Just stop in to say I won't be posting much (not that I posted much),

[sarge43]

for awhile. My husband, Jim, died in a traffic accident today. So. Things to attend to and rearrange. Life does what it does.

CAVU, Airman.

[underpants]

1. Oh I'm so sorry.

[nancy1942]

2. My sympathy.

[LizBeth]

3. My heart goes out to you sarge, and the journey you will be enduring. I am sorry.

[Raster]

4. My sincere sympathies... my heart aches with you.

[50 Shades Of Blue]

5. Deepest condolences!

[tblue37]

6. I am sorry to hear this, sarge43. Condolences to you and your family.

[handmade34]

7. oh damn, I'm so sorry

[MackinacBridge]

8. I am so sorry

[CherokeeDem]

9. So very sorry....

[regnaD kciN]

10. How awful...my deepest sympathies...

[CherokeeDem]

11. So very sorry....

[niyad]

12. Oh no!!! I am so very, very sorry. I know that no words can help, but know that your DU

family is here for you, however we can help.

[stopdiggin]

13. so darned sorry

you do what you need to do -- and take care of yourself. talk when you get back. --- ---

[catbyte]

14. Oh, I'm so, so sorry!

[In_The_Wind]

15. Oh, sarge43, I am so sorry for your loss.

[babylonsister]

16. So, so sorry to read this!

[Wicked Blue]

17. That's awful

My condolences

[UpInArms]

18. Oh no!

I am devastated for you and am so utterly sorry ...

[PJMcK]

19. That's terrible news, sarge!

I'm very sorry to hear of your tragedy. In time, I hope you'll find peace.

[blm]

20. Oh sarge

Our hearts are with you.

🕯

[Backseat Driver]

21. Oh no - I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

22. I'm so sorry!

[barbtries]

23. omigawd.

I am so sorry.

[dixiechiken1]

24. I'm so, so sorry for your loss, sarge...

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

[Kali]

25. oh no!

I am so sorry.

[magicarpet]

26. Sorry to hear,... Be Well Yourself....

[Fla Dem]

27. I am so sorry for you. What a terrible tragedy for you and your family.

[dawg day]

28. So sorry...

I hope friends and family are a help during this hard time l.

[NNadir]

29. Deepest Sympathy.

I am so sorry.

[KarenS]

30. I am so very sorry.

[Hela]

31. I'm so, so sorry to hear this.

My sympathies to you for the loss of your dear husband, Jim. Take care of yourself.

[Aristus]

32. ...

…

I'm so sorry, sarge...

[jpak]

33. So sorry

[3catwoman3]

34. Oh, how very sad.

Please accept an on-line hug -

[Wawannabe]

35. Peace and comfort offered

Warm hugs

Take care of yourself!

[Tumbulu]

36. I am so sorry for your loss

In such a shocking circumstance.

[BlueMTexpat]

37. Deepest sympathies

to you and your family!

[KT2000]

38. Oh no -

I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you now. I am so sorry. Please tune in to Du if you need virtual hugs.

[irisblue]

39. 🕯️I am so sorry for your great loss Sarge

[ancianita]

40. Oh, sarge43, I'm so sorry.

This is a horrible loss. We're with you knowing you'll do what you must. But when you need some virtual hugs, advice, help, we'll be here to do what we can.

[littlemissmartypants]

41. What a terrible shock! So sorry to hear this, sarge43. Deepest condolences to you and family.

[Marie Marie]

42. Oh how horrible. My deepest condolences to you.

[WinstonSmith4740]

43. I'm so sorry...

I walked a different road, but to the same destination, and this was the first place I came to in the aftermath.
Please take time and take care of yourself. It's easy to forget to do things like eat, and sleep can be tough to come by. It does get better, and we're all here for you.

[Karadeniz]

66. Good advice above. Also, I can tell you're in shock, your brain probably calculating a good time to

Fall apart. Nothing wrong with that, but do try to take care of yourself.
Deepest sympathy to you and your family at this time of loss.

