I have to say something to you all. For the last two weeks I have been in a posting binge. I am

[debm55]

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sorry, if I am posting too much. Maybe some of you know that my little sister found out she has cancer in her pancreas, colon and uterus. Posting is helping me cope. It is one way I have been keeping my myself sane. I talked to my doctor today and he said not to stay in bed and cry. I talked to my sister yesterday and was very calm and let her do the crying and talking. She told me, I was the only one in her life that said "I love you". My family was very abusive to my sister and myself. After talking to Diane, I felt extremely tired and exhausted. If I am shitty here, I don't mean to be. But my heart breaks for my sister. I was lucky to get out of that house of hell. She was not. If I post too much, let me know and I will cut back. I practically raised my sister as my mother showered her attention on my brother and his problems. thank you, Love, Debbie Good night all.
Edit Thank you all. Love, Debbie

[sinkingfeeling]

1. Keep yourself busy and keep posting crazy questions if you want. I enjoy them.

Be good to yourself as well.

[ailsagirl]

45. Please take care--not just of her but yourself as well

[SWBTATTReg]

2. Hang in Deb, hang in there. You need to be there for your sister, and you are. All of our hearts

are w/ you all.

[lastlib]

3. We are with you!

Do what you have to do for you--as much as for her!

[blm]

4. 💐✌🏽💐

[elleng]

5. SO sorry about your sister's situation, debm55.

We've enjoyed your posts, questions for us, trivial or not.

Be well.

[Deuxcents]

6. Post away, Dear Debbie.

I escaped a childhood home of unhappiness and my sister means everything to me as she never turned her back on me. I love her dearly, too, and if anything were to happen to her, I would be devastated. Let us know how you and she are doing..and please, don’t cut back on the posts 🫶

[brer cat]

7. Do what you have to, Deb. Your mental health and your sister's medical needs are

what is important now. We are here for you if you need to rant, cry, or just scream.

[LuckyCharms]

8. Post more!! Never apologize for posting!

I'm sorry to read about your sister, Deb.

[Niagara]

9. You keep on posting, Debbie!

That's why we have a DU lounge.




Hugs to you!

[BOSSHOG]

10. Post all ya want Sweetheart

There is nothing but Love here for you and your sister..

[Tetrachloride]

11. I like your posts.

[niyad]

12. Hugggggggs. Do whatever you need to help get you through this. Your DU

family is here for you, so lean/post/do whatever you need.

Holding you and your sister in love and light.

[sheshe2]

13. Post all you need to, Debbie.

I am so very sorry to hear about your sister and sorry for your pain.

Post and keep posting.

We are here when you need us.

[UpInArms]

14. Never stop posting, debm55

[True Dough]

15. This is a healthier outlet

than drugs and alcohol.

Keep the threads coming (and best of luck with your sis).

[WheelWalker]

16. Strength and honor.

[Walleye]

17. I really appreciate your posts. I am so sorry to hear about your sister

I think that often human beings are burdened with more pain and worry than we are able to endure. But we do endure because we have no choice. Take real good care of yourself, and your sister

[Hugh_Lebowski]

18. So sorry about your sister ... that sounds incredibly stressful ...

Post all the random questions you want.

We're here for ya, sister, and will do our best to keep you distracted

'Thinking too much' is always rough. I try to avoid it as well

[OAITW r.2.0]

19. Such a righteous approach

God Bless you.

[jcgoldie]

20. Post Away!

We have to take joy in the things we like and we all want similar things here. Hope DU brings you some joy as it does me!

[usaf-vet]

58. Post Away, we all need an outlet for the pain, sorrow, depression, empathy, and loss of a loved one.

Post Away, we all need an outlet for the pain, sorrow, depression, empathy, and loss of a loved one.

[Mr.Bill]

21. With all you've got on your plate,

the last thing you should have to worry about is posting too much. Post away, I enjoy your posts. This week, my wife is away visiting our daughter. I'm just sitting here alone with only two dogs to talk to.

[marble falls]

22. I'll be getting that tap on the shoulder long before you might. I've enjoyed every one I've seen ...

... we're here to share and you share good stuff.

