Invited to a lake next weekend

[vercetti2021]

Next week is Memorial Day weekend and my girlfriends parents extended an invitation to go camping with them. Essentially glamping as the new term is. While I really love being invited to come, I'm very unsure about wanting to go and get into any type of lake water with my skin removal scars still healing. I'm also very self conscious about the battle scars I have right now and don't wanna show off skin.

I really don't know, I feel if I make up something I will look awful.

[woodsprite]

1. If they know about your recent surgery,

I would say “The dr says I need to be very careful about sun exposure during the healing process.” Even if they don’t know you could blame it on a med “my dr has me on”. I know there are drugs for bladder or kidney infections where you have to stay out of the sun. Actually that would work for staying out of the water as well.

I hope you can go and have fun without them pressuring you. We’ve lost so much family time over the last few years.

[Marthe48]

14. I take a common BP med

and the instructions say to avoid direct sun.

If I go to the lake with my family, I don't swim, just enjoy watching the water

[peacefreak2.0]

2. I think it's wonderful your girl friend's

parents are including you. You don’t have to swim if you don’t want to. A big book and a shady tree might be more appealing. Maybe hit the thrift store again and look for some gauzy cover ups that you’d be comfortable in. And a good hat! Good luck!

[vercetti2021]

22. They are nice

They know I've been dealing with a lot of stuff after surgery and such. I think its more of a way to get me out of the house and away from work. I hate a nice hat, but not sure about the shading there at the lake. I might sit in a chair by their RV. I keep my abdomen wrapped up a lot now.

[Sanity Claws]

3. Go! The suggestions above are great

You don't have to go swimming to enjoy the lake. You can just sit back and enjoy the company of your girlfriend and her family.

[vercetti2021]

23. Pretty much!

I might go spin around in their boat. Not sure yet.

[twodogsbarking]

4. Buy some flowers for your gf and her mother.

The rest will fall into place.

[vercetti2021]

24. I'll just pick some

We have rose bushes all over our property!

[dem4decades]

5. If your girlfriend's family can't understand your concern, you wouldn't want to be there. If

they're understanding, then enjoy your day at the lake. I wish I could go and bring my fishing pole.

[vercetti2021]

19. No they are fully aware

They expressed concern about it and thats why they wanted me to come also. To get out of the house and from work. Essentially take my mind off of things

[markie]

6. scars...

I have so many (from compound fractures to elective surgery)... I tell people they are from a life well lived!!

I had brachioplasty and have about 18" of scar under each arm... I say (to the little ones) these are the zippers that I use to get in and out of my skin!!

I have decided 'fuck 'em' if people judge me by my scars... this may not help you but truly, for our own good, we all really need to be comfortable in our own skin, no matter the size, shape, color, imperfections or perfectness!!

[vercetti2021]

25. They would be fine with it

I'm just incredibly insecure right now about it

[markie]

39. ...

[Lochloosa]

7. Bring a fishing pole...

[vercetti2021]

26. Can't fish

Terrible at it.

[Baitball Blogger]

8. Buy a very airy coverup that dries quickly.

I did it last summer when I didn't want to pose for pictures in a bathing suit. We all sat in the lake for the photo.

[vercetti2021]

27. What would you suggest?

I never bought anything like that before

[Baitball Blogger]

40. I usually purchase online.

I did searches for the one I purchased. If you're not happy with what you find, I will be happy to gift it to you if you give me a mailing address. It's white with pinkish flower design.

But you can start here, to look:

https://www.swimsuitsforall.com/

This is the cover up section
https://www.swimsuitsforall.com/sa/cover-ups/

Here is one that looks like it can dry quickly, but I wanted to cover up my arms too, so mine has sleeves.

https://www.swimsuitsforall.com/products/quincy-mesh-high-low-cover-up-tunic/1007465.html?cgid=SA_Cover_Ups_6&dwvar_1007465_color=4308457

[multigraincracker]

9. You'll be ready next year.

Don’t give it another thought.

Until then, heal up and get better.