[WinstonSmith4740]

82. OMG...that "brain fall apart" thing?

Totally true. Also, allow yourself to feel what you're feeling...don't deny anything. I tried that for a while..."He was suffering, now he's in a better place, his pain is over" ad nauseum, and it broke me. If you want to cry, cry. Rail at the heavens. Scream if you want. I found it helpful to have empty boxes around the house that I could kick. Friends and family will understand and be there for you and nobody else matters.

[OLDMDDEM]

44. I feel so bad for you

I want to give you a hug. It's not much but all I can do right now.

[pazzyanne]

45. So sorry to hear this, dear sarge43!

Sending prayers for strength for you, for people to help you, and healing for you and your family.

[Ford_Prefect]

46. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Please take good care.

[FailureToCommunicate]

47. Oh no!

We'll be here when you are ready to return.

[blueinredohio]

48. My deepest condolences.

Please take care of yourself too.

[Pepsidog]

49. Horrible. My condolences.

[blogslut]

50. My heart is with you

May you be well

[AwakeAtLast]

51. I'm so sorry for your loss!

[Sunny Daze]

52. Oh my, that's devastating.

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and please accept my deepest condolences.

[Kimber432]

53. Oh my god. How horrible for you

I haven't posted much either but I am so sorry for your family and friends with this terrible loss. Prayers...

[lunatica]

54. We'll be here sending you love

[OMGWTF]

55. How tragic and heartbreaking! I am so sorry for your loss.

[True Dough]

56. My condolences, sarge

That's terrible news. Sorry to hear it.

I wish you great strength, but let the emotions do what they must for a while.

[SunSeeker]

57. Wow. I'm so sorry.

[SaveOurDemocracy]

58. Such sad news. Love and peace to you, sarge43. 🕯

[sinkingfeeling]

59. My deepest sympathy.

[Jim__]

60. Sorry to hear this.

[SergeStorms]

61. Wow. That's a lot to handle.

I hope you have loved ones nearby to help you through this. Were always here for you, for what it's worth. My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[yardwork]

62. I am so sorry.

[Just_Vote_Dem]

63. Very sorry for your loss.

[cp]

64. Sending a hug

[Heartstrings]

65. Sincere condolences to you and your family.......

[N_E_1 for Tennis]

67. ...

[TygrBright]

68. Holding you in my heart. n/t

[DemUnleashed]

69. My Deepest Condolences

I am so very sorry to hear...my sincere condolences!

[Granny M]

70. So very sorry, sarge44

Sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.

[CaptainTruth]

71. I'm so so sorry...

Sending virtual hugs...

[murielm99]

72. Oh, Sarge. Oh, no.

Many of us here have faced bereavement. But to have it so suddenly!

Don't hesitate to talk to us when you need to do that. Hugs, prayers, good thoughts....whatever you need.

[cayugafalls]

73. Oh my, I am so sorry for your loss.

Please accept my deepest condolences.

[lillypaddle]

74. OMG how awful for you and him

and your family. My deepest condolences to you. Don't forget to take care of yourself, and remember that DU is a great place to go for hugs and wisdom. May Jim rest in peace.

[sarge43]

75. Thank you, everyone. DU: Always there for you

Your messages mean more than I can say. They do help.

If I can get through tonight (still waiting for him to pull into the driveway), I think I'll be ok.

He was a good man who gave more than he took. I was lucky to have him.

Again, CAVU Airman.

[orleans]

86. how terrible--i'm so sorry this happened. i'm hoping you have

family around you that you can talk with and lean on and who will just let you talk and cry, and even cook for you.

it's a huge change when we lose someone in our day-to-day because there is always that constant reminder in whatever you're doing to include them

just take it easy--take it slow (and i mean from decision-making to walking around the house)

sending both of you light and love.

we're here for you.

