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This day, in a cabaret in West Berlin, I was introduced to "my friend from the Northwest (of Germany)."
She took my breath away, and I figured, a nerd like me would never have a chance with a girl like that. Fortunately, it dawned upon me just in time that if I kept that kind of attitude, I never WOULD have a chance with a girl like that.
It turns out, I had a chance after all. We are still together, now grandparents.
Lucky her? Can't say. Lucky me? OH yeah .
Then:
A little wedding day when we finally had the time:
In between:
A little later on in between in Washington:
And pretty close to now:
And when we no longer can carry on, our daughters will:
When we met at age 22, we thought age 46 was ANCIENT. Now that we are 68, and we've been together for 46 years, we just think--wasn't that just yesterday?
elleng
(130,156 posts)Alliepoo
(2,196 posts)Id say you are all very lucky!!!
DFW
(54,056 posts)But, yes, we've had the good fortune to have ourselves, and that counts for a lot.
Freedomofspeech
(4,218 posts)What a beautiful family...looks like you have had a lovely life and a lovely wife!
DFW
(54,056 posts)We never asked for a free ride, and never got one.
As for my wife, she is one one those cases that elicit the question, "what is a woman like HER doing with a jerk like HIM?" I'm used to it by now, and, to tell you the truth, I STILL don't know the answer!
safeinOhio
(32,531 posts)You found yours.
Way to go.
DFW
(54,056 posts)Indeed--she was mine.
brush
(53,475 posts)DFW
(54,056 posts)In this respect, at least, you are exactly right.
Kitchari
(2,157 posts)Thanks for sharing your family photos.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)and a smile to my face. Congratulations to you both. BEAUTIFUL family.
DFW
(54,056 posts)Thanks for the kind words!
BComplex
(7,984 posts)I am in a really happy marriage, too. There's nothing better imho.
DFW
(54,056 posts)tblue37
(64,982 posts)Dem2theMax
(9,595 posts)But you have no idea of how happy it makes me when I read about people who did.
Happy anniversary! The anniversary of the first day of the rest of your lives! And may the coming years be as filled with love as the past years have been.
DFW
(54,056 posts)And never say it's too late. Miracles always pop up when you think the last train has already left the station.
Dem2theMax
(9,595 posts)I'm turning the age of a specific Beatles song in less than two weeks.
DFW
(54,056 posts)I know, I know, that's not the real title of the song.
Still, one of her girlfriends in Germany found improbable happiness at age 71.
So, it's NOT impossible.
Dem2theMax
(9,595 posts)And thanks for the encouraging news. 71?
Yep, that's very encouraging!
erronis
(14,955 posts)I looked pretty much scraggly like you back in '68 when I met my first. Love and lust are good things while they last.
Now love is the main component, along with trust and experience. Maturing isn't all that bad!
DFW
(54,056 posts)If only with the utmost reluctance!!
Mr. Ected
(9,670 posts)And what a wonderful journey.
I wish for you another 46, as long as you don't wish another 45 upon us (that's a little joke that I hope makes sense!)
DFW
(54,056 posts)As for 45, this was one of my little comments on that:
Karadeniz
(22,279 posts)SaveOurDemocracy
(4,398 posts)Must be rough hanging out with all those beautiful women!
DFW
(54,056 posts)But someone has to do it, and no one else volunteered at the time. So, what else was I to do?
iluvtennis
(19,758 posts)DFW
(54,056 posts)Right place, right time, right language taken in college (she spoke little English at the time).
Funny thing--I was exotic as all hell to her (an American who spoke German, imagine that!), and America was like the dark side of the moon: far away, and highly unlikely (so she thought) that she would ever see it.
iluvtennis
(19,758 posts)thru 11 years of marriage I never learned more than single words and phrases...could never construct sentences.
My Italy born husband speaks 5 languages- Italian, English, Spanish, French, and German. Our daughters speak Italian, English, and Spanish ( Spanish immersion K-6 school). Mom is the "ugly American" that speaks only English ( not from lack of trying though).
Again, congrats on 46 years of marriage!
DFW
(54,056 posts)We MET 46 years ago. We never found the time to get married until 8 years later. In December, 1981, my brother invited me to his wedding the next April. I said I would have to see if my (then-) girlfriend could make it as well. He said, well if we were both going to be there, we should make it a double wedding. So we did.
