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[Soph0571]

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[diane in sf]

1. I'm glad you got to be with him.

[Soph0571]

168. It was such a blessing

Not many get this in the time of Covid. My heart will always be thankful to those in the hospital that made it happen.

[mnhtnbb]

2. Oh, Soph, I'm glad you were able to be with him and

So sorry he is gone too soon.
Hugs for you, my friend.

[Soph0571]

165. I got to spend the whole night with him

He was not conscious, but i think that he could hear me. We 'talked all night' and I was stroking his face as he died. It was remarkable in this time of Covid that they found the space for me to be there and for that I will be forever grateful.

[lillypaddle]

3. Oh Soph ...

my heart aches for you. You did everything possible to keep him close to you. I know he had to feel your love, every minute, every second, every day. There's no more that anyone could ask.

Now your healing will begin - it must, even if you don't feel yet like healing. But even before that, you deserve some good sleep (with pleasant dreams), some good food and nourishment, and time to fully grieve.

He loved you, you loved him. That's all we really have in this world. Hold the good memories close.

[Soph0571]

169. A decade of a soul mate

Is much more than many can hope for, thank you for your kind words. It has been a difficult week, and I know more is to come. But he would hate me to be a morose snivelling bint. I can hear him now telling me to pull my socks up and get on with it. He was a stiff upper lip chap.

[lillypaddle]

186. That made me smile.

Maybe he was a stiff upper lip chap, but we know he had a very soft spot for you.

[Soph0571]

188. Yeah his stiff upper lip crumbled when it came to me 😂n/t

[barbtries]

4. I'm so sorry.

hugs to you. I hate the thought of you being alone through this. Please check in as the spirit moves you.

Also so glad you were able to be by his side.

[Soph0571]

170. Thank you so much ❤ n/t

[brer cat]

5. I'm so sorry, Soph.

Take time out for yourself to grieve and heal.

[Soph0571]

171. Too much bloody time Brer

Cause of new Covid restrictions I can't even get a bunch of us together for a wake. So I sit alone, and that is shit.

[dawg day]

6. I'm glad you were there.

so sorry you have lost him.

[Soph0571]

172. Thank you for your kind words n/t

[Jim__]

7. I am so sorry.

[More_Cowbell]

8. I'm so sorry, but I'm glad you were there

I'll be thinking of you.

[polmaven]

9. My **deepest** condolences

to you, Soph! May he Rest in Peace, forever feeling your love for him.

[littlemissmartypants]

10. (((((Soph)))))

❤ lmsp

[Soph0571]

173. Thanks love

All of what you said.

[babylonsister]

11. Hugs to you, Soph.

[Soph0571]

174. Thank you

All hugs are welcome for the forseeable

[murielm99]

12. Soph, I am so sorry.

[Soph0571]

175. Thank you so much ❤ n/t

[N_E_1 for Tennis]

13. ...

[Soph0571]

176. Yep n/t

[livetohike]

14. I'm so sorry for your loss Soph. Holding you in my thoughts

for comfort and peace. May every good memory of your times together help to comfort you.

[a la izquierda]

15. Oh I am so terribly sorry.

My heart breaks for you.

[Soph0571]

166. When you get here, it is now your duty to get drunk with me

I am shattered, but I am a strong old bird. There has been some serious ugly crying going on, but that is hardly surprising. We spent the last 10 years as our own little bubble, so it is very hard that the bubble has burst.

[a la izquierda]

196. Absolutely I will...

In the meantime, know that you’re loved and we’re all pulling for you.
See you soon x

[Squinch]

16. Oh, Soph... my heart is with you...

[gademocrat7]

17. Condolences, dear Soph

I am glad you were able to be with him. Holding you close in my prayers.

[fleur-de-lisa]

18. . . .

[rurallib]

19. {{Soph}}

[pazzyanne]

20. So sorry, Soph057.

May you receive comfort from your family, friends, and wonderful memories. Prayers for you are in the wind.

[duforsure]

21. So sorry for your loss.

[Ligyron]

22. I am so glad you got to be with him for those final moments.

I don't know if you got that room and were able to spend a significant amount of time.

I had just written a long post proposing a mass intervention on who or what denied you 2 that room if they actually did

I'm atheist but will think good, positive thoughts about you as you go through the grieving process and I urge you not to miss any steps along the way in doing so or leave any unfulfilled as I once did being male. Women are usually more sensible about this process, especially in releasing stress and sadness by crying. Still, it can happen so it pays to be aware.

