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Floyd R. Turbo

(28,859 posts)
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:41 AM Jun 2024

Mother-of-two sparks backlash after revealing why she NEVER returns her shopping cart

A mother of two has faced a firestorm of criticism after revealing that she refuses to return her shopping cart.

Leslie Dobson, a Los Angeles-based psychologist and social media creator with over 300,000 followers across platforms, made the divisive post to TikTok on Thursday.

'I'm not returning my shopping cart and you can judge me all you want,' she professed in a clip that has racked up nearly 11 million views.

'I'm not getting my groceries into my car, getting my children into the car and leaving them in the car to go return the cart. So if you're gonna give me a dirty look... f*** off.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13487067/leslie-dobson-return-shopping-cart-mother-kidnapping.html

Reminds me of the legendary Lounge Cart Corral battle! 😬

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Mother-of-two sparks backlash after revealing why she NEVER returns her shopping cart (Original Post) Floyd R. Turbo Jun 2024 OP
I get the concern... Some locales offer close-in reserved spots for these parents of young kids... Of course hlthe2b Jun 2024 #1
Exactly! SarahD Jun 2024 #31
On the fence about this. Arne Jun 2024 #2
This ExciteBike66 Jun 2024 #4
i did all that and i was ecpected to as well. AllaN01Bear Jun 2024 #18
My husband started giving our cart rounder upper $20.00 every timed we shopped..... a kennedy Jun 2024 #13
The largest grocery chain here will not allow tipping Arne Jun 2024 #15
Well, isn't she special? 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #3
Ok but orange jar Jun 2024 #5
Good point orange jar maspaha Jun 2024 #16
Or maybe a proctologist, to help get her head out of her ass. FoxNewsSucks Jun 2024 #27
Aldi's has the quarter cart clip system. Arne Jun 2024 #6
Some young folks offer me a dollar bill for a quarter there. GreenWave Jun 2024 #8
Republicans live love laugh Jun 2024 #7
I can't disagree with her, although she could lock the doors. Fla Dem Jun 2024 #9
I bring the cart back crim son Jun 2024 #10
She is hostile and attention seeking. Irish_Dem Jun 2024 #11
Worse IMO: no_hypocrisy Jun 2024 #12
I return carts whenever I can Wicked Blue Jun 2024 #14
I'm a conscientious cart returner maspaha Jun 2024 #17
I'll bet you're not one of those people that drive around and around .. chouchou Jun 2024 #20
You've seen me! maspaha Jun 2024 #22
Oh, I do the same thing but, here in Florida, I've seen people drive back in forth .. chouchou Jun 2024 #24
I've seen those morons at the Y also. FoxNewsSucks Jun 2024 #28
Ah..Lady, you know how you got to the car? ...with your children? Ok..then get your children.. chouchou Jun 2024 #19
"Social media creator" creates "backlash" gets "11 million views." Almost like it's a formula or something. n/t flvegan Jun 2024 #21
Whiskey whoop weedlee woop. THAT'S not where the cart goes! uppityperson Jun 2024 #23
Send your freeloading kids to return the cart JoseBalow Jun 2024 #25
At Publix in Ft Lauderdale Turbineguy Jun 2024 #26
Is it a compact car or a land yacht that has room for multiple bodies? Lars39 Jun 2024 #33
I understand where she is coming from. Lunabell Jun 2024 #29
I Don't ProfessorGAC Jun 2024 #32
Yep, and often when people just dump a cart any old place in the lot Xavier Breath Jun 2024 #34
She reminds me of one of those people who refuse to tip because they're 'protesting petronius Jun 2024 #30

hlthe2b

(105,866 posts)
1. I get the concern... Some locales offer close-in reserved spots for these parents of young kids... Of course
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:49 AM
Jun 2024

that then seems to give them license to take the handicapped spots that others truly need so not a great solution...

