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[debm55]

1. Matt, didn't you go to the food pantry? I don't understand .How often are you allowed to go to the

food bank? Is it weekly or monthly? I didn't know you had to pay for county transportation. I thought all you needed was a Medicare card and it was free.

[mvd]

2. I mentioned it and want to go

My friend has had a hectic schedule and can’t come until the food money comes in anyway. She thought it was a good idea but can’t come. One in Phoenixville is quite good and even has Trader Joe stuff. There is no Lyft/Uber money. I did get a ride to the doctor from one of those church charities, so that is an improvement. I hate to ask again already but might have to.

[debm55]

3. How is your mom?

[mvd]

4. Sadly, not good

The depression is worse. The close psychiatry place has been booked up with a long waiting list. If I could get to the food pantry soon that would be great. This is when I finally ran out of food. I am a bit mad at my friend for not coming when she agreed with the plan.

Thanks for asking.

[MissB]

5. You were given lots of resources to check out but first call your social worker

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Give him or her a call, now. Leave a message. Tell them you’re almost out of food and can’t get to a food bank. Call again in the morning.

If you can’t get to a food bank, how on earth can you get to the store? If you can get to the store then you can get to the food bank.

CALL THE SOCIAL WORKER.

[BlackSkimmer]

6. Wow, Again?

I will post links to all your other OPs asking for money tomorrow.

Another DUer pointed out you raised over 10 grand here, so something is just not right.

Here is a suggestion, anyone who wants to help you out can send you grocery cards. You can use them for food. That will help, right?

Let us know how to send those to you, ok?

[XanaDUer2]

7. User PennRalphie smartly suggested email

Food giftcards.

As for being mad at this friend, she's doing a yeoman's job, driving, giving money. Maybe she has some problems of her own.

[debm55]

8. Black Skimmer, Xanaduer, gift cards are a great idea. The food bank here is weekly.

[BlackSkimmer]

23. Yes, my little red town has many food banks.

Plus the churches.

And a center where people can eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner for free.

[XanaDUer2]

24. Meals on Wheels there seems out of the social worker's

Capabilities of setting up. Mind blowing.

[BlackSkimmer]

25. Ny first job out of college was the Meals on Wheels Coordinator lol in my little county..

It's VERY easy to get set up.

Frequently we would get calls from neighbors concerned that someone wasn't getting food. So we would reach out and see if we could help. I worked in a mountainous area with lots of cranky old mountain people who would not dream of asking for help. Frequently they would turn us down, but we did try.

Obviously the OP is not in the least bothered about asking for help, so meals on wheels is a great idea!

That might be an idea...we could call his local meals on wheels people (who are very connected to social services) and let them know that there is a vulnerable adult at risk for food shortage. They will check it out immediately.

[XanaDUer2]

26. Took one 15-minute call here

In red land.

[XanaDUer2]

27. The lack of food

Debiliating depression, falling down the stairs, water and electricity problems with it being unpaid, numerous ER visits due to stress...this is an elderly person who deserves better. Social Security is meant for the recipient who earned it, not supporting adult offspring who won't even get a Pt job to help.

[question everything]

9. Here

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181704916#post192

24. Here are the previous GFMs you've posted.

There are discrepancies that have caught my and others' eye.

You offered to give hearts away to folks right after saying the electricity was going to be cut off, and now the water is going to be cut off.

Maybe put money like that toward your utilities?

Here are the previous GFMs for anyone interested:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215909861

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215946390

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216254697

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100216659843

And then there is this month's GFM. As another poster pointed out, you still have a couple of the previous ones open.

[BlackSkimmer]

13. There are even more than that, an they go back some time.

There's also an interesting thread where he says he received a trust after his father's death, and he mentions pensions for both mom and dad?

[Maraya1969]

31. And as a senior, his mom gets Social Security, and he probably gets

Social Security disability. And at least where I live, there are all sorts of rides and food and other things besides government help. I have a friend who can call before 5 PM the day before, and the county or state or some thing will pick him up directly at his door and drop him somewhere and then pick him up and take him home after that.

The only thing about food pantries is you may have to cook something

[Hekate]

45. Does EarlG know about this? Lordy.

[mvd]

10. Thank you so much for that donation!

I can get to the food bank now in case my friend still can’t come. I really should be ok now.

[debm55]

11. May I ask what you are using the money for--transportation-which is free or the food which is also

free at the pantry? Maybe I am missing something but I think I am. Good luck.

[mvd]

12. I can't find any free transportation right now

So I can pay for a ride where the food would be free. I did use the parish I used before for a ride to the doctor. The older guy I had before likely died but they can schedule you sometimes. Other times I need Lyft due to not having a car. I hope that helps.

[BlackSkimmer]

14. There is free transportation available to you.

I know that I gave you the phone number, and others gave you even more info.

Come on, man.

[ForgedCrank]

15. I have to give you credit,

I didn't think you would do this again.
As a side note, I just finished doing all of our taxes. My youngest son grossed $24,000 last year working only 3 days a week.

