Confused

[cydney_wong]

Is this where I make a general post? Somthing that would fall under the category of trending discussions?

[elleng]

1. General Discussion.

Welcome

[cydney_wong]

6. Confused

Thank you for responding. I will post under general discussions and see if anything happens.

[cydney_wong]

5. Confused

Thank you for responding. I got three responses and it seems like I should post under general discussions. I want to post about an experience I had with someone called Skinner who was or is with Democratic Underground. have meant to do it for years.

[stopdiggin]

3. General Discussions

And, for further reference - you can explore 'forums' (and rules, topics, etc.) from the Forums tab.
Click on a 'category or forum' there - takes you to recent posts in that bucket (and you can see what others or posting there) - and then tab 'About Forum' to get to info, rules, etc. You'll be surprised how deep and varied the offerings are!

[cydney_wong]

4. Confused

Thank you for responding. I’m going to try a post under general discussions and see if anything happens.

[JoseBalow]

8. What could happen to an Old Fashioned?

[debm55]

9. I'm dazed and confused too. Is that the three stooges?

[JoseBalow]

11. No, it's a scene from It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World (1963)

With Mickey Rooney, Buddy Hackett, and Jim Backus...

Now I'm gonna make an Old Fashioned the old-fashioned way - the way dear old Dad used to!

(1:55)

[Floyd R. Turbo]

10. Maybe it's an eye cold!

[JoseBalow]

13. What are you, some kind of a NUT?

[Floyd R. Turbo]

14. It's a girl's bike. A little girl's bike. I gotta admit, I feel kinda silly!

[JoseBalow]

15. My favorite cameo in the film...

(0:23)

[Floyd R. Turbo]

17. Yep!

[debm55]

12. What do you want to happen? You can discuss here. I started on DU in 2004. I think the GD is too political for what you

have to discuss. We are all ears.

[cydney_wong]

18. What I want to happen

What I want is to relay an experience I had many years ago with a person called Skinner who was in a position of decision making at DU. I have meant to share this story for years and just felt an overwhelming need lately to do it. Of course, I would like as many people as possible to see it. I was just unclear about how to proceed. I’m surprised at all the stuff that happened here, evidently because I was confused.

[progree]

20. If it is a negative post about him, realize that would be a violation of terms of service in a number of ways

Please read those carefully if you want to stay here long. Complaining about forum moderation, even if years ago, is one such violation. Negative callouts of DU members is another.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=termsofservice

skinner is still a member of DU even though he hasn't posted since 2020
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=100801

[cydney_wong]

21. Skinner

Nope, very very positive

[progree]

22. That's very good to hear 😊

[JoseBalow]

23. If you have something to say, then say it

Don't tell us you're gonna tell us, just tell us

[A HERETIC I AM]

16. Confused

Since the beginning of this thread.

[Skittles]

19. this is where we talk about non-political stuff

you know, mostly good

trending discussions - try General Discussion

welcome to DU!

[JoseBalow]

24. So when are you going to tell us your story about Skinner?

[Nittersing]

25. Why/how does this thread have so many missing replies? nt

[debm55]

26. There are only two and both are mine. I repeated a question that was answered. or avoided.

Last edited Tue Sep 10, 2024, 04:02 PM - Edit history (1)

[cydney_wong]

27. Original confused

I’m really sorry. When I posted originally as confused, I thought someone would answer my question about the appropriate place to post something. I got three responses, thanked them and figured that was that and when I had time I would write about my good experience with a person named Skinner. All of a sudden, there were a lot of posts and responses and I realized I hadn’t understood what I was getting into. I thought that once I got a response and knew where to post that I could wait till I had some time and write about my
positive experience. It’s kind of long, and I thought I could take my time. So again, I’m very sorry about my inexperience and unintentional vagueness. I will write about my exchange when I have more time and can do it justice. So again, I apologize for any misunderstanding or annoyance my naïveté has caused.

[True Dough]

28. No worries, but please do us a favor

When you have drafted your post about Skinner and it's ready for General Discussion, please post a copy of it in this thread so the DU Lounge folks who don't venture to General Discussion very often can find it here.

Thank you, and feel free to stick around if you have any inclination!

[cydney_wong]

29. Somewhat less confused

Yes, I will definitely do that. When you have a little time, would you be willing to explain to me, or direct me to someplace which explains this process? Like, how did I get connected with this thread? Is this a thread with particular people that pretty much always stays the same? I don’t want to pepper you with annoying questions, and I have a number of them, so maybe you could tell me where I can find out general info. I’ve been with DU a long time-it has been my homepage for a long time, but never really interacted and never have understood how it works.