But damn, usually there are multiple cart returns scattered around larger parking lots. If I were here I'd park a bit further out but near one--that way she can grab a cart for the kids to go into the store and likewise return it-- after coming back to her car and with her kids still in sight.

Arne

(3,558 posts)
2. On the fence about this.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:51 AM
Jun 2024

When I see the kids rounding up baskets
they are thrilled to be in the parking lot
and out of the store.
They have told me so, and it's their job.

a kennedy

(31,813 posts)
13. My husband started giving our cart rounder upper $20.00 every timed we shopped.....
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:46 PM
Jun 2024

He was married and has a couple kids……I’ve kept it up when my husband passed away, he always hugs me, and always says he’s praying for us, now for me.

Arne

(3,558 posts)
15. The largest grocery chain here will not allow tipping
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 01:31 PM
Jun 2024

the kids and the cameras are in the parking lot.
I will always try to slip a couple dollars anyway
to the ones insisting on helping me to the car.

3catwoman3

(25,321 posts)
3. Well, isn't she special?
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:54 AM
Jun 2024

If you are afraid of your kids being abducted from the parking lot, put the groceries in the car and keep the kids with you while you return the cart, or drive around the parking lot when you first get there until you find a parking place within a space of two of a cart return corral.

I think I’d be looking for a different therapist. She sounds like she could use a little attitude adjustment herself.

orange jar

(816 posts)
5. Ok but
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:59 AM
Jun 2024

why did she feel the need to make a TikTok about it? "So if you're gonna give me a dirty look… fuck off," great but now you're going to get more dirty looks after publicizing this, so…??? I don't feel either way about this, but I don't know what she was expecting to happen.

maspaha

(371 posts)
16. Good point orange jar
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 03:27 PM
Jun 2024

Kinda think the psychologist should see a Psychologist to work out her lack of confidence in decision making.

She sounds a bit thin skinned to be so concerned about what others think. But then again I think many “social media influencers” are just insecure people trying to convince others they should also be insecure.

Arne

(3,558 posts)
6. Aldi's has the quarter cart clip system.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:03 PM
Jun 2024

I often see people in the parking lot exchange the quarter
for the basket and we are all happy.

GreenWave

(8,832 posts)
8. Some young folks offer me a dollar bill for a quarter there.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:17 PM
Jun 2024

As it usually is my only quarter I do the dirty deed.
Hey I mean where is my next quarter coming from?

Fla Dem

(25,545 posts)
9. I can't disagree with her, although she could lock the doors.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:18 PM
Jun 2024

I understand her concern. If she left her kids in the car and walked the cart back to the store, for sure there would be someone waiting at the car to tell her what a terrible mother she is leaving her kids all alone in the car.

No win situation.

However, if there is a designated return cart area within 10 ft, I would think she could manage that safely.

crim son

(27,502 posts)
10. I bring the cart back
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:22 PM
Jun 2024

but only to the outdoor stalls provided for the purpose. It is usually no more than ten feet from where I've parked my car. I did this when I had children because I knew how to put them in the car and then lock the doors to keep them safe.

Irish_Dem

(55,825 posts)
11. She is hostile and attention seeking.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:36 PM
Jun 2024

Why not park closer to the outdoor cart stalls?
Only a few feet away from the car.

But in the event the store is in a dangerous part of town why make a hostile ridiculous post about it?

Accusatory and blaming of others?
Over a grocery cart?

no_hypocrisy

(48,492 posts)
12. Worse IMO:
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 12:44 PM
Jun 2024

Our store has red plastic baskets. Customers take them out of store, to their cars, and don’t return them.

We’ve lost at least 200 of them. It adds up.