You seem to have a lot of friends here, don't be afraid to call for help if it gets too much wherever you are.

Peace, bobby

[Soph0571]

167. Got that room

Got to the hospital at 2200 GMT and he died at 0830 the next morning and I was there every step of the way. He was also an atheist. A church of England atheist but an atheist none the less - a very English thing! LOL. I am blessed in this time of Covid to be with him at the end. Not many people are so fortunate.

[Ligyron]

187. Oh, that's wonderful and I am so glad things worked out for you both.

Must be some good people there at that hospital.

You know it's funny, I was an Anglican myself growing up...

[dawn5651]

23. i am so sorry soph

[NNadir]

24. Deepest condolences.

[MissMillie]

25. I'm so very sorry

[vercetti2021]

26. I'm so sorry honey

God I can't imagine. Please know we love you and we'll be here when you need us.

[tavernier]

27. We are here for you.

DU heldped me through the loss of my father and husband. Never doubt that you have family here.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

28. So very sorry, Soph.

I'll be thinking of you, and holding you in my heart.

[diddlysquat]

29. I'm so sorry

[Sanity Claws]

30. My condolences

Peace to you in this difficult time. My experience is that the enormity of the loss will hit in a couple of days.

[LittleGirl]

31. Cyber hugs to you :-(

[catbyte]

32. I'm so very sorry, Soph.

[sl8]

33. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Callalily]

34. Very sorry to hear about his news.

Your husband may not be there for you in person, but his love will always stay beside you and around you. His memory lives on in your heart. (((((hugs)))))

[Soph0571]

177. Still at the really really hurts stage

Quite frankly if he is keeping tabs he is going to be very cross at how wet I being...

[soothsayer]

35. I'm so sorry

[SheltieLover]

36. Deepest condolences, (((SOPH)))

I am so sorry for your loss, Soph, but glad you were able to be with your loved one when he transitioned. I hope you are able to find comfort in your memories.

Please remember to engage in good self-care, eat sleep, and do some good deep breathing to stay centered.

Remember your DU family is here for you!

Healing vibes on the way to you!

[gab13by13]

37. You have many loving friends here Soph,

You made me feel like I know you well. You helped us here, I never missed your posts, now we are here for you.
My heart goes out to you.

[NurseJackie]

38. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

[empedocles]

39. Sincerest . . .

[LiberalLoner]

40. I'm so sorry for your loss. 😭

[Illumination]

41. Take good care of YOU!...

[MFM008]

42. Sorry

[flamin lib]

43. Peace.

I grieve with you.

[samnsara]

44. (((hugs)))

[Frustratedlady]

45. My sincere condolences.

You need time to gather your thoughts and to grieve in your own time. Hugs!

[PJMcK]

46. My heart breaks for you, Soph

Treasure your memories and care for your heart.

Find some peace.

We'll be here later.

[Blue_playwright]

47. I am so so sorry.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself right now. It’s hard to do it, but he would want you to.

[TxDemChem]

48. Very sorry for your loss Soph

[Alacritous Crier]

49. Condolences...

[judesedit]

50. Thank goodness you were there with him. We're all thinking of and praying for you

You put yourself aside and did all you could for him. He certainly appreciated it. Take time to mourn. Then it'll be time to move on and pass on your love to others. It is so needed in the world at this time. God bless you for being such a wonderful partner and hanging in there. xo

[sazemisery]

51. So sorry for your loss. n/t

[judesedit]

52. Thank goodness you were there with him. We're all thinking of and praying for you

You put yourself aside and did all you could for him. He certainly appreciated it. Take time to mourn. Then it'll be time to move on and pass on your love to others. It is so needed in the world at this time. God bless you for being such a wonderful partner and hanging in there. xo

[irisblue]

53. Soph, may you find hearts ease soon.

🕯️

[Freedomofspeech]

54. Sending you love and peace...

[Midnight Writer]

55. Sorry to hear. I hope you both find peace.

[Laffy Kat]

56. Oh, Soph, I am so sorry. nt

[LuckyCharms]

57. Soph0571, I'm very sorry.

[yardwork]

58. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Kitchari]

59. So sorry

Wishing you peace

[TNNurse]

60. He is at peace,

hope you find some comfort in that in time...it takes time.

