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targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 09:15 PM Apr 2023

***WORDLE*** Why I can't even try it anymore...

This is a very personal story... I'll tell it briefly and as concisely as possible, but I feel like I just need to get this out of me to somebody...

I had a longtime friend, that I've known since 1999... He eventually moved to Malaysia, remained in constant contact.. Via AIM, Facebook, etc... And, we were in touch twice a day via WhatsApp (considering we were on the opposite sides of the planet)... We'd chat during his morning (my nighttime) and night (my morningtime)... We talked bullshit mostly, memes, jokes, TV shows, politics, our fondness for one another, growing older, etc. But, we agreed to play WORDLE every day to compete... This routine happened everyday for almost a year... Until one day... We were in mid joke, said "good night" or "good morning" and then everything stopped... I sent my daily WORDLE score, and waited 12 hours for him to beat me or lose against my score... No response. The next day, I sent my score again. No response... This went on for days. I asked if everything was okay... Every couple of days I could tell he was reading my messages and WORDLE score because WhatsApp indicates when messages were read. I kinda was upholding my end of things without a response... Hoping every day for a reply. The last message that was read was on on my birthday in February... I sent him a picture of my new puppy that I just adopted, told him, how I wished he was okay, and how much I loved him being a part of my life. That message was read... The next day, I sent my WORDLE score, but it was never read. And the following day I did the same, but that, too, was never read. Then again, and again, and again... Never read. Of course, I knew in my heart what had happened.

I sent my scores for two weeks, until some folks started posting tributes to his Facebook page. My friend died. Somehow, some way. I don't know any of his Malaysian friends, and I still don't know any details... There is a language barrier and he had locked down his Facebook for privacy.

So, I lost a very dear friend... A love. The smartest and funniest person in any room. He was only 45. Too young. That's the end of our longtime friendship.

I don't care what anybody says... It's possible to hold and maintain dear and loving friendships online and across great distances. The loss of my friend hits me every day at any time. And, I almost collapse. It just seem like a great loss without closure. And, that's why I can't play WORDLE anymore... Perhaps, one day in the future... with a new friend... Or with my dear Democratic Underground friends.

Thanks for reading... I just needed to write this at some point, and the time was now.

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***WORDLE*** Why I can't even try it anymore... (Original Post) targetpractice Apr 2023 OP
NT MN2theMax Apr 2023 #1
Thank you! targetpractice Apr 2023 #14
Sorry for your loss Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #2
Thank you... I'll be back with you folks in the future! n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #15
I am so sorry for your loss. What an incredible friendship. MLAA Apr 2023 #3
Much appreciated MLAA... You are very kind. n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #16
That's a horrible shock and heartbreaking. Laffy Kat Apr 2023 #4
Thank you... You captured my bewilderment. Very kind of you. n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #17
I'm sorry. That is truly devistating. And to still not know what happened judesedit Apr 2023 #5
Thank you judesedit.... Your reply means a lot to me. n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #18
How awful for you. Hugs Srkdqltr Apr 2023 #6
Exactly. I'm sorry for your loss, Srkdqltr... Thanks for acknowledging mine. n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #19
A very claudette Apr 2023 #7
I hope so, claudette. Thanks for your kind words. n/t targetpractice Apr 2023 #20
I had somewhat the same thing happen... scipan Apr 2023 #8
I suspect something similar. I thought the same... targetpractice Apr 2023 #21
A wise (and now deceased) friend of mine once wrote me, "Grief majdrfrtim Apr 2023 #9
Lovely sentiment from your wise friend... targetpractice Apr 2023 #22
awwww...I am so sorry. Trueblue Texan Apr 2023 #10
Thank you Trueblue Texan... targetpractice Apr 2023 #23
I'm sorry for your broken heart 💔 1WorldHope Apr 2023 #11
Thank you 1WorldHope... targetpractice Apr 2023 #24
I am so sorry for your loss Tumbulu Apr 2023 #12
Thank you, Tumbulu... targetpractice Apr 2023 #25
I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Apr 2023 #13
Thank you StarryNite... targetpractice Apr 2023 #26
 

Hugh_Lebowski

(33,643 posts)
2. Sorry for your loss
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 09:21 PM
Apr 2023


When you're ready, there's a Wordle thread here every day as I'm sure you've noticed. At some point, could be comforting.

Take care of yourself.

Laffy Kat

(16,386 posts)
4. That's a horrible shock and heartbreaking.
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 09:22 PM
Apr 2023

I am so sorry for your loss and the way you found out. My deepest condolences.

Srkdqltr

(6,317 posts)
6. How awful for you. Hugs
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 10:12 PM
Apr 2023

I had a computer friend. We played an interactive game each night until she was too sick and passed. Last thing we said to each night was. hugs.

claudette

(3,593 posts)
7. A very
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 10:16 PM
Apr 2023

moving story. So glad that you had such a rewarding relationship and sorry it had to end without your having said good-bye. But, since you were so close, I'm betting he thought of you before he left this earth.

scipan

(2,356 posts)
8. I had somewhat the same thing happen...
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 11:03 PM
Apr 2023

I just found out he died from covid. He was sick for 2-3 weeks and never answered me or anyone while he was sick. I thought he didn't want to communicate with me.

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
21. I suspect something similar. I thought the same...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 10:51 AM
Apr 2023

... Did I say something wrong? Then I came to my senses. Thank your for your reply, scipan.

majdrfrtim

(318 posts)
9. A wise (and now deceased) friend of mine once wrote me, "Grief
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 11:21 PM
Apr 2023

is *not* a mental illness, though it sure as hell can *feel* like one -- probably because every new grief (no matter how seemingly insignificant) has the potential to reawaken any (or, too often, every) old grief."

My sincerest condolences to you target. Thank you for trusting us with your grief.

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
22. Lovely sentiment from your wise friend...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 10:52 AM
Apr 2023

... Thank you for the kindness and knowing that grief is unexpected and different for everybody. Be well my friend, majdrfrtim!

Trueblue Texan

(2,440 posts)
10. awwww...I am so sorry.
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 11:26 PM
Apr 2023

Love is defined by each individual and changes with the ages. I am so sorry for your loss. When you are ready to play Wordle again, lots of us here play.

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
23. Thank you Trueblue Texan...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 10:54 AM
Apr 2023

... I am sure start playing, but I miss him. I will start again and then check everybody's scores on DU. And then my review of the paths taken in the daily spoiler thread. Thank you, for your kind reply.

1WorldHope

(693 posts)
11. I'm sorry for your broken heart 💔
Wed Apr 12, 2023, 11:28 PM
Apr 2023

There is nothing to compare to death. The absolute end of all communication. You can't call, and you can't even text. Just gone. How sad for you. I'm only 67, but, it seems like I know more people on the other side than on this one. I sure hope we meet again. ✌️

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
24. Thank you 1WorldHope...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 10:57 AM
Apr 2023

... Someone once said to me... Life is about, graduations, weddings, childbirths, and eventually funerals. I, too, am a the stage it's more about condolences. But, such is the circle of life on this planet. I take hope in your sentiment... Thank you!

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
25. Thank you, Tumbulu...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 10:58 AM
Apr 2023

... It indeed hurts, but for me... It's helpful to receive kind words from someone like yourself. I appreciate you.

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
26. Thank you StarryNite...
Thu Apr 13, 2023, 11:00 AM
Apr 2023

... I hope he rests in peace... He was so young. I have no idea what happened. But, despite my not knowing... Acknowledgement and kind words from folks like you... mean more than you know.

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