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duncang

(3,767 posts)
Sun Aug 11, 2024, 11:26 PM Aug 2024

Had a rough day today.

Last edited Mon Aug 12, 2024, 09:52 PM - Edit history (3)

My 43 year old son suffers from schizophrenia. He normally is afraid to go anywhere. Sometimes it’s tough to get him to go to his appointments. About two weeks ago he volunteered to go with me to the store. I was happy and considered that a major milestone. He doesn’t drive and doesn’t have a car. But he does have a bicycle. He hasn’t ridden that in a year or more. Without telling anyone he decided to go on a ride. This is the first time he has gone missing. We went out and tried to find him. Talked to the police and had them looking for him. 3 cars, 2 motorcycles, and the police. We made sure to emphasize he wasn’t violent.


Finally found out he had ridden about a half mile and had heart palpitations aka afib. A couple saw him on the ground and called 911. He was taken to the emergency room. He was talking incoherently. Later he was moved to the icu. He’s doing good but still elevated heart rate and is going to see a specialist. Had a long talk to the nurse about him so they understand things like he talks to his self and sees people. But has never raised a hand to anyone. The hospital has a pretty tight icu visitation schedule. So I’m at home tonight.

Anyways this has been a rough day. Will update as I get more information.

Edit: he has just been moved to the cardiac care unit.

Edit 2: The doctor said he can come home tomorrow. This has got to be the worst organized hospital I’ve seen. They cut off his clothes which is to be expected. But they lost his billfold. The license is with his sandals but everything else is missing. They called last night said their pharmacy didn’t have two of his medications and bring them this morning. When I brought them in the nurse on shift had no idea and couldn’t find anything about it. It’s his nighttime medicine. There are just so many other little things I’m not going to try listing.


Edit 3: they still didn’t get his normal medications right tonight. Had to go through all of it again. My son started cutting up some wanting to remove his iv and leave right then. I got him calmed down and went out to the hallway to tell her that’s why I’ve been trying so hard to get it setup. It finally made it through their thick skulls he needs to stay on the medicines. This is where people have to understand when nurses/doctor/police officers don’t have proper training things can go bad fast. The nurse and doctor knew he had problems before I even arrived. The psychiatrist he goes to is in the same online portal and they already had a hard copy on hand when I first made it there yesterday. But they ignored it.

I am getting him one of the gabb phones. It has parental controls, I can gps track him, and I can set an alert zone if he goes past the area I define it alerts me on my phone. Emergency workers can hit an emergency contact alert which will call me.

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Had a rough day today. (Original Post) duncang Aug 2024 OP
Thank you for sharing. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2024 #1
A hug to you and your family. sheshe2 Aug 2024 #2
Oh my dear duncang! I am so sorry to hear of you and your son's trouble. CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2024 #3
Prayers for your son and BittyJenkins Aug 2024 #4
So sorry. If it's atrial fibrillation, he may benefit from a radio frequency ablation procedure - easy one. Liberty Belle Aug 2024 #5
Holding you and yours in love and light. Vibes for best possible outcome. niyad Aug 2024 #6
Thinking of you and your family. HeartsCanHope Aug 2024 #7
Thinking of you. And your son. mahina Aug 2024 #8
Holding you & your son in my heart and prayers maspaha Aug 2024 #9
What a frightening and exhausting experience. Hope22 Aug 2024 #10
So sorry for your troubles Nululu Aug 2024 #11
Sending love ❤️ chia Aug 2024 #12
So very sorry 🙏🙏 TommieMommy Aug 2024 #13
I wish I could do more. OldBaldy1701E Aug 2024 #14
So sorry XanaDUer2 Aug 2024 #15
Sending love and light. quaint Aug 2024 #16
I am so sorry that your son and family are going through this. I send your son good vibes and prayers. It is very debm55 Aug 2024 #17
My heart goes out to you and your son. What a difficult time for you. Fla Dem Aug 2024 #18
Hugs BoomaofBandM Aug 2024 #19
Sending positive energy and vibes, duncang Niagara Aug 2024 #20
I feel so bad for your son. zanana1 Aug 2024 #21
Take care of yourself duncang, so you are able to take care of your son. Clouds Passing Aug 2024 #22

PoindexterOglethorpe

(28,390 posts)
1. Thank you for sharing.
Sun Aug 11, 2024, 11:29 PM
Aug 2024

Clearly life with your son has many challenges. I sincerely hope he gets better. Oh, and I love you.

CaliforniaPeggy

(155,976 posts)
3. Oh my dear duncang! I am so sorry to hear of you and your son's trouble.
Sun Aug 11, 2024, 11:34 PM
Aug 2024

I've had afib from time to time, so I know whereof you speak. I've never had schizophrenia but I'm sure it really complicates the situation.

It sounds as though he's in an appropriate place and with the staff understanding him--that should help.

Please do update us! There are many caring people here on DU. We will help support you during your crisis.

Liberty Belle

(9,699 posts)
5. So sorry. If it's atrial fibrillation, he may benefit from a radio frequency ablation procedure - easy one.
Sun Aug 11, 2024, 11:43 PM
Aug 2024

My husband and daughter have both had it. Non-invasive. Under anesthesia, they thread a catheter through a vein in the neck and groin, into the heart and burn off a microscopic piece of muscle causing the atrial fibrillations (rapid heartbeat). It's literally bandaid surgery, no cuts, no scars.

He was home same day; she was kept overnight just to keep her lying flat. Both felt fine next day and recovered 100% with no more fibriillations.

Of course there can be other causes, so good to get a cardiac evaluation.

I'm glad he was found safe and taken to the ICU for evaluation.

As for the schizophrenia, hang in there. There are various meds to be tried. My assistant has schizophrenia and has tried many meds before finally finding a combination that works for him. He's also had therapy that's helped him.

niyad

(129,198 posts)
6. Holding you and yours in love and light. Vibes for best possible outcome.
Sun Aug 11, 2024, 11:53 PM
Aug 2024

Please know that your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.

Hope22

(4,405 posts)
10. What a frightening and exhausting experience.
Mon Aug 12, 2024, 02:00 AM
Aug 2024

A parent’s worst nightmare. I’m so glad people helped him while you were on the search. Sending love and wishes that your son is on the mend and home soon. Take care and be easy with yourself. 💗💗🙏🏼💐

debm55

(54,472 posts)
17. I am so sorry that your son and family are going through this. I send your son good vibes and prayers. It is very
Mon Aug 12, 2024, 08:32 AM
Aug 2024
difficult, My brother suffers from the same illness. He was very violent at one time, Refused to take meds,Your family and your son are loved, Love, Debbie,

Fla Dem

(27,395 posts)
18. My heart goes out to you and your son. What a difficult time for you.
Mon Aug 12, 2024, 08:37 AM
Aug 2024

Do you have any family or friends you can at least lean on for support and comfort? You know you have us, but not always as good as in person.

zanana1

(6,458 posts)
21. I feel so bad for your son.
Mon Aug 12, 2024, 03:40 PM
Aug 2024

Schizophrenia is really tough to deal with and it's even worse for him.

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