My brother was found dead yesterday
I was out of town, and just about to jump in the car to begin a long drive home, when I got the call.
He was 74 and lived alone, and he'd apparently had been dead at least several days. His ex found him while on the phone with me, asking if I'd heard from him.
I'd talked to him about two weeks prior, but I should have known something was up when he didn't call on my birthday. The alarm just didn't ring...
Not much of the family left now, parents long gone, both brothers gone. Just some elderly 1st cousins and a few nieces and nephews.
I keep having the feeling that I should call him and tell him about this, 'cause that's what I do when someone in the family dies...
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I think the message for the rest of us may be to call those for whom this scenario may resonate--this weekend without fail. I can assure you that I will. May your brother be at peace and may you soon be able to remember first only the good memories.
family left. That is my situation also. No one prepares us for this.
My prayers are with you. 
Such a very sad shock.
Wishing you comfort as you deal with this great loss.
And so sorry to even mention this, but they were both my favorites of six of us. Just always makes me sad when I read siblings die. ♥️.
Having lost two siblings already, I can say it's a tough transition.
I can relate to the momentary impulse to call someone, only to realize abruptly that it is no longer possible. Be gentle with yourself at this difficult time.
As someone who only has one family member left, I think I know a little of what this feels like. Be kind to yourself during what I know are difficult days.
I still come across things where I think, "I should call Mom and tell her about this." But my mother passed away in 2018.
him to be found. That feeling when you almost pick up the phone to call is a like walking into a break wall. Hugs to you. 
So I know something of what you must be going through. This is a tough one. Sorry to hear of your loss.
That is terrible... rip to your brother
I have had two great losses also in a few months, first my father and then last week my neighbor and close friend of 94.
That must have been a terrible shock. To have lost your parents and siblings must leave you feeling terribly alone. We are always here if you need to talk through your grief and feelings.
So many people will be thinking about you with concern and respect.
So sorry you have encountered this deep sadness. Time will help the healing.
❤️️
I know how you feel, CR.. my sister passed shockingly unexpectedly the day after Christmas in 2019
And I kept wanting to call her and tell what all was going on! We talked on the phone almost everyday sometimes.
She was in San Diego and I'm on Kauai.. she was also my best friend.
Mahalo for being there for my voice in the wilderness .. words cannot express how much it's meant to me through the years now.
A shock of a loss like this makes it all the worse for those of us left behind. I deeply understand how that feels. When they're there and you assume you're both going be there still tomorrow, next week or next month.
When you said you kept feeling like you needed to call him to let him know about the death in the family, it was a gut punch.
The family dynamic has forever changed now, but the habits of heart, mind, and body go on.
All I have of my family are my brother and sister and their spouses. I have a few cousins somewhere I haven't seen for decades. They'd be like strangers if I met them.
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing one of my siblings is too depressing to think about.
I lost my younger brother last year (heart attack) he was and will always will be our "Cheezy" ....
