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cinematicdiversions

(1,969 posts)
Wed May 19, 2021, 01:32 PM May 2021

I am a finance guy working 80 hours a week in a highrise

My fiance went back to her home town to care for her ailing father. There she met a guy who runs an organic bakery and is raising his four year old son on his own. Apparently he is teaching my fiance how to bake bread and the true meaning of Christmas.

Should I be concerned?

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I am a finance guy working 80 hours a week in a highrise (Original Post) cinematicdiversions May 2021 OP
Find out if your company handles the loan on his bakery Effete Snob May 2021 #1
Pretty good since I evicted that cat Cafe to make cinematicdiversions May 2021 #2
The true meaning of Christmas eh? I think you are screwed. Thomas Hurt May 2021 #3
Especially since it's May. iemanja May 2021 #4
But LEON Day is just around the corner whistler162 May 2021 #6
Or ... not (nt) Hugh_Lebowski May 2021 #7
I've seen that Hallmark movie. It doesn't end well for you. n/t PoliticAverse May 2021 #5
Ha! jimfields33 May 2021 #9
You didn't see the Lifetime move version, though... Effete Snob May 2021 #10
Yeah I've been burned by Lifetime move plots that's why I prefer Hallmark! n/t PoliticAverse May 2021 #11
I saw the ID channel, Corgigal May 2021 #14
Lol TheRealNorth May 2021 #15
Well she did share the information with you. It may just be a very platonic friendship. However.... Fla Dem May 2021 #8
You will know you have a problem Chainfire May 2021 #12
There are no absolutes DFW May 2021 #16
I'd get really concerned if she mentions having buns in the oven.....nt OAITW r.2.0 May 2021 #13
Especially hot cross buns n/t DFW May 2021 #17
Have you considered buying out a small town Christmas cookie company? tanyev May 2021 #18
Can I move the plant to China? Nt cinematicdiversions May 2021 #19
You can try, but the charming townspeople will quickly change your mind. tanyev May 2021 #20
 

Effete Snob

(8,387 posts)
1. Find out if your company handles the loan on his bakery
Wed May 19, 2021, 01:35 PM
May 2021

Delete the record of his payments and foreclose on the bakery.

Then rub your hands together and say, "Muahahahahahahahhaa."

How is your moustache twirling game?

 

Effete Snob

(8,387 posts)
10. You didn't see the Lifetime move version, though...
Wed May 19, 2021, 02:33 PM
May 2021

The bakery dude is a psycho who is really her older brother that was put up for adoption.

The OP will get there just before he tries to smother her to death with a gluten free muffin.

Fla Dem

(23,576 posts)
8. Well she did share the information with you. It may just be a very platonic friendship. However....
Wed May 19, 2021, 01:45 PM
May 2021

How often do you talk with her? Hope it's at least once a day. If she mentions him in a conversation, I would ask her in a humorous way, "OK sweetie, honey (whatever your pet name is for her) is this someone I should be worried about stealing you away from me?.

But I would also suggest you take a few days off and go spend some time with her. She's in a stressful situation taking care of her Dad. I'm sure a visit from you would brighten her day and show you care.

Also, try cutting back on your 10 hour days.

Just my thoughts.

Chainfire

(17,458 posts)
12. You will know you have a problem
Wed May 19, 2021, 03:06 PM
May 2021

If you come home and find there is a bun in the oven.

You probably do have a problem.

You are investing 80 hours a week in your work, how many hours are you investing in your relationship? You just have to decide whether she is more important you you than money. People either grow together or they grow apart.

DFW

(54,270 posts)
16. There are no absolutes
Wed May 19, 2021, 05:39 PM
May 2021

My wife was from a small town in the flatlands of the northwest. She always felt stifled by boyfriends who wanted her close by all the time. Sort of pre-control freaks. Not fully blown, but jealous types who couldn't bear for her to have a girls' night out without crashing the party. That's what got my predecessor booted out. As I couldn't believe my luck that she even gave me a second glance ("wow, an American, how exotic!" ), I was perfectly willing to give her whatever space she wanted, and we are still together 47 years later. She sang, "Don't fence me in," and I sang back, "Never my love," and we bridged a 3000 mile gap of water, and a cultural gap in language and tradition. People can grow separately without losing the bond. They just have to both want it.

tanyev

(42,515 posts)
18. Have you considered buying out a small town Christmas cookie company?
Thu May 20, 2021, 06:57 PM
May 2021

Odds are really good you’ll meet a nice lovely gal that way.

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