[rurallib]

76. deepest sympathies

[DFW]

77. Deepest condolances

It's my worst fear, too. My wife takes frequent long drives on streets and highways populated by maniacs.

I'm so sorry for you that my worst fear had to happen to you.

[SallyHemmings]

78. So sorry

[trof]

79. I am SO sorry.

CAVU indeed.

[stuffmatters]

80. I am so sorry for your profound loss.

[qanda]

81. I'm so sorry.

My sincere condolences.

[SheltieLover]

83. Deepest condolences

Healing vibes on the way! 💕💕💕

[Bluethroughu]

84. My deepest Condolences.

[MontanaMama]

85. No words.

You must be in shock. I am very sorry for your loss.

[duforsure]

87. So sorry to hear this.

[sazemisery]

88. Condolences to you and yours. eom

[mnhtnbb]

89. I am so very sorry for the sudden loss of your husband. You must be in shock.

There are quite a few DU'ers who have lost spouses in the last year or two. Some will probably stop in on this thread with condolences. We're here for you.

[Lars39]

90. So sorry for your loss, sarge43.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

91. I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Please take care of yourself.

We are here for you.

[smirkymonkey]

92. Oh, sarge! I am so sorry to hear that.

What terrible news. Please check back in with us to let us know how you are holding up.

My sincere condolences. May Jim rest in peace.

[live love laugh]

93. Im very sorry for your loss. 💔

[Pobeka]

94. Sorry to hear that. Take good care, hard times for sure.

[MuseRider]

95. I am so sorry.

Know that we are all here for you. Thinking of you and sending loving and healing thoughts to you. Many warm hugs.

[Evergreen Emerald]

96. Oh no!

I am deeply sorry for your loss. Take care.

[greatauntoftriplets]

97. OMG, this has to have been such a horrible shock for you!

Please accept my condolences for your loss. I am so sorry to hear that you and your family have suffered such a terrible tragedy.

[Solly Mack]

98. I'm so sorry.

We'll be thinking of you.

[JohnnyLib2]

99. Very sorry to hear this.

You have a lot of support here; wish it could be more direct.

[Laffy Kat]

100. ...

[PA_jen]

101. I am so sorry.

[wryter2000]

102. How horrible

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you're feeling.

[Totally Tunsie]

103. Hugs to you, sarge.

What a terrible loss. I can hear your broken heart.

[TruckFump]

104. So very, very sorry!

[LisaM]

105. This is terrible.

I am very sorry.

[Nevilledog]

106. ...

[Tanuki]

107. I am so sorry that this has happened. The loss of a beloved spouse

is one of life's most difficult passages, and having it happen so unexpectedly must be especially hard. I wish you the very best as you process this very great loss and begin to put your life back together. There will always be someone here at DU awake and ready to respond with compassion and encouragement at any hour if you want to chat. Peace and blessings to you, sarge43.

[MissB]

108. I am so very sorry

[pacalo]

109. Oh, no...

Sending you vibes of comfort and strength, sarge. So sorry.

[electric_blue68]

110. Woah... So sorry to hear!

Strength to you for it all, and to whom else that you're close to who will be grieving.

[Coventina]

111. Terrible news. Deepest condolences to you

and all your family.

[sarge43]

112. Because I can't sleep, stopping by to say thank you again.

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Your kind words, advice and offers of help mean more than I can say. I love this place. DU is the best.

I can't sleep because the old brain keeps putting up fire walls. "What am I going to do with all his stuff??" He was king of the pack rats -- everything from cars to ancient manuals about repairing antique sewing machines. "How am I going to do this or that or the other thing, etc?"

Of course, the old brain is avoiding dwelling upon the reality of "I'll never see him again." In the morning I would find him at the kitchen table net surfing the news. Getting my coffee and sitting with him and snark, analyze or rage about what's going on. I'll never tell him again "Hey, the bees are out and the daffodils are starting to bloom." Him telling me the cardinal pair showed up. Just two old folk married forever getting through the day.

