Question about online dating

[Rizen]

I got a message from a woman who I would be interested in but she's too far away (this is what sucks about living in CO). Would it be good to reply with "Hi. I really like your profile but I'm in ________ and _______'s too far away. Thanks for the message and I'm sorry this didn't work out." Or would it be better to simply not respond? I know how frustrating it is to never get responses.

[qazplm135]

1. I would respond

And let her know. For all you know, she's planning on moving to your area soon.

[pnwest]

2. You're exactly right, no response sucks. It's

kind of you to take that into consideration and she will appreciate it.

[Kali]

3. nothing wrong with getting to know someone far away

it is not the 1700s, there are cars, planes, moving companies

[Hoyt]

4. I'd leave off the "Sorry it didn't work out." I think she'd feel good about the response.

Heck, for all you know, she has a relative nearby she decides to visit, or is interested in going to Colorado for a few months or longer.

Just say that you are in CO. In this world, you never know how things might workout.

[cayugafalls]

5. Respond.

And rather than saying sorry this didn't work out, say "perhaps we can meet someday in the future or correspond via emails for a while."

You never know, things change and people move around. Keep your options open.

Of course, what do I know, I've never done online dating...lol.

[Laffy Kat]

6. Don't write her off due to geography!

I know a couple who met online across the country from each other. They eventually got hitched and have been so, so happy. It can work!

[mnhtnbb]

7. Another vote for not making the decision that she's too far away.

Egads, haven't you ever seen Sleepless in Seattle?

Of course, that's only a movie and it was years ago.

Now, plenty of people are working from home and could do that from just about anywhere. Or, she could have the kind of job that is easily found elsewhere (health care, for instance).

Take the time to talk on the phone, e-mail, zoom, whatever and see if there might be a reason to overcome the challenge of not being in the same geographical area at the moment.