How long have you been with your SO?

[debm55]

We were married on June 23, 1979. We met in September, got engaged in November and married in June. I love him as much as I did 45 years ago.

[sinkingfeeling]

1. Was with my ex for a little over 2 years. Just stayed long enough for my son to be

born and divorced him... 50 years ago last week. Single and loving it.

[debm55]

4. sinkingfeeling, good for you. It's better to not be in a toxic relationship. You are a strong woman

and mother.

[TigressDem]

2. 30+ years

Married 23 with Anniversary coming up in May.

We dated for several years.

He's the best.

[debm55]

6. Tigress, I am so happy that you found the best.

[old as dirt]

3. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary last summer

Married July 3, 1997.



My first marriage lasted 19 years.

[debm55]

9. Wow, old as dirt, you are very lucky to have the love of your life in your life.

[ironflange]

5. 46 years

Forty of those married, despite those sneezes.

[debm55]

10. ironflange, you are funny. Glad you have the special love in your life. despite the sneezes.

[MOMFUDSKI]

7. 35 years.

Met him when I was 10 thru my cousin. (Married my high school sweetheart. Divorced him after 22 years.) Flew to Florida to visit my cousin and met up with him in '88. He took me out for the best Sunday of my life. We still laugh about that crazy day. He is smart, steady, and the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have an angel on my shoulder.

[debm55]

12. Mom, that is beautiful, --an angel on your shoulder. I look at my husband also as my saving angel.

You are so blessed to have him back in your life. I am so glad for you. What a wonderful tale of true love.

[MOMFUDSKI]

38. Thanks for that.

The crazy Sunday I spoke of is when he told me he had such a crush on me when we were in our teens but I had no idea at that time. Funny how life is.

[bottomofthehill]

8. 28 years

[debm55]

14. bottom, thank you. I hope your years together will be as good as the first day you met.

[bottomofthehill]

19. Thank you, I am a very lucky person

My wife makes me as happy today as when we first met. I hope and pray that she still feels the same way about me as I feel about her. She still seems happy and I hope that we stay that way forever. We have been through some tough times but our love stayed strong. Like I said, I am a very lucky person.

[subterranean]

11. It'll be 34 years this year! Married for 33 of them.

As they say, you never can tell.

[debm55]

18. sub, I wish you both all the happiness, joy and strenght as a couple in the future.

[ShazzieB]

13. Mr. B and I will celebrate 49 years of marriage on May 25, 2023.

One more year after that, and we'll be golden.

We met in the fall of 1973, were engaged a few months later, and got married on May 25, 1974. Kind of crazy, and I really don't recommend rushing into things that fast as a general rule. In our case, once we knew we wanted to spend our lives together, we just couldn’t wait to get started. And here we are, all these years later, so it seems to have worked out.

[debm55]

24. ShazzieB, your story is very similar to mine. People said it would never last. But here we are, with

all of our quirks. I agree about knowing that your SO was the one. I hope that your lives together continue to be a love story for both of you.

[gainesvillenole]

15. 42 years!

[debm55]

26. gainsvillenole, 42 wonder years with the love of life. Even though there are good times and not so

good times, we have found the love of our lives. Happy for you, my friend.

[Freethinker65]

16. 32+ years

Lots of verbal sparring as we differ politically, but also lots of love.

(He leans conservative, but did NOT vote for Trump, ever)

[debm55]

29. Freethinker, my SO was a Ford Rep when we married. He has been a Democrat for quite a while.

Oh don't get me wrong, as in your case too, I believe, there will be sparring, but the love is strong. The love we have got us through some tough times.

[debm55]

30. Dum, how wonderful for you both. I bet you love her more then you did in 1978. You have found a

soul mate my friend.

[UpInArms]

20. Today is our 30th anniversary

And he is my hourglass and all my sand resides there

[debm55]

33. Up in arms, that is beautiful. Happy anniversary to you and your SO, and may your love continue.

[Bristlecone]

21. 23+ years together.

[debm55]

35. Bristlecone, may your best years remain with your SO in your life.

[Bristlecone]

39. Thank you so much!

Congrats to you and your SO on 45 and counting.

[Niagara]

22. 10 and a half unmarried years.

I had been married for 12 years beforehand and it's not a bologna-brained decision that I would say yes to ever again.

[debm55]

37. You know Niagara, I don't think I would ever date or remarry again. I am happy for you that you have

made the decision that is best for you and no one else.

[WheelWalker]

23. 38 years divorced, next November, after 13 year marriage. Neither wife nor I remarried.

