I held her.
It's rough, and for a while. She turns new galaxies now on some big lathe.
Your wife is always a part of you. Take good care of yourself.

[raging moderate]

74. So sorry for your poor wife and for you.

Your love surely must be all around her through this ordeal.

[tiredtoo]

75. Sorry for your loss.

The loss of a spouse is painful.

[sprinkleeninow]

76. 🕯

[MissKat]

77. what would she want you to do?

She'd want you to do something kind, I'll bet

Think about how you can help her pay it forward--

It will take time, but some day when you can, put up a wind chime in an unexpected place or take a bag of special cat food to an animal shelter and say, "My wife sent this."

Don't expect a lot of yourself at first, but as the waves begin to calm, think about what she loved and how you could share that. A special book to a school library... you get what I'm saying.


Just go slow. Be sad. And then, cautiously move on.

[dewsgirl]

78. I.am so sorry, my sincerest condolences.

[Sanity Claws]

79. My condolences

I am so sorry to hear this. May she rest in peace. May you find peace and joy in your memories of her.

[Granny M]

80. Deepest sympathy, Dingo.

So very sorry for your loss.

[Anon-C]

81. Sorry, we are here for you!

[vishnura]

82. So sorry to hear this. May she rest in peace.

[Honeycombe8]

83. I'm so sorry.

Remember...there are worse things. She could be well enough to keep alive, but totally dependent and unhappy or in pain for years to come. Not that that makes it easier for you. What a huge loss that was unexpected.

[zeusdogmom]

84. I am so sorry

My deepest sympathy goes out to you during this hard, hard time. You are surrounded by the loving thoughts and prayers of this community.

[flying_wahini]

85. I went thru that with my Mom. It's just hard. Be nice to yourself.

Don't second guess it all; it doesn't do any good. Just go thru the motions and be strong.
Big hug to you.
I think I can speak for other DUers by saying we are ALL here for you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[minstrel76]

86. My condolences for your loss.

[Duppers]

87. So very sorry.

It was clear from your other post how much you love her. I can imagine your shock and grief, having lost dearly loved ones myself.

[TEB]

88. So Sorry

[Different Drummer]

89. Very sorry, Dingo!

[sakabatou]

90. *hugs*

[mecherosegarden]

91. You are in my thoughts

May you find peace.

[seta1950]

92. I'm sad

I’m so Sorry 😐

[SCVDem]

93. Now we can say it!

Thoughts and prayers to you.
May you find peace and solace among your friends and family.

[denbot]

94. Our sympathies to you.

I could not bare to walk you path.

[krakfiend]

95. that is devastating

wish you the best. if you ever need anything, you know your du family is here.

[FuzzyRabbit]

96. Thinking of you on this horrible day.

Hang in there. In time the days will get better.

[gibraltar72]

97. I can't imagine what you are going through.

Hope you both have peace.

[MFM008]

98. So sorry

Your not alone.
I lost my mom Jan 1. 19
😪

[colorado_ufo]

99. So very, very sorry.

[Pepsidog]

100. I cannot imagine. God bless.

[rurallib]

101. deepest sympathy.

[Botany]

102. Dying ain't easy

https://democraticunderground.com/100211721300

[diva77]

103. I am so very very sorry

Hugs to you as you grieve and then begin to heal.

[Hoyt]

104. So sorry. Went through similar almost 10 years ago. All I can

say is take special care of yourself, things will get better. Take care.

[Soxfan58]

105. Make sure you take care of yourself

My wife and I send our condolences

[LyndaG]

106. Very sad for you and family

Very difficult to lose a loved one.

[fierywoman]

108. Peace be with you -- my deepest condolences.

[mopinko]

109. i am so sorry.

you were so lucky to have each other.
be kind to yourself, it's gonna be a bumpy ride for a while.

[Aristus]

110. I don't have the words...

But we're here for you...

[CaliforniaPeggy]

111. My deepest condolences, my dear Dingo...........

I have no words.......

[northoftheborder]

112. You have my deepest sympathy.

I can empathize having been through this experience twice. It is sad and numbing, no matter the circumstance. Take care of yourself, time will heal.