Hopefully you gain some comfort from knowing people here and elsewhere are thinking about you.

[Soph0571]

178. I take comfort in that now

He went far too quickly, but we knew he did not have much time. I thought we might get one more Christmas. But he went down hill so quickly last week, he was in so so much pain. They tried their hardest but his kidneys went and potassium went to insane levels. Dying was a blessing for him, not so much for me. But he is out of pain and that for me is always the front and centre in my grieving process.

[TNNurse]

183. Please know that we will keep you in our thoughts.

Knowing that people care really does help.

[handmade34]

61. ...

[sinkingfeeling]

62. Much sympathy to you.

[LuvJoe]

63. He will always be in your heart🙏

[LuvJoe]

64. He will always be in your heart🙏

[marked50]

65. Peace to you.

[csziggy]

66. Condolences, Soph n/t

[Lars39]

67. I am so sorry for your loss, Soph.

[Wicked Blue]

68. My deepest sympathy to you

[Maraya1969]

69. I wish you peace that passes understanding throughout this hard time.

[Blue Owl]

70. Peace be with you...

[Cosmo Blues]

71. Almost

Anything you need

[Soph0571]

131. I am drunk

Like a drunk mans drunk things cause the Laird is gone. My heart is broken.

[Cosmo Blues]

138. Cheers

Just don't go out and watch out for sharp corners. That should pass some time for a few hours. I'll give a toast to you in about 3 hours. You may share my heart until yours starts to mend, I wish I could do more.

[N3w0rld]

154. I am a Laird

My maiden name is Laird. Been through this. Cuts like a knife. But you are strong. One day at a time, each day is easier.

[JDC]

72. I'm so sorry. Best wishes

[CaliforniaPeggy]

73. Oh my dear Soph, I am so very sorry.

It's a huge loss.

We are all holding you close as you travel through this landscape of loss in the midst of love.

How wonderful it was to be there with him!

Please take care of yourself.......and come back to us when you're ready. We'll keep the light on for you.

[mia]

74. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[GemDigger]

75. I am heartbroken for you Soph.

Your JJ was a kind and incredibly funny man. I feel honored that he shared his wit and humor with us for as long as he could. I am saddened that the people here didn't get a chance to know him because they would have loved and appreciated him as much as I do.

My heart is with you Dear Soph.

[Soph0571]

179. I tired to call whitedove last night

But she was out. So many that did not know him here but knew him elsewhere have reached out. We were all blessed to know him, me more than any. Gem this fucking sucks. And we cannot even have a funeral until like The 10th October cause Covid.

[GemDigger]

191. I am glad that so many have reached out to you and for you.

Anyone and everyone who knew him liked him, that is the kind of guy he was. Not being able to have a funeral in a timely manner is hard on the heart. You are right, this sucks.

Pace yourself hon, and don't forget to eat. He would be pissed if you didn't take care of you.

I know some of the peeps are on twitter (I am not) but if you are: fieryone, lorretta, plantsmantx, john galt, bernie, mcspocky and a few others. I am sending you a DU email with my phone number if you ever want to talk, I am a good listener. If you just want to listen to someone I can talk your ear off.



Also I am not sure if you saw this but it was last night and now buried. It is to you and for you.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181407256

[Fla Dem]

76. Soph my heart goes out to you and your family. So glad you were with him in the end.

He will be with you always.

[Wawannabe]

77. My heart with you

[Heartstrings]

78. He's forever in your heart.....

My condolences....

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

79. I'm so sorry!

but I hope you can take a little comfort in the fact that you were with him. Your devotion and your presence meant everything to him.

[Aristus]

80. ...

[deek]

81. peace to you nt

,

[Phentex]

82. Hugs to you...

My heart goes out to you.

We will be here for you when you choose to return. Take good care of yourself.

[AwakeAtLast]

83. Very sorry for your loss!

Sending lots of love and hugs!

[Solly Mack]

84. I am so sorry.

[live love laugh]

85. I am very sorry for your loss 🙏🏽

[Harker]

86. You were there for him

and he'll be with you forever.

[kpete]

87. so sorry

hugs,
kp

[Dem2theMax]

88. Along with everyone else, I'm so glad you were by his side.

Weeping for you. I'm so sorry you both had to go through this. Please take care of yourself. We are here for you.

[jmbar2]

89. He knew that he was deeply loved all the way to his transition

I wish you peace during this time of grief. You have honored his life so lovingly on this board.