We have 2 disabled daughters, one of whom still lives in my home.

August past, impecunious and without a place to call her own, wife moved into the main house too.

I'm living in a small detached studio within router range. I don't go over there much, lol, except to take them eggs from the coop.

[debm55]

41. Wheelwalker, I wish you the best. You are a strong and loving man. I wish you well. PS Don't get me

wrong, one year after we married SO was in rehab, 3 years after I found out because of a medical condition that I couldn't have children. We adopted our disabled son. My husband has been sober for a long time-Close to 44 years. It was hard-very hard. But our love saved us. Again I wish you well my friend.

[WheelWalker]

42. Thank you. Blessings.

[localroger]

25. Since 1984

Shacked up for most of that time, we finally got married in the 2000's because of health insurance. We knew from the beginning that neither of us wanted children, just each other.

[young_at_heart]

27. 64 years

Back in the 50's some people got married when they were fairly young (19 and 20).

[debm55]

47. Wow, you and your SO are awesome. I was engaged at 18. It would have never lasted. It was more, the

thing to do. and it was onesided on my part. I found my soulmate after college. Love, as you know, is a give and take. At 18, it wasn't.

[lostnfound]

28. 42 years, minus 31.

First bf at almost 17, together for 2, apart for 31, together again for 9…will be my last bf

Funny story.. figured I’d probably never have another relationship 9 years ago. Walking by a river, pondering the good fortune I’d had right from the beginning, worthwhile relationships.. I started talking to the sky above me, softly but loud in my mind, but to my first bf — “wherever you are, dear, I hope you’re happy, because YOU deserve it. Thank you for slays loving me, and always being kind.”

I got an email from him that afternoon. We had not talked in 30 years.

[MOMFUDSKI]

36. One never knows

what the wonderful universe might bring to you. Great story. Thanks.

[debm55]

48. What a terrrific story! Thank you so much for sharing with us.

True love, knows no time limit.

[Thunderbeast]

31. Five good years....Since 1987

Sorry...Dad joke.

[debm55]

46. HA,HA. ----

[AZSkiffyGeek]

32. 18 years

It’s almost to the day that I remember meeting her. Although she claims we met six months earlier and I couldn’t keep my eyes off her.

[debm55]

45. AZ, You must really love each other. I wish for you both love, friendship and the strenght to get

to get through the hard times if they come.

[rainy]

34. 33 years!

Just gets better and better

[debm55]

44. rainy, it does. I look at my SO now. He is the most loving, caring and handsome man in the world.

[NNadir]

40. I say 38 years; my wife says 37.

She counts the time we've been married; I count the time since we moved in together.

We'd been good friends for some time; in both cases our living situations had become untenable, so we decided to become housemates, to rent a place together.

I of course, knew for quite some time that I was in love with her, but I hadn't quite worked up the courage to discuss it for fear of losing her friendship.

Finally, after two weeks as housemates we became lovers because finally I couldn't take it anymore and came out with it.

It was a little awkward at first, and she was tentative for a short while, but finally she agreed to try me out, and she's been in the process of "trying me out" for 38 years.

I think she'll stay.

We're still very good friends, besides being husband and wife. Becoming her lover did not, in the end, ruin our friendship.

I am very, very, very, very fortunate.

I haven't been all that easy to love, but, for her, I worked to become a better man.

[debm55]

43. What a great post NNadir, yes, it is great to be best friends and lovers.The marriages that I have

seen fail in my family, where cousins who had this lover only attitude. Divorce after one or two years. You found your soul mate-one of lover and friend. I believe you are both better people for being friends and lovers with each other.

[woodsprite]

50. Been together 47 years, married for 38 years.

We were high school sweethearts.

It certainly doesn't seem like we've been together that long (which is a good thing!).

[hippywife]

51. He became my SO exactly 26 years ago today.

We'll be married 26 years this July.

[3catwoman3]

52. We met in 1978, and married in 1982.

I proposed first, and he turned me down. 2 years later, when it was his idea, we got married. He’s lucky I’m a ridiculously patient person.

[debm55]

62. 3cat, good for you for being so patient and loving. Wish you all the best.

[LakeArenal]

53. Lived together since 1972. Married 48 years.

Drifted a bit working so much. But once retired, right back to where we were 50 years ago. Having the second best times of our lives ( those first years of youth and love are hard to beat). But everyday is an adventure.
We love each other but we like each other even more.

Mr Lake is the funniest person I ever knew. Hearty laughs everyday.

[debm55]

63. Lake, laughter can see you through some of the hard times that come with marriage. Enjoy your friend

and lover. Enjoy the fun times with your SO.

