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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsIn a few hours it will be Fathers Day.
I don't have one to celebrate with. I miss him.
My Father. He slipped quietly away from me early morning 11/09/2014. Alzheimer.
You?
Funtatlaguy
(10,892 posts)sheshe2
(83,986 posts)My dad was far from perfect. Very far, yet I loved him and he loved me.
Hugs~
Funtatlaguy
(10,892 posts)He was a terrible bigot. Hated women, Jews, gays, etc.
I learned what not to be from him.
sheshe2
(83,986 posts)sheshe2
(83,986 posts)My dad was far from perfect. Very far, yet I loved him and he loved me.
Hugs~
no_hypocrisy
(46,251 posts)sheshe2
(83,986 posts)SouthernIrish
(512 posts)I just try and remember how blessed I was to have such a good man for my Dad. It is hard to lose the ones we love, but we were very fortunate to have them in our lives while we did. You can still celebrate the day by remembering him and thinking of memories that put a smile on your face. He would be pleased with that.
Hugs, Jules
sheshe2
(83,986 posts)Good times and bad times.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,926 posts)April of 2011, Parkinson's. He was almost 92. Still miss him.
highmindedhavi
(355 posts)Passed on to me alot of what was then considered common knowledge, Airman in the late 60s, HS validictorian, last of his kind it seems.
Ohiogal
(32,130 posts)Heart attack triggered by an asthma attack.
He was 48 years old when I was born. He had two postgraduate degrees and was very smart, but he was also an alcoholic who was very bigoted. Most people who didnt know him real well thought he was a swell guy, and at times he could be witty and charming. We were not that close. I am glad I did not carry on with his beliefs.
frogmarch
(12,160 posts)when I was 15 years old. He had hypertension, but there was no treatment for it then. He went regularly for examinations at Fitzsimons General Hospital in Denver (then Fitzsimons Army Hospital), but there was nothing they could do.
I'm grateful for all the advances in medicine since then.
I think of my dad every day and still miss him a lot.
sheshe2
(83,986 posts)Way to young to lose a father, frogmarch.
So sorry for your loss and the years that you missed him.
frogmarch
(12,160 posts)It took me aback when I realized he's been gone this long. I remember him almost as if he was here yesterday. My mom died soon after, and I miss her lots too.
They didn't get to know my sisters and me as grownups, and now I'm a great-grandma. Wow, time.
sheshe2
(83,986 posts)You are blessed.
The wee ones are everything.
frogmarch
(12,160 posts)CincyDem
(6,411 posts)Long life. Rich in experiences. Quick end.
(and a lifelong hard core democrat who would be beside himself with the current state of affairs)
GaYellowDawg
(4,451 posts)Cancer.
He was the best man I've ever known. I had always hoped to be married, and ask him to be my best man. Never got an opportunity for either.
Golden Raisin
(4,614 posts)Seems like another lifetime ago. He was a narcissist, very cold, distant, severe and without any love for me. A lot of Trump's narcissistic traits and acts have echos and deep resonance for me: the name-calling, belittling, shaming, etc. I truly worry about and have great empathy for Barron.
He was 52. He was a wonderful dad and I still miss him.
MFM008
(19,826 posts)Died suddenly , age 69 September 11. 2000.
My mom age 81, after suffering for years this January.
I think of them both often.
Im just a 60 year crybaby orphan.
It hurts.
💋😘🤗
mnhtnbb
(31,410 posts)without their father who killed himself the day after his birthday last December 13th. I am having brunch with my oldest son today and hope to get him talking about his feelings. My youngest son communicates very little with me because he blames me for breaking up our 32 year marriage when I left my husband 13 months before he blew his brains out. It's a long story--I've posted some about it over the last 18 months--but not going into details now. Suffice it to say it's a difficult day.
My own father has been gone now for 17 years. He lived to be 91. Although he was what once was known as a Rockefeller Republican, I think he would be appalled by what has become of the Republican party. He was not an affectionate man, but I always knew he loved me.
LuckyCharms
(17,469 posts)He was a good man.
I'm sorry for your loss.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,670 posts)It was very sudden. I miss him. He was Bipolar and not diagnosed until I was a teenager. My parents divorced before I was a year old because of his unstable behavior. It wasn't easy dealing with him growing up but things improved when I was an adult. I feel bad for my 6 year old half-brother who has to grow up without him.
mentalsolstice
(4,462 posts)He passed away 9/7/2018. Its still raw to think about.
Fla Dem
(23,818 posts)mentalsolstice
(4,462 posts)He was truly a good man. He and my mom married for all the wrong reasons. He could have bailed out at anytime, and most people would not have blamed him. However, he and most of his family were very gracious under the circumstances. He lived a good long life, 87 years. I hate to say it, but I wish he had outlived my mom. He was much more easygoing and would have adapted easier to widowhood. On the other hand, she has always been manipulating and passive/aggressive.
I miss him!
Tribalceltic
(1,000 posts)I was just 19. His 14th heart attack killed him. I dropped out of College and got married. I miss him and feel so cheated about him not seeing how proud he would have been of me.
Not a day goes by I don't miss him.. to me he was the perfect father figure.
lapucelle
(18,372 posts)He was already in the Army and stationed in Hawaii. I have a picture of him standing under a palm tree next to a big Harley that he owned at the time. He was 23.
He saw action in the Pacific and in Europe. He had four Purple Heart medals and was transported home to New York on The Queen Mary which had been converted into a hospital ship.
He never talked about Pearl Harbor or the war. I found most of this out by accident over time. My mom told me about his Pearl Harbor service when I was about 11 and came home one December 8 all excited because a classmate told us that his uncle had been there.
The only part I remember hearing directly from him was about The Queen Mary.
My dad was always a small businessman. He bought a NYC taxi medallion and had a big yellow checker cab with two extra jump seats in the back. That was a good business before Reagan wrecked the middle class. My parents owned a pretty house and put three kids through school on that income. When we kids got to college, we all had to buy him a rear window college decal for his cab. He wanted everyone to know.
sheshe2
(83,986 posts)My dad was in the So Pacific at the same time. He was stationed on a minesweeper and awaiting orders to sweep the sea of Japan when Pearl Harbor was attacked.
Fla Dem
(23,818 posts)Great Dad and guy, hardly ever raised his voice. Worked 2 jobs most of the time when we were kids. Loved holidays and family events. Miss him and my Mom who passed at 62.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Maybe we'll meet again in Heaven.
He drank too much. He was only 54 when his heart gave out.
Harker
(14,067 posts)Why I have mixed feelings about someone who once told me that "everything was fine" until I came along... I'll probably never know.