[vercetti2021]

28. Thank you!

I've been resting and sitting at work a lot while making drinks lol

[Alpeduez21]

10. I don't know the relationship you have with the parents

So I don’t know how to respond. I do know you are under no obligation to go swimming nor to show skin.
Crazy as it sounds I’ve found honesty to be the best approach. “I’ve recently had a skin procedure and shouldn’t get the areas wet”. Don’t get on a boat either. Heath Ledger in that Batman movie kept telling different psychologically horrible stories about his characters scars. Test out your imagination. Most people are very understanding. If these people are not that is very good to know
Liquid bandaid is water proof but I don’t know how much area you have to cover. It can benefit from reapplication. Long pants and shirts are good especially if it’s cold out. If you want to go then go. We’ll always be here to support you no matter what.

[vercetti2021]

29. They already know

They think its good for me to come to get my mind off of it. I'm still thinking about it though. I have all week.

[Danascot]

11. Bring a hammock

Nobody expects someone to get out of a hammock while on vacation; that's just cruel.

[vercetti2021]

30. Haha

Well I also don't know how to tie up to a tree. I don't wanna risk falling out

[Tbear]

12. Tell them the truth

Most reasonable people will readily work with that. I’ll bet at least one person will extend themselves to help you feel comfortable.

[vercetti2021]

31. They already know

I just haven't told them I'm uncomfortable yet.

[Joinfortmill]

13. Go. Have fun. Stay out of the water...

They'll understand.

[vercetti2021]

32. I think they would

And also for me out of the sun too

[Hope22]

15. If the trip would sound fun if no water were involved then go.

Shorts and a tee take you on boat rides, shoreline walks and wading to cool down on a hot day. I’m with you about being protective of your new skin. Wear what makes your heart sing. You have been through so much and missed things for other reasons. Live it up! 😁💗

[vercetti2021]

33. Facts

Yeah boat ride would be fun. I just need to wrap my abdomen up really good so no lake water gets on my scars

[Hope22]

42. Yes!

Always follow the doctor’s advice. Take care! Sending my best to you!😊💐

[Docreed2003]

16. Tip from your friendly neighborhood surgeon

I would avoid exposing any new surgical scars to lake water and sunlight. Just my 2c.

[vercetti2021]

20. Exactly

Given I'm also fair skinned too. I'll burn faster. I already told my girlfriend that I feel I'd be a burden since I'd be in the shade hiding until it was dark outside.

[GreenWave]

17. Jeremy Wade has some specials on lake monsters which could come in handy.

A fish can pull in 7 times its own weight. So a really big one... yikes.

[vercetti2021]

34. Interesting!

Makes sense they fight hard when caught

[Niagara]

18. My best advice.

If you feel like going to the lake, go and enjoy your time there.


Explain to the in-laws that you recently had major surgery and going into the lake water is not possible at this time. You can inform them now or when you get there, although inform them that you're absolutely ready to spend time with family.



Bring comfy clothing, including shorts and long pants, short and long sleeves, a jacket or a hoodie, a sun hat, possibly an umbrella for sun shade or from rain, tennis shoes or sneakers. A familiar and cozy pillow and blanket. Also, don't forget the sun block and mosquito spray and share if you need to. Super imperative.




Bring a cooler with Vercetti2021 approved food and drinks. It doesn't have to an abundance of foods, possible items like fresh fruit, boiled eggs, yogurt, or whatever small items that you enjoy. Possibly bring a flashlight or a lantern just in case nature calls at 3:30 in the morning and walking to a campground restroom is in the realm of possibilities.

If you decide to go, enjoy yourself. And I want a full report about your journey.

[vercetti2021]

36. This is the way!

Thank you!

[Niagara]

41. My pleasure.

[Phoenix61]

21. I have no idea where that lake is located but few are warm

this early in the year. I bet there will be lots of people just hanging out and enjoying each others company. Take a deck of cards, Yahtzee, etc and have fun.

[Emile]

35. The lakes and ponds in Indiana are still pretty cold.

[vercetti2021]

37. Well I think it'll be low 90s this coming week

So it'll be warm most likely

[Emile]

38. Maybe the first couple of feet. A little bit deeper and it will still

be ice cold.