[XanaDUer2]

16. It's time for a job

SSDI can drag on for YEARS. Mine is. And I'm older. It's much harder for those under 55. It's not something to count on.

[ForgedCrank]

17. The job would

probably be more than 2 blocks away, and having to cross a dangerous road to get there, so it's impossible. I'm sure he'll think about it and appreciate the information though.

[XanaDUer2]

18. Reaching the goal is important

[bluestarone]

19. Really HATE giving this anotherb kick BUT

I feel he LIES. He did state he would NOT bump this anymore? (So here we go)

[XanaDUer2]

20. He said EBT was late several GFM s ago

Straight-out lie.

[debm55]

21. I was surprised he didn't discuss his mom in the OP. I had to ask how she was doing.

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[BlackSkimmer]

22. LOl!

I didn't expect to see this again, but I should have known better.

[Terryshine]

28. I don't believe for a minute

That these “donations” are coming from DU. It’s either seed money or his fundraising plea is cross posted to many sites.

On another note, my teenage son (who uses his part time job money for this) has told me there’s a new video game out.

[XanaDUer2]

29. There's the magic word

J-O-B . many, many places can place disabled in probably WFH jobs. Even PT.

EACH STATE has a Dept. Of Vocational Rehabilitation that tests, assesses, trains, and places the disabled in jobs. For free. I'm sure United Way can help get that ball rolling.

Is not working better than these constant crises about money? Shit, I worked 37 years disabled. Come on, man.

Sometimes you just gotta get a job.

[BlackSkimmer]

30. Aha.

I have frequently thought about gaming in reference to this...

[mvd]

32. Well I was able to get to the pawn shop and food pantry

The money gotten was a huge help. I am closing this thread soon if it doesn’t just drop. Might as well let the fundraiser play out.

Now my hot water heater is not working. But not starting another fundraiser. I will see what else I can do.

[XanaDUer2]

33. Is the toilet fixed now ? Nt

[Terryshine]

34. How do you keep track?

Foreclosures, trust funds, social worker, no social worker,broken toilets, stores too far to walk to even though you’re starving, no drinkable water, ebt late, friends who won’t provide a ride to a food pantry, $10,000 in previous fundraisers…is there a spreadsheet you use to reference all of this?

The one consistency is the absolute refusal to seek employment. The employment economy is doing well. Everyone is hiring and almost everyone is paying $15.00 minimum per hour.

[XanaDUer2]

35. And the probably-deceased old-man

Church driver. You finally find a free driver, and he expires.

[Terryshine]

36. That too

I know if I had an elderly, sickly widowed neighbor with a disabled son, house in foreclosure, and they were without food and needed a ride to the free food pantry, I would help out in a minute.

It’s rather odd that none of their neighbors feel the same way.

[mvd]

37. Got bad news about the water heater

It is 10 years old and someone gave a free consultation. He says the pilot light is broken and the water heater needs to be replaced. Of course I don’t have $5,000 for that. But the first thing I am trying is house buyers. Need to move anyway.

[debm55]

38. Gee, Matt, that sounds like alot to pay for a water heater. Does that include installation? Maybe

you should get a second opinion. Places that offer free consultations are usually scams. I think we paid 800 for ours and that was with installment. Good luck.

[mvd]

39. I am getting a second opinion

It was Roto-Rooter, so it wasn’t a scam, but I don’t trust that opinion either. He didn’t even mention possible repair costs.

[debm55]

40. DON"T USE ROTO-ROOTER!!!! I was going to mention that here in Pittsburgh there was a class action

Suit against them, but I only thought they were in Pittsburgh. They are a scam. --free consultation and the prices are outrageous. They prey on the elderly and around the holidays when people are really in need. If you check out the Better Business Bureau, you will find the number of conplaints against them. They charge one elderly person 30,000 to have her sewage line cleaned out. www.KDKA.com was really on their tail and helped with the suit. I haven't heard or seen their ads, I thought they were run out of town. I guess they were. Yes, Matt, they are a scam artists. Repeat-do not use them.

[mvd]

41. Thank you! Because they are known, I thought they are ok

I am so happy you posted this! I have a local company person coming out Monday. Perhaps they will say it can be lit without total replacement.

[debm55]

42. They were run out of Pittsburgh. Use a local union installator. Did they use the wire with the light

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on the end? That was their trademake in Pittsburgh.==open 24 hours, 7 days a week so they can scam.

[mvd]

43. Red and blue letters of the name plus..

a water logo kind of in a half moon. I am sure they are the same. Thanks again! The local company could not come check without charge over the weekend but will come Monday.

[Hekate]

44. Good gods, not again

[mvd]

46. Ending today so closing thread later today

[Terryshine]

47. No worries

In a month or so, there will be another plea for money with another fantastic story. But there won’t be a job.

Happy Easter!

[XanaDUer2]

48. Will there be Meals on Wheels, even

[Terryshine]

49. There will only be a goal.

[mvd]

50. I'm closing this

I greatly appreciate DU but it seems some just don’t understand. If you get tired of these, it is nothing like being in this situation. Asking for continued good vibes that mom feels better and that we have a more stress free life.