[csziggy]

54. As of today, 47 years

We had our 45th anniversary of our marriage last July. But Valentine's Day is our real anniversary.

[debm55]

64. csziggy, happy anniversary to both you and your SO. Enjoy the day with your best friend and lover.--

[dawn5651]

55. congrats to you and your so ...while i was in a 10 year relationship i am

i am currently a crazy cat lady and loving every minute of being mama to the best bunch of fur brats on the planet..

[Gaugamela]

56. Happily divorced. Never going back. Never.

[debm55]

65. Gaugamela, good for you that you made that decision. Marriage is not for everyone. Enjoy yourself

and live the life you want to live.

[AZLD4Candidate]

57. Together since 2011. Married since 2014.

[debm55]

66. AZ, thank you for posting. I hope the journey with you and your SO is filled with love,

understanding, and friendship.

[mbusby]

58. 44 ....

.... best 8 years of my life (just kidding).

[debm55]

67. HA, HA, Continue on your life's journey with your SO with laughter and love in your heart.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

59. You are more fortunate than you know.

I was married in 1980. After 25 years my husband met another woman that he decided he'd rather be with. Sigh.

In 2008 I moved from Kansas to Santa Fe, NM, and started a new life. Santa Fe is a wonderful place for an older woman (I'd just turned 60) to start a new life. Have no idea what it's like for men. This is not a good city for young people, so far as I can tell.

My point is that I was able to start a new life. Not the same as, but in its own way as good as what those here in good long term relationships are reporting.

I am always happy to learn of good long term relationships. They are always wonderful and inspiring.

[Solly Mack]

60. So long we are starting to look like each other.

[debm55]

68. Ha, Ha. That is funny. Enjoy your journey with your SO, Solly.

[Luciferous]

73. 😂

[Backseat Driver]

61. Those were the days my friend...

but the music was lots better 57 years ago.

[debm55]

69. Backseat, it's not better, nor is it worse, it's different.

[Mad_Dem_X]

70. 25 years married, almost 30 years together total (in June).

We began dating on June 4, 1993, and married on November 15, 1997.

[debm55]

78. Mad, I wish a happy journey to you both filled with love, understanding and strength.

[beaglelover]

71. 16 years now. Going strong!

[debm55]

79. beagle, love it!

to both you and your SO. May your journey together be filled with understanding, tolerance and love.

[Luciferous]

72. 25 years. We've been together since I was 16 🙂

I absolutely adore him.

[debm55]

80. Luciferous, Wow 16? I wish you both the best in your journey together.

[Cadfael]

74. Have been living together since 1979

Married in 1984

[debm55]

81. Cadfael, sometimes I think we rushed into marriage. But I just knew he was the one. May your journey

together be filled with continued love and patience.

[blueknight73]

75. married 43 years!

And I'm still convinced I married the nicest lady in the world

[debm55]

82. blueknight, that is very sweet of you to say that about your SO. She must be so special to you. And

I am sure after 43 years, her heart feels the same toward you.

[Generic Brad]

76. We're on our 37th year of marriage

Our families both had problems with accepting an interracial/international coupling. And they all said it wouldn't last.

[debm55]

83. Generic, love has no age limit, or culture. It is wonderful that you and your SO made it to 37 years

so far. And the the journey will continue because of your love, understanding and tolerance toward each other.

[Sky Jewels]

77. 30 years.

We knew right away. It was like, "Oh, there you are!"

[debm55]

84. Sky,I wish both you and your SO continue your journey with the love you had when you met.

[onethatcares]

85. since before Feb 28, 1970

that's when we got married so it's been a lifetime.

[debm55]

89. one, it must be a beautiful lifetime to be on the journey for so long.

[onethatcares]

92. ahhhh, we've run aground a few times

but fixed the sail and kept on.

and as I tell folks,

It's all her fault.............

It's weird but out of our family of me and 4 sibs we're the only ones that haven't been divorced.
My parents figured we'd last about a week or two.

HaHaHa, to them..

[beemerphill]

86. Been together for 49 years.

We have been married for 46 years. The best thing that ever happened to me.

[debm55]

90. beemer, What a wonderful thing to say about your SO. I wish both well as you continue your journey

together.

[Danmel]

87. Our 35th will be in October

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[debm55]

91. Thank you Danmel as you continue your 35 year journey.

[kairos12]

88. Coming to 38 years. She had me

when she laughed at a bad pun.

[debm55]

93. kairos, that is funny. Best of wishes as you and your SO continue your 38 year journey.