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spinbaby

(15,088 posts)
Sun May 17, 2020, 08:37 AM May 2020

Hoarders marathon on TV now

I can sort of understand the compulsive shoppers, I can even sort of understand how animal hoarders get to where they are, but I completely don’t understand people who fail to throw away trash and live in a pile of food wrappers.

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Hoarders marathon on TV now (Original Post) spinbaby May 2020 OP
What station! True Blue American May 2020 #1
A&E spinbaby May 2020 #3
LOL! True Blue American May 2020 #12
It is a mental disorder mercuryblues May 2020 #2
I understand it's a mental disorder spinbaby May 2020 #7
Been there, but True Blue American May 2020 #13
Admittedly I have never watched the show, am fully aware of the issues, but I have to ask... hlthe2b May 2020 #4
Reality shows are the modern equivalent of the old freak shows Ron Obvious May 2020 #5
Two reasons I watch it spinbaby May 2020 #6
Boredom usually True Blue American May 2020 #15
I watch every once in a while... Phentex May 2020 #19
I can't help it MissB May 2020 #23
As is the case with mental disorders Cirque du So-What May 2020 #8
I too find the programs offensive and exploitative, chia May 2020 #11
I can't watch this show, it makes me feel itchy inside. lark May 2020 #9
I've watched it off and on, and it always makes me want to clean up. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2020 #10
Not lazy True Blue American May 2020 #17
My neighbor across the alleyway from me Phoenix61 May 2020 #14
I had a neighbor once (when I lived in a high rise condo while finishing a grad degree) who was a hlthe2b May 2020 #16
My Trump loving neighbor True Blue American May 2020 #18
I hate this show jimfields33 May 2020 #20
We're on our second weekend (of what's looking to be four) of Spring Cleaning. Iggo May 2020 #21
I watched a dear friend in abad marriage devolve into hoarding. LakeArenal May 2020 #22
I think I'll just watch this instead of cleaning up my house. Laffy Kat May 2020 #24

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
1. What station!
Sun May 17, 2020, 08:47 AM
May 2020

I usually watch a couple, then get up and throw out things! I have come a long way in that regard. A clean person but inclined to collect.

I have cleaned out my garage. The builder of my second story sun deck to replace a sun room took two truck loads. Boy Scouts and Veteran Charities love me. Closets, small collections, most gone.

In pretty good shape now but have to wonder what causes them to live in filth!

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
12. LOL!
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:13 AM
May 2020

I found it, but right now I do not feel like cleaning.

I have one closet to go, but hey I found a bag full of Kennedy half dollars and Eisenhower Dollars.

They have already been confiscated to see if they are worth anything.

mercuryblues

(14,521 posts)
2. It is a mental disorder
Sun May 17, 2020, 08:52 AM
May 2020

Usually occurring after an emotional trauma or abuse. That is why hoarders will go right back to the same behavior once their home is cleaned out, if the underlying issue is not dealt with.

spinbaby

(15,088 posts)
7. I understand it's a mental disorder
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:46 AM
May 2020

I have a couple of hoarders in the family—one is a compulsive shopper, another has a sentimental attachment to everything. I at least understand what their motivation is. What I can’t imagine is being in such a dark place that I can’t throw out a pizza box.

hlthe2b

(102,105 posts)
4. Admittedly I have never watched the show, am fully aware of the issues, but I have to ask...
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:06 AM
May 2020

WHY do people watch a show about it? It would seem to me depressing unless it somehow motivated watchers to declutter and organize... Seriously... Why do you watch?

 

Ron Obvious

(6,261 posts)
5. Reality shows are the modern equivalent of the old freak shows
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:32 AM
May 2020

Point and laugh at the mentally ill, the super-obese, the weird etc to feel better about yourself.

I don't want to watch any of them.


spinbaby

(15,088 posts)
6. Two reasons I watch it
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:42 AM
May 2020

First reason is that I have hoarders in my family and I struggle to understand them. Second reason is that the show motivates me to clean like a maniac.

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
19. I watch every once in a while...
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:56 AM
May 2020

because I have a hoarder friend and I want to try and understand. Also, it motivates me to clean something. But I have to be in the right frame of mind or it's just too sad to watch.

MissB

(15,803 posts)
23. I can't help it
Sun May 17, 2020, 06:59 PM
May 2020

My mother is a serious hoarder. She has pathways and rooms that she can’t get into. Her bedrooms are crammed full with stuff to the point where you can’t get in. She sleeps in a camper in the back yard. She can sit in one spot in the living room and kitchen.

I’ve never been to her house. My brother has shared pictures. I just can’t.