Yes, I will get on, but it will never be the same.

Thank you for letting me do a little virtual grieving.

[Donkees]

113. Soar on the wings of spirit

The famous aviation poem written in 1941 by 19-year-old Pilot Officer John Gillespie Magee Jr, three months before he was killed.

[kpete]

114. no words

[flying_wahini]

115. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[DownriverDem]

116. So very sorry

for your loss.

[Wounded Bear]

117. Wow, that sucks. Take care of business. We'll be here with hugs for you...

[Blue_playwright]

118. Oh no, I am so sorry.

Please do post and vent and cry and lean on us.

[sarge43]

125. Yes, I have already posted and leaned on quite a few shoulders.

I'll lose it during his funeral at NH Veteran's Cemetery. I'll be in uniform and during Taps I'll have to salute. Guarantee the old sarge will have do everything to keep from coming apart.

Thank you for the kind thoughts.

[Blue Owl]

119. Would that it were not so...

[Freedomofspeech]

120. So very sorry for your loss...

Sending you love and peace.

[colorado_ufo]

121. So sorry!

[turbinetree]

122. This is just sad............

[Phentex]

123. So sorry!...

Will be thinking of you. And yes life does what it does.

Take care!

[farmbo]

124. Sympathies...

[BlancheSplanchnik]

126. So tragic!

[bluecollar2]

127. So sorry ... nt

[onecaliberal]

128. Omg. I am so sorry. 💔

[BobTheSubgenius]

129. I'm so sorry to hear your awful news.

You know where we are, if you need us.

[virgdem]

130. So sad and sorry for your loss.

[riverbendviewgal]

131. So sad for you. So tragic

My heat and prayers are for you.

[Texin]

132. I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss.

[pandr32]

133. How awful!

I am so sorry. I hope you find the strength to navigate through it all and that you have support from family and close friends.
We are here waiting your return.

[dlk]

134. I'm very sorry for your loss

Sending prayers of comfort and peace to help you through this difficult time.

[malthaussen]

135. Please accept my condolences. n/t

[demmiblue]

136. I'm sorry for your loss, sarge.

[cilla4progress]

137. No! So, so sorry, sarge!

Thank you for coming to this community for support and love.

Holding you in my heart!

[cate94]

138. So very sorry

RIP Jim
Sarge

[c-rational]

139. I am so very sorry.

Deepest sympathies.

[sueh]

140. I'm so sorry, Sarge. My heart goes out to you and your family. (((hugs)))

[philly_bob]

141. CAVU Ceiling And Visibility Unlimited

A beautiful thought, Sarge. Sorry for your tragedy.

[sarge43]

147. It's the blessing and pray for any air force member.

Like fair winds and following seas for sailors.

Thank you.

[GreenEyedLefty]

142. I'm so sorry to see this.

Sending you big hugs!

[Irish_Dem]

143. So sorry to hear this Sarge.....

May he rest in peace.
CAVU into the Wild Blue Yonder.

[marieo1]

144. So Sorry

OMG,,,,,,,,,,,,Blessings to you and your family..........

[Trueblue Texan]

145. So sorry for this tragedy...

The last year has been full of this sort of stuff...sorry you're suffering more of it. Peace to you and your family.

[yonder]

146. Sarge, I'm sorry you have to bear this, hopefully not alone.

[myccrider]

148. My heart hurts for you. n/t

[mountain grammy]

149. I'm so sorry.

[JohnnyRingo]

150. You'll always have family here.

If you need a shoulder, we have many and they're broad.

Sorry for your loss.

[Roc2020]

151. Deepest condolences

[hlthe2b]

152. I'm just seeing this today and am so very sorry, sarge43. You have a lot of friends here who

will have you in our thoughts today and well into the future.

If anything can help with grief, it is the good memories you have of Jim. Please let them bring you peace.