Wicked Blue

(6,520 posts)
14. I return carts whenever I can
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 01:01 PM
Jun 2024

BUT I have a lot of trouble walking and standing due to back problems. Once in a while I have to leave a cart because I physically can't manage any more steps. Even then I try to place it next to a tree or curb if possible.

chouchou

(1,218 posts)
20. I'll bet you're not one of those people that drive around and around ..
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 04:46 PM
Jun 2024

...and around, in order to get very close to the front door.
(I want to say "Christ..you walk in the damn store, down the aisles, over and over but you can't walk 97 feet from your car to the front door?)

maspaha

(371 posts)
22. You've seen me!
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 09:15 PM
Jun 2024

I pull in to the parking lot and say to myself, “is this a parking day or walking day?”

If there’s a close spot, WooHoo! I’m parking.

If not, I’m walking, counting the steps…and maybe getting a bit of chocolate to reward myself.

😉🍫😁

chouchou

(1,218 posts)
24. Oh, I do the same thing but, here in Florida, I've seen people drive back in forth ..
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 10:39 PM
Jun 2024

...up and down the parking lot for 10-15 minutes. Not exaggerating. I'm in awe of them...(In a strange way.)
If I'm lucky, I pull in right by the store entrance, if not, I'm happy just to make it safely there.

FoxNewsSucks

(10,749 posts)
28. I've seen those morons at the Y also.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:22 PM
Jun 2024

There are at least two who drive around to get a close-in parking spot, then go use a treadmill. Makes no sense.

I park as far away as I can get, I often get in the door faster than those looking for a close space, and mainly I got tired a long time ago of getting door-bangs.

chouchou

(1,218 posts)
19. Ah..Lady, you know how you got to the car? ...with your children? Ok..then get your children..
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 04:36 PM
Jun 2024

.....and go to place where they store the carts and then, walk your children and your lazy ass back to your car.
BY THE WAY>> How do you shop..like walking a lot thru the store? You don't have a magic fairy that walks down the aisles for you?
A little bit more walking with that cart is-not-a-big-deal. Geez..

flvegan

(64,554 posts)
21. "Social media creator" creates "backlash" gets "11 million views." Almost like it's a formula or something. n/t
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 08:57 PM
Jun 2024

Turbineguy

(38,245 posts)
26. At Publix in Ft Lauderdale
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:10 PM
Jun 2024

they wheel your jazz out to your car. I've told these people that I borrowed the car from my brother who is an undertaker and to please give me a moment to inspect the trunk first.

Lunabell

(6,740 posts)
29. I understand where she is coming from.
Tue Jun 4, 2024, 11:31 PM
Jun 2024

Especially with a tiny child. You buckle them in and leave them to return a cart? No!

Number 1-It's hot/cold in that car. Mom needs to hurry and get into an acceptable temperature.

Number 2-Kids get kidnapped/carjacked.

Number 3-Try juggling 2 kids at once.

I'm on her side. And also, cart round up for some employees is a great way to get outside. At least that's what my former grocery store manager wife tells me. Cart round up was an envied job by her employees.

ProfessorGAC

(69,459 posts)
32. I Don't
Wed Jun 5, 2024, 06:33 PM
Jun 2024

Comes off very much as self-important & privileged.
There are millions of shoppers who manage to shop with their kids without ignoring this courtesy to the workers & manage to not take to social media to make a needless point about it.
No way I can take her side.

Xavier Breath

(4,852 posts)
34. Yep, and often when people just dump a cart any old place in the lot
Wed Jun 5, 2024, 07:35 PM
Jun 2024

they don't bother to make sure it's secure in its spot. In other words, that it isn't going to roll away at the first breeze. And, you really have to love the idiots who abandon a cart in the middle of a perfectly good parking spot, forcing you to either find another spot or leave your car in the aisle so you can get out and move it yourself.

She's a selfish twit, period. The old woman in the shoe wouldn't have a legit excuse for pulling that stunt.

petronius

(26,654 posts)
30. She reminds me of one of those people who refuse to tip because they're 'protesting
Wed Jun 5, 2024, 12:19 AM
Jun 2024

unfair wages' and 'standing up for waitstaff against oppressive restaurant owners.'

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