[highplainsdem]

23. {{{{{Debbie}}}}} Keep posting, especially if it helps you cope.

I'll keep praying for your sister.

And for your furbaby Dolly - I hope she's completely recovered now and able to comfort you.

[pazzyanne]

24. Hugs to you and your sister.

We are here for you both. Stay strong and take care of you as you take care of her. Keep posting. We are listening

[stopdiggin]

25. fire away!

and if it's doing some good - keep firing ... (and then go to the store and stock up on ammo)

Sometimes a dose of distraction and silliness is just the ticket.
- and with the benefit of generally carrying a lot less blow-back than prying off a screw-cap - or three.

Real sorry about the tough news. Sucks. For sure.

---- -----

[Wild blueberry]

26. That's what we're here for

Vent away!
And know we're with you.
Hugs to you and your sister.

[diva77]

27. So very sorry about your sister. Post to your heart's content. Aim for 1,000,000 if it helps you!

[KarenS]

28. I am very sorry for what's happening in your life right now,,,,

Sending you and your Sister the best.

[yardwork]

29. I always enjoy your posts.

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I'm glad that posting on DU helps. Please keep posting!

[wendyb-NC]

30. Not to worry about your posts, they're fine

You are precious, so is your sister. Love to you both. You must do the things that keep you involved, and give you a break from the intense circumstances in your life at present. Get a good night's sleep, and rest to shore up your reserves, try to healthy food to keep up with the pressures you might feel.

Keep on posting, it's good to reach out. Blessings, hugs and many good vibes for healing.

[usonian]

31. Post until you break your keyboard, and I'll send you another.

Taking care of yourself will help you help your sister.
Nobody here is without loss and heartbreak.
You'll get only understanding here.
Peace.

[bahboo]

32. do what you need to do....what a tough situation...

and your posts and the responses are fun to read. Hang in there....

[mountain grammy]

33. Sorry about your sister..

You keep on posting Debbie. It helps. Have a good night sleep.

Love, MG.

[littlemissmartypants]

34. We love you, deb. ❤️

[IbogaProject]

35. Just take care of yourself

It's cool if you need to vent and focus on here as the USA is still a mess after the last Administration and for as long as there are MAGA supporters as well as the typical simply greedy GOP regulars.

[Aussie105]

36. No such thing as posting too much.

It's all about caring and sharing, even at a distance.

We are here for you. Remember that.

Love & hugs to you and your sis.

[sprinkleeninow]

37. It's a necessary outlet for you. A sharing place.

May you both receive that Peace which passes understanding. 🩷🕯🩷

[Upthevibe]

38. I am so very sorry to hear

about your sister and the life of abuse the two of you have had to endure.

I LOVE your posts! I probably don't respond to all of them because I don't have any input on the subject and I have an unusual schedule during the summers.

Please keep it up! I'm glad you've found some distractions to help you with your current situation and my love goes out to both you and your sister

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

39. So sorry you and your Sister are having to deal with this. Know that there are people

out here (here) that truly care and empathize with you. Big hug from me. Take care.

[Maraya1969]

40. You're going through a tough time. Post all you want.

You are with friends here.

[dai13sy]

41. Keep on posting

If you need to talk, you talk, I'll talk back and so will others here. It feels like people here are more understanding and kind. And you're not posting too much. I'm going to talk to the Goddess about you and your Sister if that's okay with you. Remember, love and understanding are all around you.

[judesedit]

42. Don't ever worry about posting too much. No such thing

I'm so sorry your sister is going through this and you are suffering right along with her. Try to keep yourself healthy, so you will be strong enough to be the stablizing force. Feel free to express yourself here. It's not good to hold it all in. I will say prayers for you both. Hang in there and know we are thinking of you.

[tandgf]

43. You

You do whatever you need to do to get through what you need to get through

[keithbvadu2]

44. If it gives you some measure of comfort, keep posting.

[LoisB]

46. Post away, debm55. Hugs to you and your sister. Good night.

[Bluethroughu]

47. I'm sorry about what your sister is going through, I hope she can find some peace

Along with excellent medical care. I hope you too can find some peace and someone to talk to about how you are coping.

