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[mvd]

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[Hekate]

1. This is a constant refrain, and a book could be written from your numerous appeals over the years...

Thoughts & Prayers

[ForgedCrank]

3. Not to mention

I can't remember a time in my life when jobs were so easy to get.

[XanaDUer2]

2. How does the trustee come into play

I thought you were living in hotels.

[bluestarone]

4. Not again????

[Hekate]

12. Yes, again

[mvd]

5. This is the downside of court cases

My mom has a nice and good lawyer but the court fees really added up creating an emergency. We must stay in the house right now. Worried about mom. I am the only one there for her.

[likesmountains 52]

9. If you are really worried about your mom, you need a beter plan than fundraising for emergencies

every couple of months.

[mvd]

10. It's hard being poor

Everyone wants to blame the poor. It is not that I don’t try.

[ForgedCrank]

14. How many

jobs have you applied for in the past 2 years of fundraising for emergencies while your moms social security is feeding you?
You've been turned away from disability for a reason. Your way out of this is to get a job and support yourself.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

6. 🤣

[mvd]

7. BTW this is no laughing matter

[Floyd R. Turbo]

8. 🤣

[mvd]

11. Lawyer did give us the idea of reverse mortgage instead of sale

First person said we owed too much. Am trying someone more local. We are lucky to even have a home. I know there are worse off - like many in Gaza - but that doesn’t make me feel good.

[Hekate]

13. Guilt-tripping us about Gazans....

[Floyd R. Turbo]

15. Utterly shameless!

[mvd]

16. Forgot to add that it is supposed to be paid Monday

Mom and I were already struggling with basics like food and prescriptions this month. I have a payment plan but some extra filing fees got added on. The lawyer told us a bit late in one of her rare screw ups IMO.

[XanaDUer2]

17. Are you using food pantries

At least. Your area has abundant resources. Tell them you don't drive and your mom is 75

[PennRalphie]

18. You have $10.

Be very grateful for that money and please stop this.

Like you, I live in PA. The economy here is booming and you know that. There are jobs everywhere. Since you’re disabled, there are companies who would love to hire you. Remote or in person. There are an avalanche of remote customer service jobs. Almost every pharmacy and hospital has remote jobs. No Uber excuse.

Your mother, we must guess, is the owner of the home. You filed bankruptcy during one of the last fundraisers. Your mother will be the one who will need to handle any financing of her home.

One thing I’ve never understood-you don’t live on 100 acres. You live in a fairly suburban area. Have you alienated all of your neighbors? There isn’t a community I know that would ignore a very ill elderly woman with a disabled son. They would drive you anywhere. They will band together and provide you with hot meals. The handy people would fix the small issues of your home. They would drive you to the doctor or pharmacy. People out there are good.

Sometimes tough love is needed. You’ve received thousands of dollars from the awesome people here. Be grateful for that and continue doing what you claimed the last time. You were earning money playing online games. Use that internet to search for “remote jobs near me”. It won’t take as much time as beating the next level.

Good luck to you.

[XanaDUer2]

19. Two things always blew my mind

In this years'-long money-grab: not using the Medicaid dentist, and constantly saying you need food and not arranging a meals-on-wheels. BTW, with one social worker interaction, I now get MoW.

You've added a third: what is up with the neighbors?

[Hekate]

20. Interesting point about his playing online games...

I wonder if one of them is DU.

[mvd]

21. I changed the goal to $50

I was able to work out part of the money needed. But still would appreciate anything you can give towards the goal.

[mvd]

22. Now mom's airbed broke

I am looking into alternatives because they never last long. We can’t afford furniture. Poor mom deserves better, especially at her age.

[XanaDUer2]

23. I agree

She does deserve better.

[Hekate]

24. Mom totally deserves better. That's why she's got my thoughts & prayers.

[XanaDUer2]

25. Couldn't someone getting a job

Help alleviate some of these issues? Damn, she deserves better...

[ForgedCrank]

26. She's probably

have a nice bed if she weren't feeding other unemployed people with her social security money.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

27. Go away! Scram! Get out of here! Beat it! 🤬

[mvd]

28. Kick for visibility before bed

[True Dough]

29. DU seems like a very generous community

When you've repeatedly taken advantage of that good will to the point where you're being mocked and ridiculed, it's probably time to find a more productive way.

[mvd]

30. I'm not taking advantage of anything

You think I enjoy doing this? Every time I have posted I have been in need of help. If anyone wants, they can contact me. I have nothing to hide and will gladly show proof as long as the info isn’t too personal in nature. I can’t see a lot of the posts because they not only have ganged up on me but others also. So I use the ignore feature. I felt I had to set the record straight on this one. People can choose to donate or not donate. They don’t have to act like they do. I know if I had the money I would donate whenever possible.