[dingosatemyusername]

113. again, thank you all for your sympathy

I lay the blame on the republicans and the games they played with the ACA. We live in one of the states that didn't do the medicaid expansion and we made far too little to qualify for a subsidy.

[TuxedoKat]

114. Ahh, so sorry

for what you are going through. I can't even imagine. (((HUGS)))

[easttexaslefty]

115. I'm so sorry

[Rhiannon12866]

116. I am so sorry!

Please know that we're all here for you, sending support and strength for as long as you need us.

[MissMillie]

117. My heart goes out to you.

Please be sure to take care of yourself, and to let your loved ones know what you need.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[skylucy]

118. Dear Dingo--I am so very very sorry.

[GeoWilliam750]

119. My deepest condolences

[uppityperson]

120. I am so sorry

[roody]

121. So so sorry.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

122. I understand that numb feeling.

I haven't lost a spouse, but I've had various other losses, and no matter how expected it is, when the person actually passes it's a shock.

From what you've posted you two had a good, if perhaps difficult life together, and I hope that moving on the good memories will sustain you.

[FM123]

123. Thinking of you and sending you warm thoughts.

[Niagara]

124. I'm sorry Dingo,

My condolences to you and yours.

[csziggy]

125. ,,

[Lefta Dissenter]

126. Oh, no.

I just can’t tell you how sorry I am. I hope you have good support around you. Lots of love to you from all of us here. I’m so, so sorry.

[Demsrule86]

127. I am so sorry.

[hibbing]

128. How sad, I'm so sorry to hear this n/t

[sheshe2]

129. I am so very sorry.

My heart is with you both.

[pnwmom]

130. Of course you feel numb. I am so sorry!

[LeftInTX]

131. I'm so sorry

I can't imagine....

[peacebuzzard]

132. I am so very sorry,

So sorry, dingo friend

[femmedem]

133. Oh no. I'm so sorry, Dingos.

I was so hoping she would make it.
I wish there was something I could say to make it hurt less.

[thinkingagain]

134. I'm so very sorry

[JudyM]

135. Very sorry, sending wishes for moments of comfort wherever and whenever they can find you.

I’ve learned that despite the awful pain, the Love lives on strong in your heart and will bring its own comfort to you, more over time.

[Lint Head]

136. My heart cries for you and your pain. Peace to you and

your family.

[benld74]

137. Condolences.

[Generic Brad]

138. You have my deepest sympathy

[AwakeAtLast]

139. I am so, so sorry

You have my deepest sympathies!

[nolabear]

140. No words.

[area51]

141. I'm so sorry.

[defacto7]

142. ...

[demgrrrll]

143. I am so sorry

[cpamomfromtexas]

144. My heart breaks for your loss.

[onecaliberal]

145. I am so very sorry...

[zanana1]

146. I know that words don't change a thing.

But I'm very, very sorry.

[LuckyCharms]

147. Oh no, I'm so sorry.

[Stuart G]

148. So very sorry

[catbyte]

149. I'm so very sorry, dingo

The same thing happened to my mother-in-law in 1992. She and my father-in-law were on vacation in Arizona. They were chatting in their motel room when all of a sudden, in the middle of a sentence, she got a blank look on her face, slumped over, and stopped breathing. My FIL gave her CPR until the ambulance arrived, just like you did. We lived in Michigan, and she held on long enough for my husband to get to the hospital, but was gone about a half hour after he arrived. I like to think that she was somehow aware and didn't want to leave until he got a chance to say goodbye. It was a massive cerebral hemorrhage in her brain stem. My heart sank when you wrote what happened because it sounded so familiar.

I lost my beloved husband in December 2014 and I miss him every day. Take as much time as you need to grieve. Again, I'm so, so sorry.

[panader0]

150. .................

[dem4decades]

151. Peace be with you.

[In_The_Wind]

152. I am so very sorry for your loss, dingosatemyusername.

[Glamrock]

153. I can't even imagine....

I'm so so sorry.

[dalton99a]

154. I'm very sorry to hear.

[onethatcares]

155. no words