[Oppaloopa]

90. So sorry my friend

[3catwoman3]

91. Wishing you some strength and serenity.

You’ve been leaned on. It’s time to do some leaning of your own.

[kimbutgar]

92. I'm so sorry Sop0571

You were fortunate you were there!

Did you feel him when he left? I was with my mother when she passed and I felt her spirit leaving passing though me with a last hug and though I was sad I felt at peace. I hope you had that.

[Richard D]

93. Condolences

[ms liberty]

94. Ah Soph, I'm so sorry.

[ChazInAz]

95. So sorry.

From personal experience, I know how hard this has been for you.

[StarryNite]

96. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[CaptYossarian]

97. This is such terrible news.

I am so genuinely sorry for your loss.

[Niagara]

98. I'm so sorry to hear this, Soph.

I'm sending you strength, thoughts and prayers.


Take all the time that you need to grieve.

[voteearlyvoteoften]

99. 💙💙💙

😘😢

[bearssoapbox]

100. Comforting vibes 🤗 to you.

So Sorry. Please take care of yourself.

[CaptainTruth]

101. I'm so sorry, you are in our thoughts...

[RainCaster]

102. So sorry to hear of your loss, Soph

[Cha]

103. I know it's so hard, Soph.. I

am so Sorry for your unbearable loss.

[Marie Marie]

104. Oh this is too sad. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.

[catrose]

105. I'm glad you were there. Wishing you comfort in the coming days.

[sheshe2]

106. I am so sorry, Soph.

Condolences to you and your family.

[seta1950]

107. I'm so sorry for your loss

Virtual 🤗 hugs to you

[Ilsa]

108. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙 nt

[AmyStrange]

109. I hope I die with someone like you by my side...

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Condolences!
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[GeoWilliam750]

110. Deepest sympathy

I can say no more

[Alliepoo]

111. I'm glad you got to be with him.

I’m holding you in my thoughts and wishing comfort and peace for you. I just wanted you to know that I released a beautiful monarch butterfly this afternoon and I named him Soph’s Love. I took him outside and put him on a flower to warm his wings before he flew up toward the sunshine-flying free on his way to Mexico. Your love is flying free too, much too soon, carrying your love with him forever. Take care of you. Be kind to yourself and know we love you.

[BarbaRosa]

112. I'm so sorry,

good you could be with him.

[dlk]

113. I'm very sorry for your loss

Take all the time you need.

[bluescribbler]

114. I know your pain.

My beloved Stephanie passed away nearly 11 years ago. Even though I found a new love, a wonderful woman, I still miss Stephanie every day. The grief never truly goes away, it just gets easier to bear.
I miss her especially today, as we were married 35 years ago today.

[volstork]

115. Oh, Soph...

So sorry. Glad you were there with him.

[niyad]

116. (((((((((Soph))))))))) There are no adequate words right now. Please be kind to yourself,

and know that your DU family is here with you, and for you.

May your SO be at peace.

[Soph0571]

180. Thank you so much love

Know I have seen your DU mail and appreciate it greatly. I am holding on. I try and tell myself not to be so stupid. I am privileged. I am economically secure. I got to be at his bedside for the night as he passed. In comparison to so many in this time of Covid, and he is definitely an excess death, I got to be with him and I don't have to worry about the mortgage payment next month or any month, but i am still really pissed that my soul mate has exited the planet. We worked, properly worked together, and I miss him to the deepest part of my soul.

[niyad]

193. My dear Soph, you are NOT being stupid. You have suffered a great loss, the heart of your life.

Even though your physical world is safe, your inner, emotional, psychic world has turned upside down, and it is only natural that you feel adrift. Please do not beat yourself up over how you are coping with the loss of your Beloved. There is no right or wrong way. Only your way. Whatever, and however, you need to do things is all that is important.

The only caveat I will add is this: as others have said, make no important decisions for a year. Daily decisions, yes, but any major decisions or changes, no. Give yourself the time you need to let the healing process begin to work. And know for certain that your DU family is here for you, arms to hug and hold you, ears to listen. (((((((((Soph)))))))))

[wendyb-NC]

117. My heartfelt condolences to you, Soph.

May you have this time, to find rest, peace and healing. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care, and be well.

[wryter2000]

118. I'm so sorry

I’m glad you were with him. Take care of yourself.