[True Dough]

31. It's become obvious

that many here doubt your efforts to avoid constantly being "in need of help."

The diminishing returns to your pleas are proof of that. I wish you and your mother well, and I hope you find a way to support yourself sooner than later.

[MissB]

40. you ask for too much, too often.

and at this point you've burned a lot of bridges along here.

I feel very bad for your mom.

[PennRalphie]

32. So many resources

Have been given to you. People have done the work you should have done. You have phone numbers to call, websites to click and addresses for help. All are ignored.

It really is a shame that you rely upon donations when jobs are so plentiful right now. Remote jobs. You can care for your mother while earning much needed money.

Governor Shapiro posts his phone number. That’s a place to start. But you won’t.

Instead, you pretend to ignore anyone who dares question why you don’t avail yourself to the help offered.

You claim to be willing to offer proof of your financial calamity, but when asked a simple question, such as “did you visit the food bank” that question is ignored. “Where is your social worker?” Ignored.

Some continue to donate, hey ten dollars won’t hurt anyone. That’s great if they want to, but at this point, I’m afraid it appears you are simply taking advantage of good and generous people.

[XanaDUer2]

33. Wouldn't a social worker

Intervene if a 75-yr-old is sleeping on a deflated air mattress on the floor?

The humanity.

[PennRalphie]

34. Yes.

If any of this is true.

I’m just going to wish him well.

[ForgedCrank]

35. You can

wish him all you want, but he won't see it. Anyone who has ever offered him advice is on ignore because all of the excuses never work. He doesn't seek solutions or anything else that requires effort or work, he only seeks cash.
If he actually wanted to help his mother, he'd have a job by now. All we can do is warn others who may not know the multi-year saga with this.

[XanaDUer2]

36. If all these stories are true

And I wonder because the saga of running from hotel to hotel on a hegira, then suddenly getting back in the house, boom! was fantastical...if true...what happens when Mother passes?

[PennRalphie]

37. Yes, yes, yes.

He obviously has a few sympathizers, including the person who donated $10. They might feel it’s only $10, what does that hurt? Understandable. People want to help those in need. If that was a real person and not his own money. Keep in mind, this fundraiser is only posted here. Could he have others posted on other sites? Likely.

I also feel he has nobody on ignore. If he did, why would he mention it in a post to others? Why would that matter? When you ignore someone on social media, they never cross your mind.

Anyhow, in this economy to not even try to get a job is truly mind boggling. Here in PA, if you want a job, you can have a job. Employers are pretty desperate for workers. They are accommodating employees like I’ve never seen.

IF any of this is true.

[XanaDUer2]

38. There is so much help for the disabled

Seeking employment. I told him contact the PA Dept of Vocational Rehab. They will train, coach, provide assistive devices free ( hearing aids) and help place him in jobs. Of course, I'm sure he did that asap. Not.

All free. They do everything but do the actual job they get you. I remember, in a past fundraiser, him mentioning needing new hearing aids.

Is there a social worker? Are low-cost rides being utilized? No more expensive Ubering?

A poster named Treehugger compiled the most-comprehensive list of resources for him. Ignored. It's always meeting the goal. DUers are so kind and generous. That it's come to this says a lot. Hell, I donated a large amount before I became disabled. But ignore, deflect. But I agree. I don't think anyone is on official ignore.

[mvd]

39. One more kick

I really looked into all possibilities and not asking for much. Thanks as always.

[mvd]

41. Night all

One more day keeping this up. Important I reach the goal by Monday.

Then I hope I don’t have to do more fundraisers at DU. I want my focus to return to the regular things here.

[mvd]

42. Another terrible night

This is no lie. Since Christmas I have found a way. This time I couldn’t as much as I wanted to.

[mvd]

43. And mom and I need another food order or a ride to the food pantry

No money for either. I appreciate the donation a lot for the caring. Taking this down tomorrow sometime.

[ForgedCrank]

44. Get on

Craigslist and get yourself a 20 dollar bicycle.
You can apply for most jobs online from the comfort of your home. I don't know a single person who ever died or got sick due to a job application allergy. My youngest son is bringing home over 300 bucks flipping burgers a few days a week. If he can do it, there's no reason you can't.
Step up. It's time for you to help your mother, not the other way around. The free money well has gone dry.

[mvd]

45. I have reached the goal so deleting now

I thank you so much! I hope you know how much this means to me and my mom.