Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:33 PM

mrmpa (4,033 posts)

Is it okay to network, while at a funeral home.

Okay, I'm going to my old neighborhood tonight to pay my respects to a man who was my basketball coach. He also contributed in many other ways to the community. He asked my advice about his oldest son and his career choices many years ago. I've known the man for over 40 years.

I will see many old acquaintances, many who are employed, self-employed and retired. I know the conversation will come around to what I'm doing. The answer to that question is, "I'm unemployed". Anything wrong with giving someone my card & information if they ask for it?

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14 replies	Author	Time	Post
Is it okay to network, while at a funeral home. (Original post)	mrmpa	Jun 2012	OP
I don't think he'd mind. He always wished you well.	rug	Jun 2012	#1
As long as you	sharp_stick	Jun 2012	#2
He probably wouldn't mind...	YellowRubberDuckie	Jun 2012	#3
Card is a good idea. If you mean by"information" resume', no. You should be prepared with a brief	ohiosmith	Jun 2012	#4
No definitely, not my resume.........	mrmpa	Jun 2012	#6
Funerals are social events.	Wait Wut	Jun 2012	#5
handing out your card	backtoblue	Jun 2012	#7
No chance of that.........I'm pretty laid back. eom	mrmpa	Jun 2012	#9
As long as you aren't a real estate agent contacting the	hedgehog	Jun 2012	#8
Update.........	mrmpa	Jun 2012	#10
He doesn't need his job anymore,	yortsed snacilbuper	Jun 2012	#11
Ha ha ha! More people than I can count have hooked up at family funerals	Xipe Totec	Jun 2012	#12
I would have sworn this thread was about that.	dimbear	Jun 2012	#14
Over 30 years ago, I put a computer network INTO a funeral home.	HopeHoops	Jun 2012	#13

Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:38 PM

rug (82,333 posts)

1. I don't think he'd mind. He always wished you well.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:43 PM

sharp_stick (14,400 posts)

2. As long as you

aren't trying to get people to help you sell Amway I think you'll be fine.

If they ask for your card or info feel free to give it to them.

I wouldn't be actively hunting at a funeral though.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:50 PM

YellowRubberDuckie (19,736 posts)

3. He probably wouldn't mind...

...just be subtle and nonchalant about it.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:52 PM

ohiosmith (24,262 posts)

4. Card is a good idea. If you mean by"information" resume', no. You should be prepared with a brief

oral description of your experience, skills and background if anyone asks what you're looking for.

Good luck.

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Response to ohiosmith (Reply #4)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 03:00 PM

mrmpa (4,033 posts)

6. No definitely, not my resume.........

just my card with contact info. Tonight's visitation will be close to what an Irish wake is like. Funeral is scheduled for Wednesday.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 02:55 PM

Wait Wut (8,492 posts)

5. Funerals are social events.

During the funeral, obviously not, but afterwards it's about family and friends. If someone asks you for your information, that tells me they care enough about you to look out for you. When emotions are high, humanity kicks in and we tend to want to protect those around us. Give them your card and make them feel good.

Good luck to you.

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Wed Jun 13, 2012, 03:51 PM

backtoblue (10,919 posts)

7. handing out your card

as a way of "staying in touch" or getting ahold of you in the future is perfectly fine in my book. people often give out their card and info at funerals because this is probably one of the few times those people will get together. go for it, just don't "pimp" yourself in an obvious or offensive way.

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Response to backtoblue (Reply #7)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 05:43 PM

mrmpa (4,033 posts)

9. No chance of that.........I'm pretty laid back. eom

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 03:57 PM

hedgehog (36,286 posts)

8. As long as you aren't a real estate agent contacting the

widow to list the house!

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Wed Jun 13, 2012, 08:59 PM

mrmpa (4,033 posts)

10. Update.........

Just got back from the funeral home, it was packed. Did talk to two people, one who is a lawyer and the other in HR for a marketing firm, both asked for my card.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 09:11 PM

yortsed snacilbuper (7,939 posts)

11. He doesn't need his job anymore,

go for it!

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Wed Jun 13, 2012, 09:13 PM

Xipe Totec (43,682 posts)

12. Ha ha ha! More people than I can count have hooked up at family funerals

Including me, at at aunts funeral, and a cousin at my father's funeral...

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Response to Xipe Totec (Reply #12)

Thu Jun 14, 2012, 09:19 PM

dimbear (6,271 posts)

14. I would have sworn this thread was about that.

Happens all the time. People start thinking about eternity, bam.

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Response to mrmpa (Original post)

Thu Jun 14, 2012, 06:07 PM

HopeHoops (47,675 posts)

13. Over 30 years ago, I put a computer network INTO a funeral home.

It was pretty gross. I had to crawl through the dirt under the floor joists (about 14" clearance) to run parallel cable to the server (an Apple II with a Corvus 5MB hard drive hanging off of it) and got bitten by dozens of really pissed off spiders. I still like spiders, mind you. I drilled holes in the wall from underneath and managed to cram (what I think was a 32-wire cable) up through them by twisting it like a soda straw casing. Amazingly it worked.

It took about three showers and two washer loads to get me and the clothes clean.

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