Do women routinely try on each others' shoes?

[Aristus]

Let me back up and explain that question.

My poor stepson has been married and divorced twice so far (I may be biased, but neither was his fault at all). Both times, he was married to a woman who, among other transgressions, thought nothing of rooting through Mrs. Aristus' closet and trying on all her shoes. Mrs. Aristus has small, delicate feet, and neither of them did, so they ruined more than a few pairs.

Is this a thing? Do women actually do this? Or was this just a symptom of the larger issues plaguing the women my stepson chose to marry?

[markie]

1. no

creepy behavior

[Effete Snob]

2. There's some deep Oedipal symbolism there

His wives keep stepping into the shoes of his mother?

Yah, nothing Freudian about that.

You don't, by any chance, share cigars with him, do you?

[Aristus]

4. Well, they both came from conservative evangelical families, so that says a lot.

His first wife had, shall we say, Daddy issues.

His second wife ran off with the leader of an evangelical, prosperity-gospel cult.

[KarenS]

3. I'm sorry,,,, what???

I cannot even imagine this scenario ,,,,,

I am a woman 72 years old and I have never heard of anything like this,,,,,

[Aristus]

5. Well, it did strike both me and Mrs. Aristus as more than a little off.

But I wasn't sure.

[tblue37]

13. Its also weird--and rude--that they felt they could go into another person's closet & root around

in their personal belongings!

[Diamond_Dog]

6. Are you kidding me?

I have never heard of anyone doing this. Really Strange with a capital S.

[Aristus]

7. I wasn't sure whether to apply a man's perspective to it.

Unlike a lot of guys, I have a large, expensive shoe collection of my own. What can I say? Mrs. Aristus and I like dressing up and hitting the town (at least we did before COVID-19) I would be very much weirded out if a guy we had invited into our home had gone through and tried on all my shoes.

I didn't know if women were different in this respect.

[Diamond_Dog]

10. I can assure you

as a woman, it would totally creep me out and make me mad if anyone did this and ruined my shoes.

Maybe they were jealous of the pretty shoes in the small size. But, still, , that doesn’t justify doing something like that.

[Wounded Bear]

8. Back in high school, I distinctly remember two girls doing this...

It seemed like every day, they would come into class, sit down, and pass each other's shoes back and forth. I sat behind them, it happened.

I guess they were good friends or something, I doubt it happens with strangers, and doing it without permission is definitely a bozo-nono IMO.

But I've seen it happen.

[LakeArenal]

9. NO. Nor do most women borrow someone's underpants or toothbrush.

[Laffy Kat]

11. So, DIL tried on Mrs. Aristus' shoes without asking?

I never heard of such a thing and I do believe it's rather strange.

[Cracklin Charlie]

12. I don't.

I’m not sure I’ve ever borrowed shoes, unless it was an emergency.

[Aristus]

14. It wasn't even a case of borrowing.

Just "I wonder how these would look on ME!"

[Cracklin Charlie]

17. Ewww.

Go buy your own shoes.

[yellowdogintexas]

15. sisters, moms & daughters and college dorm mates

often trade shoes.

Although only in the same sizes, and with permission! My college roommate and I wore the same size and often lent shoes to each other to match a particular outfit. I lost count of the number of times my mom & I traded shoes.

[Donkees]

16. Wicked stepsisters, Cinderella Syndrome

[MuseRider]

18. No.

I would no more try on someone else's shoes than I would go rifling through their closet without permission. Good grief, there is a lot there to think about.

[frogmarch]

19. No.

If such a thing happens again, Mrs. Aristus should wait until the deed is done, and then say, "Oh, by the way, I have toenail fungus."

[viva la]

22. Athlete's foot too!

[3catwoman3]

20. I have not done this, ever.

They managed to ruin shoes by trying them on? That would seem to take some effort.

[viva la]

21. I would never do that

It's weird and unsanitary.

Who would think you had to lock up your shoes to keep some guest from putting them on?

[Lars39]

23. There are some people who view

their bedrooms as off-limits to anybody but themselves. Maybe y’all need to set that boundary, the gross familiarity that the former DILs showed possibly wouldn’t have happened.
Good manners are learned young…those two sound kinda feral.

[Skittles]

24. fuck no

hell fucking no

sounds like that boy picks real winners

[Aristus]

26. Mrs. Aristus, once a conservative evangelical herself, has long since reformed and become

a staunch liberal, Obama-Biden loving, Trump-hating, pro gun-control, LGBTQ-friendly Democrat.

Two of her three adult children are still mired in the hellhole of conservative Christianity. My poor stepson (sweetest, nicest young man in the world, temperamentally unsuited for his chosen ideology) got married the first time around more because he wanted to have sex than because he wanted to be married. After his first wife left him, he got engaged and re-married rather quickly, again because he didn't want to have sex outside of marriage.

After his second wife left him, Mrs. Aristus (who was trapped with her abusive first husband for fifteen years because she thought it was a sin to get divorced) finally told him that sex before marriage, to assess compatibility, and just to avoid unnecessary marriages, was maybe not such a bad thing.

Right now, he is dealing with his pain, and concentrating on raising his two beautiful daughters. I think he's going to take his time before venturing into treacherous waters again.

[RobinA]

25. As A Younger

Boomer, I can say this is absolutely nothing I've ever heard of, and I was in a sorority. Can't speak for the younger ladies, maybe things have loosened up since my day. Of course, evangelical Christians are pretty far from the paths I generally travel.

[Aristus]

27. One thing I've noticed about young conservative evangelicals,

(of whom, my stepson's first wife was a sterling example) is how poorly socialized most of them are. Raised in a bubble of religious insularity, they never learn proper social cues, public behavior, the idea that other people exist for more than being preached at. It doesn't surprise me that they have difficulty with boundaries.

[IcyPeas]

28. invasion of privacy to go thru someone's closet

I think they were just being nosey.

[irisblue]

29. Did either of you toss out the closet rooter on her nosy ass?