[marble falls]

119. I am so sorry. Thank goodness you were there.

[AllyCat]

120. My heart breaks for you Soph.

I am so so sorry.

[Lifelong Protester]

121. I am so sorry!

I’m glad you were with him I was not able to be with my husband when he slipped away.

[llashram]

122. deepest heartfelt condolences

[Tess49]

123. So sorry for your loss, Soph.

[chia]

124. So very sorry. :( Sending much love.

[Gore1FL]

125. I am sorry for your loss. nt

[sdfernando]

126. I'm so sorry Soph0571

You were able to be there at the very end and that is a blessing. Peace and comfort.

[ancianita]

127. Peace to you, Soph.

[marieo1]

128. Hugs to You.

Hugs to you, Soph........it is so hard. You and your family have my sympathy.

[WinstonSmith4740]

129. I've walked in those shoes.

Message me if you want to talk, scream, cry, rant, or whatever.

[Hekate]

130. I'm glad you got to be with him. Take all the time you need & we'll be here when you return...

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[Silver Gaia]

132. Love to you...

[radical noodle]

133. Much love and comforting hugs...

I hope the happy memories of your time together will ease your broken heart.

[slumcamper]

134. Sending positive energies to you and everyone who must heal. n/t

[BumRushDaShow]

135. Oh Soph

I am so sorry. You were and will continue to be a trooper.

[Soph0571]

181. Trooping's all I know

You know me! And after some ugly crying and forehead stress tapping, there will be know other choice. Thank you for just recognising me

[BumRushDaShow]

184. Glad to see you hanging in there

because no matter how bad you may feel, you always find a way to brighten DU's day with your presence!!!

[Soph0571]

189. Thanks. You are a sweetheart

And some very badly photoshopped memes coming soon!

[blm]

136. ((Soph))

😢

[warmfeet]

137. I am so sorry.

[FailureToCommunicate]

139. You did all you could do. He left you, but please

don’t leave us. Take some time, but please come back. DU wouldn’t be the same without you!
So sorry for you for the loss of the love of your life.

[c-rational]

140. Soph, I am so sorry for your loss. Heartfelt condolences.

[cp]

141. Love and hugs

[SaveOurDemocracy]

142. No words, just sadness and love ((((((((((((Soph))))))))))) 💔🕯

[malaise]

143. Sending hugs

Deepest sympathy

[Soph0571]

182. Hugs are always good n/t

[cry baby]

144. ...

[Jack-o-Lantern]

145. We care...God bless.

[Tom Kitten]

146. I'm so very sorry Soph

My heart is with you

[NoRoadUntravelled]

147. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[Moostache]

148. I am very sorry to hear of your loss.

May you receive support and healing with all possible grace in this time of grieving.

[WVreaper]

149. Sorry for your loss.

Remember the person that you loved and all of the life experiences shared.

[smirkymonkey]

150. Soph, I am so sorry for your loss.

Sending you peace and comfort during this difficult time.

[SergeStorms]

151. My condolences.

[Trueblue Texan]

152. So sorry, Pie...

Take time to process and heal. Sending healing thoughts.

[Bettie]

153. I'm so sorry

glad you were with him.

[MustLoveBeagles]

155. I'm so sorry

Take care of yourself

[JudyM]

156. Very sorry, Soph.

Wishing you comfort somehow in all the pain.

[appleannie1]

157. So very sorry.

[fantase56]

158. ....

[nolabear]

159. I'm so sorry but so glad you were there.💙

[electric_blue68]

160. So sorry to hear this. Glad that you could be with him.

[GentryDixon]

161. I am very sorry.💔

[greatauntoftriplets]

162. OMG, I didn't see this until now.

Please accept my condolences for your profound loss.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

163. Are YOU going to be okay?

I know loss, I know the weight. The need to step back and process it. Take your time to join us again.

And remember that many are here that will listen if you need a friendly ear. I being one of them.

[malthaussen]

164. Please accept my condolences. n/t

[AmyStrange]

185. He's probably up there chatting with the Notorious RBG right now...

-

Wish I could hear that conversation, and once again my condolences Soph.
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[Soph0571]

190. I LOVE THAT!

Yes he is and he is learning. Huzzah!!!!!

[tblue37]

192. I am so, so sorry. nt

[In_The_Wind]

194. ((( hugs )))

[irisblue]

195. Soph, our beloved friend, I'm sending you love.