Is it sexist of me to not really want to drive now that my husband is getting older???

[a kennedy]

He’s 5 years older then me (75), and I should be driving as he’s done some maneuvers I’m not real fond of. Should I just suck it up and drive for us now?? Thanks for all input.

[soothsayer]

1. Safety first.

[a kennedy]

2. I know you're right.....

[XanaDUer2]

3. My SO is 68 disabled and does not drive

I have to drive everywhere. I get sick of it.

[a kennedy]

4. I know, I'm gonna hate it. But after 40 years, i spouse it's the least I can do.

[LakeArenal]

5. I always drive because being the passenger makes me carsick.

Mr Lake gets more flack for me driving all the time than I do.

[a kennedy]

6. I HAVE turned into a "backseat driver" anyway......always saying stuff that he does, or doesn't do

as to how I would drive, and he did just say today, “well why don’t you do the driving now”. So......looks like I’m gonna be doing the driving.

[LakeArenal]

13. Mr Lake doesn't drive like I do. Which makes me nervous.

But I make a lot of fumbles.

I just try to remember that he hasn’t cracked the car or endangered anyone.

He is a very nice passenger. When the dog is with us, he’s the one that has to deal with the dog. Works for me.

[a kennedy]

14. He'll be nervous with me driving.......but I do think I am better then he is.

😊

[LakeArenal]

15. Shhh. That goes without saying!

Women driver’s my ass.

[Haggard Celine]

7. I'd say you need to do it.

Y'all could not only die, but more likely get injured and be in pain and in and out of the hospital and doctor's offices for the rest of your life.

[a kennedy]

9. I know, it really is all about safety as was mentioned above.

[femmedem]

8. If you feel confident driving even though it sounds as if he's done most of the driving, yes.

How awful would you feel if he got into an accident and hurt or killed someone due to slow reflexes, bad vision, or slight cognitive impairment? Especially if you were there and could have driven?

His being the primary driver has been a sweet way for him to care for you, but now it sounds as if it is time for you to take care of him. The tricky part will be broaching the subject without alarming him or angering him, unless he is aware that it's getting harder for him to safely drive.

[a kennedy]

11. Thanks.......I think he'd really like me to take over.

[femmedem]

16. That will make it easier.

It will probably still be sad. It's got to be hard to acknowledge that one's losing abilities due to age. But it sounds as if he is aware and has been afraid to bring the subject up with you.

I feel for both of you.

[MANative]

10. I've always hated my husband's driving

He was a cop for more than a decade and drives like it. Very... assertive, but not as attentive as I'd prefer. Therefore, regardless of our ages (he's 64, 4 years older than me), I drive whenever I possibly can. If you feel safer, take the wheel!

[a kennedy]

12. Yup......think I will. Have not liked his driving for the past few years......so it'll be good.

[badhair77]

17. My husband was 19 years older than I. When he hit 83 I had to take over

because he did took some chances that were dangerous. We were fortunate nothing happened. He didn’t like it but I took the keys as much as I could. It was hard for him to lose that independence. After awhile our son had to drive him to some appointments and he enjoyed that.

[elleng]

18. No, not at all.

Thankfully both of my parents recognized when their driving days were done; then they gave me the car, which I'm driving now.

[Tree Lady]

19. We take turns and both become back seat drivers

I drive on curvy roads or I feel sick, over mountain passes because he goes faster and it scares me. He is almost 7 yrs older than me so that will be me someday. He is 71 now.

[ProfessorGAC]

20. We're The Opposite

My wife considers driving an undesirable necessity.
So, anytime we're going somewhere together she just hands me the keys to her car.
Neither of us have ever even had a moving violation, so it's not a safety thing.
She just would rather not drive if someone else is willing.

[sarge43]

21. Gender isn't an issue

One of the things that makes a marriage, any relationship, work is establishing skills sets.

If you can drive a car better than he can now, then you should drive. Further, we should learn from one another. I learn a lot about car maintenance from my husband; I showed him how to navigate the net.

Cooperation, not competition.

[a kennedy]

22. Like that, "cooperation NOT competition"...... 👍

[sarge43]

23. Thanks