i hate mother's day.

[mopinko]

there, i said it. mostly always have.
have 5 kids, not expecting so much as a text.

and i miss my mom. i was never as good to her on mother's day as she deserved.

[madaboutharry]

1. Mo, here is a hug.

I think you are brave.

[mopinko]

3. ty love.

is there a choice, tho? keep thinking their must be, but cant figure out what the options might be.

[blm]

2. ((mop))

[mopinko]

4. ty honey.

[Lochloosa]

5. I'll be your son for the day. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOM.

[mopinko]

6. d'aww. that's sweet.

can you come over and take out the trash, please?
i'll make something nice for dinner.

[Scrivener7]

7. My mom actively disliked me, and it was important to her that I knew it at all times.

Just to be ornery, I was good to her until the day she died.

I'm probably older than you, but I send you all my respect and love for the good mothers who are not cared for, and I wish you the best today.

[mopinko]

8. my mom was just tired. like me.

7 kids, and shortly after i arrived, she ended up as the breadwinner.
my da was a drinker, but also very ill w an autoimmune disease that wasnt even known at the time. it was all blamed on the drink, but i have the same thing. it's 1 reason that i drink.

she was kind of a spoiled child. she only had 1 brother. she didnt marry til 27, and she couldnt rly cook.
didnt get to know any of my grands, but my big sisters told me how wonderful her folks were.
my da's folks were kinda mean.

my da was the one who judged us, and found about half his kids lacking. i was one of the good ones, his last best hope for a doctor in the family. i still dont get along w the ones on his shit list.

[MuseRider]

12. My mother was like that

and I too was good to her until she died, I took care of her for 4 years all the while she reminded me how much she always hated me. From the day of my birth. Odd how that is possible. We do recover somewhat and we both did the right thing.

Mo, from me to you. I have "known" you for a while now and I know you to be a good person. I have one son sitting right here but the other has not really spoken to me since my only grandchild was born and I still have never met her. Sometimes it does not matter what you do or don't do.

[Scrivener7]

14. MuseRider, I think you meant this for mopinko, and I think it would be a nice thing for her to read.

[MuseRider]

25. I actually meant it for both of you

and it looks like she did see it or someone told her about it. Thank you though, I did want her to see it and you too. Who knows why some of us have to grow up like that? Still we did and it sounds like both of us did the right thing even when it was not easy.

[Scrivener7]

26. Oh, thank you very much! Yes, who knows. And yes, at times it was heartbreaking.

But at this remove (my mother has been dead many years) knowing that I responded to malice with basic human decency makes me feel a quiet and comforting kind of power.

I hope it is the same for you.

[MuseRider]

27. It is.

I was the only caretaker she had from diagnosis to death about 4 1/2 years. I had little kids then too so it was really busy. I had to do it, it was the right thing to do and somehow made me feel better even though she still told me how she hated me. Ahhh well, it makes you stronger I guess and yes, it is comforting. She has been dead for 24 years.

It is the same for me.

[mopinko]

17. these things come and go, mostly.

tho in tracing my family tree, i found many relatives i never knew anything about.
i know for a fact my mom didnt know. i asked my cousins about my da's side, and they knew about 1 of the missing 10. mostly local, too.

that shit about irish grudges is real.

2 of them have been very successful, and even if they give me no credit, they have to, at some point, admit that i did not destroy them.
the ex has been working on them, and it's moving. slowly.
he and i have pretty much reconciled. that will help. the narrative about how i screwed him, and stole his retirement is proving false. he lost his job at 60 and likely wont go back. he also screwed me on my last 3 yrs of alimony.
got a new wife and starting a b&b in mich.

thank ja there are no grands in this, or there would be blood on the floor.

[blueinredohio]

9. Right there with you mo.

I only have one daughter that I only hear from when she needs something and the grandkids are getting the same way.

[mopinko]

19. second son used to hit me up for weed money.

he's a traumatized mess. thank you public schools.
i try to do other things, and get shit for it. such a lost soul.
i dont think it's bad for him to smoke weed, it probably helps. but it mostly is keeping him stuck in the pain by keeping it tolerable. so i drew the line.
now he doesnt answer my texts.

[blueinredohio]

22. She's 45 now I basically supported her until she was 30.

She met and married her second husband who is a Trumphumper so she's leaning that way more and more. She calls me when the kids need taken or picked up from school. If she has to go out of town she borrows my car because hers won't make it. When I want to get a hold of her I have to call her land line and leave a message. She never answers my texts or calls on the cell.

[Totally Tunsie]

10. To you, Mo, and any other Moms who deserve and need it...

[Coventina]

11. I hate Mothers' Day as well.

My mother and son are both dead.

I despise being wished a Happy Mothers' Day.

[tanyev]

13. I don't hate Mother's Day per se, but I do hate the obsession with over-the-top celebrations

of every fricking holiday on the calendar. Families want to get together to celebrate Mom? Great, but I don't need to be barraged with ads and commericals about it or see it in nearly every television show, including the so-called news.

[bigtree]

15. .

[niyad]

16. Huggggggs to you. And read my OP about the origins of this day. Gives one a slightly different

perspective.

[mopinko]

18. i saw that, and it helped.

imho, the fears of all the men who tried to crowd women out of the public square have been realized, and thank fucking god for it.

imma get out and stick some plants in the ground. my usual md pursuit.
it will help me remember that one of the ways i was a good daughter were the days that i went out to my mom's and planted flowers for her on md.
never quite had what my sister's had to offer her, but i know she appreciated the things i did that none of them would think of.

[niyad]

20. Glad that it helped. As does playing in the dirt, honoring Mother Earth as well as our gardener

mothers..

Be kind and gentle with yourself.

[mopinko]

23. i'm tryin.

ya know, when my kids were small is when i did most of my painting. no clay space.
my work is all about motherhood. recorded in a way that will never let me forget what i gave them.
they can see it or not. i tell them tho, dont be an idiot like me. dont wait til i'm dead to make peace. dont carry a weight that you can so easily set down. there is much in forgiveness of your mom that benefits you.

gonna be tears at my funeral, tho. that much i know.
not sure what else there is. sadly, a lot will be self pity.

sorry, but fb link is all i have
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?vanity=120776091304700&set=a.120777147971261

[Blue Owl]

21. It's always a confusing day

for Mike Pence...

[niyad]

24. Too true