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Peace, thoughts and prayers be with you and her.
Please keep us posted on how she is doing. Good luck, sending you hugs to get through this difficult time
(((((((Hugs)))))))
Been there. It's hard.
Sending positive thoughts your way. It's brutal.
I’m just so terribly sorry. I hope you have good support around you to help you through.
And yours, too.
I'm praying for you both...
I'm sending you and your family strength and best wishes. This had been a terribly trying year.
Hugs to you and yours.
Just no words 
Believe me.
My mom died last month.
I'm sending you, AND your mom, a big (((((HUG))))).
I've lost both of my parents, and I know how very hard it is. Maybe that little chance will come through and she'll recover.
I am sorry about your sweet mom,
No words can express this.
with your ability to see her and spend time with her limited by covid. I am really sorry. Please keep us posted.
Of course you're crying. She's your Mom. She birthed you, helped raise you, cheered you on and wiped your tears when you needed it.
And if I may say, as a retired RN, when she stopped eating, she was saying she's done and ready to go.
Yes, death is a part of life, but it's the hardest part. I wish I had the words to take your loss and pain away, but these are all I have.
Please take care of yourself.
i can't mentally/emotionally go to the place of "what if my mom was dying now, in these lockdown/covid days" instead of when she did back in 2009.
and every time i hear the stories or think of the people in lockdown on the other side of their window, and think of their adult children & families that can't be with them my heart breaks.
i'm so sorry you and your mom are going through this.
when my mom and i were given word that she was dying (& their prognosis changed from more than six months away to less than six months--and it turned out i lost her in less than two weeks) i realized i was grieving for her even tho she was still alive. later i learned it was called anticipatory grief. if you're not familiar with it then it might help to read up on it a little bit.
again, i am so sorry. sending you both much love.
My father is dying of pancreatic cancer. This occurring in a pandemic has complicated so much about this. The hospice nurse predicts he won't last another week.
My husband's brother was last week diagnosed with a rare form of leukemia which is much more common in children. Prognosis is far worse for adults who get it. Nothing was amiss 2 months ago, at least according to his blood test for suspected Lyme.
We keep saying things can't get any worse and we keep getting proven wrong.
What a horrible year! Hugs to you!
I'm so sorry, Archae. It's alright to cry.
My dad, in skilled nursing, stopped eating at the point where he couldn't read, couldn't change the channel on TV, was confined to a wheel chair, couldn't press the button to play the radio or a CD. My mom had been gone about a year and a half. He was 91. My husband and I had gone out of town for the weekend. I'd been there Friday before we left to help him eat lunch. When the nursing home called me at our hotel on Saturday wanting to put in a feeding tube, I told them "no". He decided he'd had enough. When older folks are frail to begin with, it will go downhill pretty fast when they stop eating. I think he waited until he knew we were out of town because he was hoping not to have to say goodbye.
I am so sorry. She's probably ready to go. Do what you can to be with her and let her know how much she was loved.
the longest of anyone.
You don't need this right now. 
Its hard enough to say goodbye, but to have to deal with it during this crisis is unimaginable to me.
May all of you experience some peace in her final days.
If you can, please find solace in the fine support of DU members.