[Marthe48]

30. There are many forums on DU

Here is a link that lists the forums by category, such as Support and Culture, and then alphabettically, such as Cooking and Baking, Humor, Pets, and so on. You will see there are many forums. The good news is you can subscribe to any you think you'll visit often, and your forum subscriptions will appear as an alphabetical list on the left side of your screen. The Main Forums are at the top of the list by default.
The Community and Help Forum is good to find information on how to navigate and use DU. If you are logged in, there are tabs across the top of the screen. If you click on Forums, you will go right to the page in the link: https://democraticunderground.com/?com=forums
I personally post in the Lounge if I have something funny or nonpolitically interesting to say. The Lounge is like the office water cooler. I post in General Discussion if I have an insight about politics or daily living that others might read and comment on. Just poke around and enjoy the company of like-minded people. Welcome to DU!

[cydney_wong]

31. Seeing the light/tunnel

Ah. Thank you very much! Just the info I was hoping for. I’m looking forward to being more active.

[True Dough]

32. Thanks, Marthe

You saved me from typing all of that, and you expressed it more clearly than I would have anyway.

[Marthe48]

33. Thank you!

I hear that the best way to learn is to teach someone else

[cydney_wong]

35. Help

So I did write about my experience with Skinner, and I thought I posted it, but it appears in yellow at he bottom of the posts and does not seem to have actually posted. I’m sorry, I feel like an idiot for seemingly being unable to figure out this process. You were kind in your response to me, so I thought it would be ok to ask for your help. Why is it yellow and how do I post it?

[True Dough]

36. All is well

Your post did indeed appear at the bottom of this thread. I can see it:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=325365

[cydney_wong]

37. Thank

Appreciate

[cydney_wong]

38. Where should I post?

I’m wondering where I should put my post so people can see it. Evidently you are the only one who has seen it in the place where all this started. It still appears in yellow, and I haven’t gotten any feedback or response from any of the people who initially responded. I would like other people to see it, but don’t know how to make that happen. Sorry to be bugging you with questions. If it’s annoying, just let me know and I’ll try to seek help elsewhere.

[True Dough]

39. Hi Cydney

I see your post about Skinner has four recommendations, so it is being seen. But to give it a higher profile and garner more attention, I would encourage you to use that post to start your own thread in the Lounge. The title of this thread means a lot of people probably aren't reading much beyond the initial post, so the Skinner anecdote needs to breathe on its own, so to speak.

[cydney_wong]

34. story about Skinner

I am sorry this has taken so long and was confusing. This whole posting business, where etc. has me flummoxed and I kind of regret starting this. I wish someone was sitting with me giving me a verbal cram course on this stuff. Anyway, a friend (Democrat) introduced my partner and I to DU a long time ago. We both (although Independents) were so impressed by the site that we began visiting daily and soon it became the homepage on our shared computer. On and on we read until October of 2015 when, completely disillusioned, I found the email for a person called Skinner and wrote this to him:




Cyd Wong wrote:
> I have valued DU as my home page ever since a friend introduced me to it. Same for my husband. We have REALLY liked DU.
>
> I had a conversation today with my husband about DU. A couple hours later I spoke with a friend who also uses DU.
>
> All three of us expressed dismay over the, really, it's just gotta be said. sleazy ads that have increased on the site. And of course it's mostly T and A.
>
> The constantly revolving buxom babe in the tight "naughty" tee-shirt was hard to take, but the really awful ads at the bottom of the threads are just simply too much. And of course the "pull you in" photo is usually an exposed or embarrassingly photographed woman. The photo of the cheerleader who didn't realize she was menstruating... really? REALLY? And then of course there are the "freak" pictures.
>
> I am sorry to have to switch my home page from DU, but I've had it with the tacky ads. I'll miss the coverage, especially the Bernie stuff as we approach the election.
>
> I hope that enough people write to you about this that you make changes.
>
> Regards,
> Cyd

Imagine my surprise when he answered me that same day.
I was disappointed in his response-basically telling me DU didn't choose the adverts that appear and they'll look into it.
Then, I was floored when almost immediately I got another email saying that my email was a good prompt to look at the ads, he was surprised, he said "at the low quality (and yes, sleazy) ads that some visitors are seeing" and he went on to say he had decided to look into other options. I can't tell you how good that made me feel. To be heard and have immediate response and action taken in situations like this is so rare, I knew I had arrived at my online home.
Change was made and I received a final email from Skinner.
That's my story. I think about that experience from time to time and appreciate what a great place DU is, and that an honorable person took the time to read my email and take action. Thank you all for bearing with me through this, and thank you to Skinner, wherever you are<