2 months ago, I talked with my mom for the last time. Many DUers were kind...

[3catwoman3]

...enough to respond to the thread I put up about this loss. https://www.democraticunderground.com/100214740676

I so appreciated all the supportive messages.

I have seen members of DU do this many, many times before, for the loss of both human and animal family members. Many people acknowledge each response, but I didn't quite have it in me to do that at the time.

Hearts week seems like a good time to say a belated thank you to all of those who took the time to share words of comfort and support. It was very comforting.

and hearts to everyone in this wonderful community.

[leighbythesea2]

1. So sorry for your loss

No words are adequate but sending thoughts and hugs.
Hearts week is great.

[Lefta Dissenter]

2. Hugs and comfort to you

No matter how much time passes, you’ll need more comfort along the way. I hope you can always find that here.

[littlemissmartypants]

3. So sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you find comfort in the happy memories she left behind.

❤ lmsp

[MFM008]

4. i still cry

when i read my own post about my mom.
Peace to you.

[Marie Marie]

5. May your grief soon turn to warm memories.

She will be in your heart forever.

[FuzzyRabbit]

6. I'm sorry I missed your first post.

Losing a parent is so painful. I hope that your pain is getting easier to bear.

[MustLoveBeagles]

7. Hugs to you

[BigmanPigman]

8. It sucks big time.

First my dad, then my dog. No fun.

I think experiencing a loss during Covid and tRump makes it twice as bad.

[pazzyanne]

9. Hope things are getting better for each and every day, 3catwoman!

[pnwest]

10. Awfully good people here. Genuinely

caring community. I hope your memories are starting to bring more smiles than tears.

[orleans]

11. how are you doing? nt

[3catwoman3]

13. How thoughtful of you to ask.

I feel as if I am doing well, actually. When a parent makes it to 98, it’s hard to feel either of you have been cheated.

Unfortunately, I have more experience with family loss than I’d like. In 1978, my younger brother and only sibling died in a scuba diving adventure that went wrong - 43 years ago yesterday. That was a crushing tsunami of grief that I pretty much had to deal with by myself as I was stationed in Japan at the time, where no one had known him so there was no one with whom to share memories. Mourning all alone is really hard.

My dad died in 2011, and it was something of a relief as he had been deteriorating for a few years as a result of long term diabetes complications and his quality of life was not good.

The loss of my mom, so far, is much more of a gentle tide pool of sadness than the maelstrom of agony that accompanied my brother’s death.

The hardest thing so far is all the moments when I think of something I wish I could tell her about because I know she would have enjoyed hearing whatever it is/was. I’ll form the thought, “Oh, I must remember to tell Mom about that,” immediately followed by remembering that I can’t do that anymore.

Thanks for listening.

[abqtommy]

12. K&R

[yardwork]

14. Still thinking of you.