[Skittles]

48. we are here for you girl

someone is always on DU

[sueh]

49. (((hugs))) for you and your sister, Deb. Post away. We are here for you

Hang in there and do whatever helps you to help your sister.

[hlthe2b]

50. You have nothing to apologize for. Take care of yourself while being there for your sister and

keep posting. The best of DU is that it is there for those who need it. Political venting, yes. But personal outlet for some help and comfort-- I certainly hope it to continue to be.

[Raine]

51. ♥️💕🌹I wish I could be there to give you a big hug

this is the best I can do. 💓

[Ziggysmom]

52. Oh my Dear, you just do what you need to do in order to cope. I cannot imagine what pain you

are feeling regarding your sister.

A little healthy diversion posting here on DU helps keep one sane, I feel. Post away and feel free to reach out in DU Mail any time.

[ms liberty]

53. You are fine. I'm sorry you are hurting and going thru this.

Hugs and vibes to you and to your sister.

[Joinfortmill]

54. I prayed for you both.

No worries. Keep posting. If you join a support group you will get some real hugs and they will help.

[70sEraVet]

55. Glad to be a part of your 'group therapy', Deb.

[Ilsa]

56. Please take care of yourself and post away!

Look for someone nearby who can console you. Never underestimate the value of a hug.

[ybbor]

57. You keep posting

I am sorry for the horrible situation that your sister is in! Use this space as a place to vent. We’re here for you.

[Siwsan]

59. DU was such a great support group for me when my sister and mom died

just 3 weeks apart. I knew that no matter the time of day or night I could reach out, if only to vent.

[MiHale]

60. Keep posting totally enjoy them...

You ask unique questions…love being part of them posting and reading others reactions. You sound like a great sister love yours and listen to her.

[a kennedy]

61. ♥️ ♥️ ♥️

[murielm99]

62. Keep posting.

We will be here for you. Cancer sucks, and you don't have to apologize to us.

[Goddessartist]

63. Sending you all of my love...

I always love your posts! Keep it up! Hugging you virtually...sending love to your sister too.

[cate94]

64. Keep posting

If that helps! Support is here.

[Wounded Bear]

65. Post away! Whatever you need in your trying times...

[CTyankee]

66. I want to add my support, for whatever good it can do, for you and your family.

[cilla4progress]

67. Here for you, debm

Can't imagine your pain.

❤️

[Scottie Mom]

68. Go for it, Debm55

I love your crazy threads and look for them.

Very entertaining!

[scarletlib]

69. Post away.

We all deal with grief differently. If posting on DU helps you then go for it.

I wish peace for both you and you sister.

[bottomofthehill]

70. We have people with over 100,000 posts.

If this is your therapy, post away. I am sorry your sister received this awful news. It is not easy to be the solo support.

[thatcrowwoman]

71. 🕊(((Debbie)))💫

Know that you are brave and strong and dearly loved, Debbie.
You are a good sister carrying a heavy load.
It’s a lot, isn’t it?

Your postings seem like a good coping mechanism to me. There are so many kind and supportive folks here on DU. You’re one of them, you know?

My mom, of blessed memory, was a nurse. She was a firm believer in the healing power of salt water for heartache and heartbreak, be it through our tears, our sweat, our tub, or if readily available get down to the sea somehow. I’ve used all those salt water healings many times, and always will as long as I’m alive. Wise healer, my mom. I’m proud to share her with you and any who read this. It keeps her alive in my heart.

Take some time to take care of yourself every day, okay?
You’re getting through this as best as you can. Good work, my friend.
🕊thatcrowwoman
(Far from the sea, but still singing along with feeling, soothe that fevered brow)

[Elessar Zappa]

72. Keep posting.

I enjoy the topics that you post. I’m very sorry about your sister. Sending good vibes to you and her.

[c-rational]

73. Love all your posts. Good thoughts for you and you sister.

[happy feet]

74. Post away

So sorry about your sister. She's so fortunate to have you and your love, especially at this time. Sending positive thoughts your way.

[BadGimp]

75. Post as much as you like.

eom

[Ocelot II]

76. Do what you need to do for yourself and your sister, and don't worry

that you're posting too much. That's what we're here for.