I find that by watching the show now and then, I can sort of understand my mother a bit more.

Cirque du So-What

(25,907 posts)
8. As is the case with mental disorders
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:48 AM
May 2020

it is impossible to 'understand' the motivations and actions of those afflicted. Imposing values and using thought processes from the larger society doesn't work.

I find 'reality shows' focused on the mentally ill offensive and exploitative. Aside from money-grubbing producers, who benefits from open-air interventions that expose every humiliation for public sport?

chia

(2,244 posts)
11. I too find the programs offensive and exploitative,
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:10 AM
May 2020

and would feel like I was personally joining in the exploitation by watching them. I would hope that these individuals would benefit from therapeutic intervention, but as with other disorders, they may not feel like they need an intervention, nor would one necessarily be successful.

lark

(23,059 posts)
9. I can't watch this show, it makes me feel itchy inside.
Sun May 17, 2020, 09:51 AM
May 2020

I can stand some clutter, I have clothes that are ancient and my husband probably has 200 t shirts, but both of us basically like a clean house. I just can't stand filth and clutter and can't stand to see how bad most of these folks are at managing "stuff". Maybe because my sister is a hoarder and I've seen how it's narrowed her once vibrant life that this makes me so ill? She wasn't always like this, it picked up big time after her 2nd divorce. She's always been a kind of "cluttery" person, but at least she is very clean. But after divorcing her 2nd husband, she couldn't seem to get rid of anything else. So I definitely think there's some kind of loss avoidance involved. I can't explain the hoarders who are also food and waste hoarders and those are obviously far worse off and often filthy.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,576 posts)
10. I've watched it off and on, and it always makes me want to clean up.
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:08 AM
May 2020

I'm not a hoarder - I have no problem with throwing things away if I don't need them - but I'm lazy, so stuff doesn't get sorted out and put away as it should. Right now I have a bunch of boxes in the living room that contain miscellaneous office supplies, business documents and the like and I haven't dealt with them. I'm stuck at home and this would be the perfect time to deal with that crap. I guess I should watch "Hoarders" for inspiration. I do kind of get being a packrat but not throwing away garbage is just bizarre.

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
17. Not lazy
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:24 AM
May 2020

Just do not have the time to keep up!

A funny here. My Son has to go through things, so I usually just call and get rid of them. Many of the things he wants has to do with his Dad. Dad was a Volunteer Fireman so he wanted his red light off his car. A memento.

After several years as he was cleaning out his own house he hooked the light up to his riding mower. His wife remarked,” Now, you have fixed another useless thing, get rid of it!”

But he builds beautiful furniture.

Phoenix61

(16,992 posts)
14. My neighbor across the alleyway from me
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:15 AM
May 2020

is a hoarder. It’s unbelievable how much stuff he has accumulated. It’s spreading onto an empty lot next-door to him.

hlthe2b

(102,105 posts)
16. I had a neighbor once (when I lived in a high rise condo while finishing a grad degree) who was a
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:22 AM
May 2020

shopaholic. She ordered from QVC and all the half dozen or more competitors apparently every day. I never entered her condo, but never saw evidence of her returning much of it--nor stacks of boxes in the trash area. So, I always wondered where on earth all that stuff went...

Not my business of course, but...

True Blue American

(17,981 posts)
18. My Trump loving neighbor
Sun May 17, 2020, 10:27 AM
May 2020

Must have gotten the Trump checks he blamed Nancy was holding up. 2 Fed Ex Trucks left half a driveway full of boxes last week!

Iggo

(47,534 posts)
21. We're on our second weekend (of what's looking to be four) of Spring Cleaning.
Sun May 17, 2020, 11:23 AM
May 2020

I actually think Spring might be over before we're done. If I watch the show you're watching. I'll think I'm the one with the mental illness. Seriously. I had to buy a shredder to get rid of boxes correspondence (opened and unopened) from all the way back to 1996. I overheated it twice...lol. Now I'm going through "notes and musings" also from all the way back to the mid-nineties.

It's like going through a dead person's stuff.

LakeArenal

(28,798 posts)
22. I watched a dear friend in abad marriage devolve into hoarding.
Sun May 17, 2020, 12:20 PM
May 2020

Even to the point she wouldn’t let me in anymore. Cat poop all over the basement. It was a very sad time. She originally was meticulous.

She had to leave the house just full of stuff Some of it valuable. Just left it. Eloped with an old friend after her husband passed away.

No longer a hoarder.

“All the lonely people, where do they all come from?
All the lonely people, where do they all belong?”🎶

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