My mom died today
She was 95 so she lived a long life and she was lucky lived mostly on her own, last 4 years in a senior apt that did meals and cleaning but no medical. She even went to a pumkin patch few weeks ago with my daughter and great grandkids. She told me she was tired last few days felt off but I wasn't super worried as she has pulled through many illnesses.
Her friends noticed she wasn't at lunch so did a check on her, I knew she was eating in apt because I sent her microwave soup.
My first reaction was but I didn't get to say goodbye I am not ready, crazy considering her age but I heard its a common reaction.
My mom use to drive me batty but the last few years all that was gone and healed which I am very glad for.
Live in peace mom forever! 
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No matter how “ready” you are, you’re never ready. You’ll always be grateful for the time with her, however, as I’m sure she was ever so grateful for you.
All the best, most healing hugs to you. 
After my Mom passed, I talked to her all the time. I still miss her and it's been 11 years. She taught me so much.
May you find your peace. ((Hugs))
But it was a blessing that your mom had so many years in such good health she didn't need a nursing home or a lengthy, painful hospitalization.
I believe she is at peace now, and healthy and young again on the other side. And still able to hear anything you want to say to her. Whether or not it's spoken aloud.
No warning is so difficult, but the gift that you mended your hearts together will always be the most important salve, I’ll bet.
Wishing you peace.
It's hard regardless - my dad was 92 and even so it was too soon. Condolences.
We are never ready.
It is so hard to lose a parent, even when they have lived a long life.
years old to cancer.
Losing a beloved mother is hard at any age
Be patient and kind and gentle with yourself in your mourning and remembrances.
How wonderful it is that you grew closer these past years.
My mama’s been gone almost 4 years now, and I cried every day the first year. I still cry sometimes, and I reckon I always will. She was a nurse and believed in the healing power of salt water, be it tears, or sweat, or the ocean, or a salted soak in a warm tub. Salt water healing is one of the most important lessons I learned from mama. She comes to me in my dreams, and I still talk to her most days, laughing at something my dog has done, or spotting birds she liked, or making one of her many recipes, or trying something new.
She’s gone, but her love endures. She’s always in my heart. We are lucky daughters that way, you and I.
Sending you love and sweet Shalom, peace be with you.
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My Mom died at 94, also lived a good, long life but I still miss her EVERY day.
Wishing you much strength and peace at this heartbreaking time.
Rest in Peace Tree Lady's Mom
I think our last goodbyes to moms are so heartbreaking.
I am so sorry for your loss; may you find strength and peace. 💔
It doesn't matter how old we are, or the age of our parents, we will always miss them when they're gone.
May your mother be resting in peace.
Keep her memory close; it will be comforting at times when you least expect it.
It must bring some peace of mind knowing you healed your differences. Its good that you lived in the same area so you could see her often.
Take care of yourself. Let us know how you're doing.
My Mom and I pretty much hated each other before I left home. But then, we became friends, especially the last several years of her life.
Sometimes , when you're a kid, he can be hard to remember your Mom is actually a person.
Even when we know that a loved one can't live forever, and they're up in their 90's, it still can hit hard. May you embrace the happy memories, and savor her for the love and wisdom, the ways she was like, that were unique to her, that were reassuring, or memorable.
It's so amazing that she was able to go pick out pumpkins with her granddaughter, and great grandchildren, just a few weeks ago. That's so cool.
May she rest in peace, always.
It sounds like your mom was a remarkable woman. May she rest in peace!
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It is hard. I really don't think there is any way to prepare for such a loss because you can't know how it will affect you ahead of time. It sounds like your mom had her faculties right up until the end. That is a huge blessing. So many of us watched parents slowly lose themselves to some type of dementia. The fact that you shared time with her is wonderful.
May her memories remind you of her love, always.
Such a loss for you and your family. It sounds like there have been some good family times with her lately and I hope remembering those times will give some heartwarmth to you all as you grieve together.
It will be difficult and your brain will hit you with all kinds of "I should have done this; I should have said this..." Allow yourself space to grieve and remember good things. My mom passed in September of 2022 and I'm still occasionally staving off thoughts of what I should have done. It will pass. Grief is a slow-melting bitter candy you have to work on gradually so it doesn't choke you when you're not expecting it. All the best to you and your family.
Treasure the good memories.