[malthaussen]

77. You're not posting too much.

People always have the option not to view your threads. Whatever gets you through the night, friend.

-- Mal

[tblue37]

78. Keep posting. We don't have imposed limits. I post more than you do, so I sure don't think you post

too much, and I doubt anyone else does.

I am sorry that you and your sister are going through this.

[pandr32]

79. We are a community.

There is no restriction on posting so keep it up if it helps you cope.
I am sending good wishes to you and your sister.

[GreenWave]

80. You provide some of the most interesting posts the lounge has seen in recent times.

They are thought provoking, creative and genuine.
You truly are Queen of the Lounge!

Best wishes to you and your sister,

[Hekate]

81. Hugs to you and your sis, Deb. We are here. 💕

[gay texan]

82. Oh hon

Post to your hearts content

[OAITW r.2.0]

83. I enjoy your posts....keep posting!

Sorry about your sister's heath problems....best wishes to you both.

[CentralMass]

84. I have enjoyed your posts. They get my mind out of politics and my post-pandemic haze for a bit.

[Hermit-The-Prog]

85. Let it all out; someone is always here.

[BaronChocula]

86. Post on!

Especially if posting helps give you what you need to be strong for your sister. If posting helps you stay positive with her, helps her laugh when she needs it, helps you stay on the phone longer when she needs it, post on.

[LiberalFighter]

87. The two forums you are posting in are suitable.

Besides. You are catching up now.

[debm55]

88. Thank you all. I love you all.

[CrispyQ]

89. I wasn't aware of your situation.

I'm so sorry & am sending a virtual hug. Healing vibes for your sister.

I've enjoyed your pun posts.

[appleannie1]

90. We are all friends here. We have big shoulders so post away.

[N.I.4.N.I.2023]

91. Please, keep posting

I would be doing exactly the same. Peace be with you.

[Duncanpup]

92. You do what you need.

Hugs to you and your sister.

[maspaha]

93. No apology necessary!

I think you’ve chosen a great way to keep your mind occupied.

I’m so sorry you’ve found yourself playing family trauma “whack-a-mole”…that’s what we call it at our house. Things are going along fine, but then, not only do you have to deal with your sister’s illness, but, it also triggers emotional trauma with family that doesn’t deserve your time and energy, but you’re still left needing to “whack-a-mole” you hoped was gone forever.

I’ve been a cancer patient before, and between you and me, I think our loved ones have a harder time with us having cancer than we do.

Be extra nice to yourself and remember you are loved.

[wryter2000]

94. I'm so sorry

I'm glad we're helping you get through this time. There's no limit on how many posts you can make, so keep it up.

[stage left]

95. Dear heart,

I'm so sorry for you and your dear sister, Diane, and what you're going through. I also have a younger sister who I love dearly. I would be a complete wreck if it it was her. You do what you need to do.

[Permanut]

96. Look at the number of recs, and you will know if you're posting too much

[debm55]

100. What do you mean? I have always like to see the number of people I can engage in a conversation--it

builds community to get other's opinions and share sxperiences. I don't understand the importance of recs.Thanks.

[Permanut]

101. I think I said that badly, I apologize..

Let me try again. From the amount of recs and responses, I'm seeing this community backing you 100 percent - that includes me. Thanks for your Original post and your understanding.

[livetohike]

97. Please keep posting. Please take care of yourself too. This

is so hard, but you have lots of friends here and we are good listeners .

[Different Drummer]

98. I enjoy your questions.

They generate a lot of discussion here. By all means, keep posting them!

[malaise]

99. Keep on posting

;grouphug:

[electric_blue68]

102. I missed returning to this thread earlier. Giving you a hug, and hoping...

your sister can beat this awful disease!

Strength to her, and you. {hug}

[bluestarone]

104. This IS the DU family here, and YOU are part of it!!

Post as many times as you want too!! We ALL have a way to listen, understand, and HELP anyone hurting in our great family here. BOTH you and you're sister will be in our thoughts and prayers!!

[LNM]

105. Debm55 I really enjoy your posts

They make me think, amuse me and distract me from the politics of the day. Keep it up!

I'm sorry for all you're going through and if the Lounge helps I think that's why it's here.