Well, after all my worrying, it looks like the family Thankgiving gathering is off.
First my brother in VT and family had to cancel because of work (Covid related).
Then we all started looking into it and it turns out that all the New England States have strict quarantine requirements if you travel to a restricted state (we were going to my other brother's house in Baltimore, MD) unless you can provide proof of a negative Covid test w/ in the previous 72 hours from the time you arrived back in the state, but we were only staying about 3 1/2 to 4 days anyway. You have to fill out a form, but if they bust you lying or not in quarantine it is a $500 per day fee. My parents weren't going to go if nobody else was and I didn't think it was a good idea for them to go as they are 77 and 81.
Then my SIL's parents decided not to come up from SC due to the Covid situation there, and my brother in Baltimore finally decided since things are getting worse there too that it was probably best to call the whole thing off and wait until next year. I had pretty much decided not to go, but was a little afraid to tell them, however now it's not even an issue! Sometimes things just work themselves out!
Anyway, my sister & her family in Maine usually host holidays and invite my parents and I when we don't have other plans, but I have a feeling that because of the election results I will be persona non grata this year. And I don't think I would feel very comfortable either since they are the biggest Trumpers in the family. Also, her kids got me extremely sick last T-giving and I don't really want to be around them either because they are in the schools half time.
I may be spending T-giving alone, but I don't really mind. I will just order a turkey breast and some other groceries and make myself a nice dinner, talk to people on the phone and be happy that I don't have to worry about traveling during these dangerous times. I'm actually quite relieved about it all!
Thanks to everyone who offered me advice on my last post! Much appreciated! 
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his Freshman year on campus this fall and within weeks he had come down with Covid and had to spend a few weeks in a quarantine dorm. College campuses are hotbeds of disease because these kids just think they're invincible and that nothing can harm them (not your son, specifically) but most kids that age, unfortunately, like my foolish nephew.
He's a very bright kid, but even when he got out of quarantine he got busted partying with some of his other friends and none of them were taking precautions so they all got sent home. So much for thier Freshman year. Even if your own son is careful, there is a good chance that the people he is around are not. That's what worries me.
I think most of us can hold out through the holidays. It's just not worth the risk when most doctors and scientists are telling us that this is going to be the most dangerous period of the outbreak. Just being free of the anxiety of it all is worth it to me. Even if you survive it, the damage this virus does to your body - even young bodies - is going to harm you down the road. Stay safe, have a virtual holiday and stay healthy so that you can have many more holidays together in person in years to come!
From what most of the experts are saying, we are now going through the most dangerous period of the Covid outbreak right now. It has been on an upswing and is only getting worse everywhere, even in places where it was coming down. The holidays will only make it worse.
I am willing to give it a miss this year for my peace of mind and I'm glad you are too. It's best to stay alive and healthy and there will be many more opportunities to come. We will have to find creative ways to bring cheer to each other!
That's the right decision.
I honestly don't understand why anyone at all is travelling these days unless it is truly absolutely necessary. I know what it's like to be missing family. In a normal year I'd be headed to Kansas City for Thanksgiving or Christmas, maybe even both. Or I'd be coercing my son who lives on the east coast to fly here to New Mexico. Almost everyone here has similar stories.
I will likewise have a one person Turkey Day, and I'm just fine with it. For one thing, I like to cook in general, and I find fixing a turkey to be pretty easy. You take care. 
I completely agree with you! And I am just fine with having a one-person T-giving day too! In fact, I am kind of looking forward to it. No chaos, no drama, no burdensome clean-up (ugh!)
You take care too!
Avoiding people is what I do best! 
Good for you and your family - wise people all.
We're doing much the same, with individual family units going solo this year. I have the same plan as you, a small turkey breast with just the basics, and video calls to the boys and their families. Safer is better.
With my family being even further scattered this year, Christmas will most likely be similar. We're all good with that.
It all worked out pretty well! I agree with you. Let's stay safe now so that we can make sure we have many more happy holidays to come. It's just not worth it this year.
I'm ok with it. We can all love each other from a distance and nobody means to endanger a family member, but the thing is that you never know when or if you will. It's best to err on the side of caution. Hope you are doing well and staying healthy!
I was just counting on you guys to give me a good excuse. 