The funniest part was the parents' table at the reception. Germans, Japanese, and my (our) American parents. No one spoke the languages of any of the others, so there was a lot of sign language going on.
I need a lot of languages for my work. So far, I can hold my own in English, Russian, German, Spanish, French, Dutch, Swedish, Catalan and Italian. Also Schwyzerdüütsch (Swiss German), which is language if you ask the Swiss, and gibberish if you ask the Germans. I can sorta fake it in Polish as long as you keep the conversation VERY basic.
Hekate
(90,202 posts)DFW
(54,056 posts)Considering what you've just been going through. I know you have had a few less pleasant things to contend with recently.
panader0
(25,816 posts)Pure chance. There is, of course, the real date of the wedding anniversary, but in real importance, this anniversary of our meeting has just as much meaning to us.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)Lovely family.
DFW
(54,056 posts)We can't let the darkness take over completely, can we?
Marthe48
(16,692 posts)I am happy to see the joy in living
DFW
(54,056 posts)She has had cancer twice, and the second time, it was a form known in Germany as "the murderer," since it is never discovered until it's too late to be treated. Since she had had cancer once before, she gets tested frequently, and goes the doctor at the slightest suspicion of anything wrong. Because of that, "the murderer" was caught way before it had a chance to spread--that one case in ten thousand where it happened that way.
I have had heart issues since 2004. When I felt something was wrong in April of that year, I badgered a German cardiologist into examining me right away after his office said they had no appointments free for the next two months. I said I was not on any German insurance plan and would pay up front immediately. Oh, in THAT case, I could come in that afternoon. Good thing. Within 72 hours, I was having two stents put into my arteries, and the surgeon who put them there said I had two coronary arteries 99% blocked, and was the luckiest man in Europe that day. He said I could just have easily had a fatal heart attack on the way down to the OR. The only thing he said in English all day was "just in time."
So, yes, you can definitely say we have the joy of living, since both of us came so close to losing our lives.
Marthe48
(16,692 posts)We were married in 1971. In 1888, a doctor suspected my husband had throat cancer. The doctor was wrong, but we were attentive to his health from then on. My gyn suspected I had cancer in 1996, but it was all the damage from the Dalkon Shield. But again, paid attention. I think after 1988, we felt freer to live so we could be as happy as we could be. In 1916, his luck ran out. My dear heart was diagnosed with esophageal cancer, and passed away in 2017. We had watched his throat and his lungs, but this cancer near his stomach, blindsided us.
We married a year after we met, and had 45 years of marriage, almost 46.
I am always happy to hear about people who are going the distance, and loving every minute of the race
LeftInTX
(24,560 posts)7wo7rees
(5,128 posts):hearts:
It was the best I could come up with on such short notice that is one lifetime.
Niagara
(7,407 posts)I wish you both many more happy milestones and you have a beautiful family.
We'll take as many as fate is willing to give us.
Stuart G
(38,365 posts)DFW
(54,056 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,308 posts)I never tire of seeing your wonderful photos! Congrats on this amazing milestone.
You both were very lucky to have found each other! In the whole wide world, what chance exists for these two to meet and fall in love?
My best to both you and your lovely wife!
DFW
(54,056 posts)All the more reason to jump at the opportunity!
Of course, at age 22, all we thought was, "that was nice, too bad Berlin and Philadelphia, where I was living, are so far away." But I knew right from the start that this was THE one for me, and as long as she was somewhere accessible in this solar system, I was determined NOT to let her get away. That she was OK with that is something I still haven't figured out, but who's complaining?
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)What a beautiful family you have! You are very lucky and I can tell you are very proud of them all, including your grandchildren (has the 2nd one been born yet?)
DFW
(54,056 posts)Her "big" sister is already a character.
On Saturday, we went out with our US-based daughter and her husband. We were lucky to get a table with a view right on the water in Provincetown. The sunset was right out of a Robert Cardinal painting.
Phentex
(16,330 posts)Happy for you both!
DFW
(54,056 posts)FakeNoose
(32,356 posts)Congratulations and well done! Thanks for sharing your pictures.
DFW
(54,056 posts)But it wasn't a day to reflect on the down parts--rather just to be happy we made it this far, and celebrate the good.
I lucked out in several ways, none so great as meeting her, and, best of all, keeping her.