Good vibes requested. My grandmother is dying. Update: She passed away :(

[Elessar Zappa]

She’s 91 and is in a nursing home. No known cause of decline other than old age. She’s in a coma-like state and sleeping deeply. Her hands are still warm but she’s been without fluid for four days now. I imagine it’s not long before she passes.

She was a great grandmother. We had a tradition of playing the card game Uno since I was 5, up to a few years ago (I’m 41 now). She would read the Beverly Cleary books and Laura Ingalls Wilder books to me before I could read. When I visited she always had my favorite cereal Cocoa Pebbles and Juicy Juice fruit juice.

Update: As I’m writing this post, I received the call that she passed away. RIP Grandma, I love you.

[Walleye]

1. Please accept my condolences. And God bless all people who read to children.

[a kennedy]

2. So sorry for her passing.

[Botany]

3. She will live on with you by your acts of doing good deeds for your family, friends, co workers, and the planet

[livetohike]

4. My sympathy on the loss of your Grandma. May the

love she gave you and every happy memory bring you comfort and always make you smile .

[LuckyCharms]

5. I'm very sorry for the loss of your dear Grandmother.

[debm55]

6. So sorry Elessar Zappa. May her memories be a blessing to you.

[sinkingfeeling]

7. My deepest sympathy.

[Hope22]

8. Sending love to you and your Grandmother.

My heart goes out to you. Grandmas are magic. She will always be with you. Peace and love to you. 💗🙏🏼

[Lonestarblue]

9. So sorry to hear of your loss.

[yardwork]

10. What a wonderful person!

I'm glad that her passing was peaceful. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[StarryNite]

11. I'm so sorry.

[orleans]

12. heartfelt condolences to you

[XanaDUer2]

13. I'm sorry

My condolences. Holding you all in light.

[tavernier]

14. So sorry!

I’m very close to my grandson.
You brought tears to my eyes.

[pandr32]

15. I am sorry for the loss of your dear Grandma.

It is never easy.
Keep her with you by going over the memories you shared often. Mine still warm me after many years.

[KT2000]

16. Sorry for your loss

This was a sweet tribute to her. Peace to you.

[chowder66]

18. I'm so sorry. I hope thoughts of her bring you some comfort.

[brer cat]

19. I'm very sorry for your loss. Our Grands are very special

and it hurts terribly when they are gone. I hope your memories will bring you comfort.

[Rob_70]

20. My Deepest Sympathy

I'm so glad you had her as long as you did. 💕

[virgdem]

21. Deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved grandmother.

Cherish the memories of all the good times .

[usaf-vet]

22. I HOPE that you have THIS to look forward to. There rarely is a day that my maternal grandmother isn't here with me.....

Let me explain. As time passes, the pain and sadness of her loss will hopefully be replaced by one or two great moments you remember about her.

In my case, one or maybe both of my key moments were when I spent days with her while my parents worked.

Often, I was dropped off before I had breakfast. So, my key "spark of memory" was because of breakfast. She never had an electric or gas stove. She cooked on a wood-fired cast iron-top stove. So often, she would make toast for me as part of breakfast. Because she also didn't have an electric toaster, she made a toast on the stovetop. Without the benefit of a timer to stop the cooking, my toast, more often than not, was burned at least on one side. She would then butter it or scrape the burnt away into the sink. So either way, I had burnt toast. It became the everyday way of what toast was.

When I got married, and we had all the cooking advantages, my wife was cooking breakfast one day early in our marriage, and the toast burned. I do not know how, but when she brought it to the table, she said, "I'm sorry, but the toast is burnt. Should I make another piece?" Before I could answer the question, tears flowed from my eyes and ran down my cheeks......

She asked if I was alright. I smiled through the tears and said Gramma L. is cooking this morning! Now, 55, married years later, I still eat burnt toast or almost anything because my wife warns me Gramma L. is cooking. Just the thought brings tears to my eyes as I write this.

I love you, Gramma!

I HOPE you will find the one or two sparks of memory of your grandmother that remain with you each time "your burnt toast" appears.

I won't tell a long tale about two other "sparks," but they are smells. One is the smell is of a seasoning, and the other is the smell of 3 in 1 machine oil.

[SWBTATTReg]

48. A nice, nice memory!!

[Clouds Passing]

23. Your Grandma

[slightlv]

24. My sympathy and empathy to you, Elessar...

My Mom died on Friday. It is SO hard to handle the emotions and trying to figure out everything that has to be done. One of the greatest things said to me was to slow down and just let things be. Try to be gentle with yourself, and lose yourself in the good times you and your grandmother had. As I go through the arrangements and stuff here on my end, I'll be sending out warm, healing thoughts to you, as well.

[JoseBalow]

25. I am sorry for your loss

[elleng]

26. May she rest in peace.

[iluvtennis]

27. May your Grandma Rest in Peace and May her Memory be a Blessing. n/t.

[SheltieLover]

28. Deepest condolences

May your heart be filled with warm memories that bring smiles to your face.

[FirstLight]

29. aw hun, my deep condolences...

I know my kids were profoundly affected by the passing of my Parents. They were like secondary parents as I was a single mom.

Blessed memories and let those tears flow. Glad she went gently and easily. I'm sure she's happily reuniting with others :hugs:

[LostOne4Ever]

30. My condolences

May you take comfort in your memories of her and the UNO games you played.

[TexasBushwhacker]

31. 91 is a good long life

I have an aunt who is 96 and has been in assisted living for over 20 years. She also has grandchildren and great grandchildren, but she's ready to call it a day. Her husband died 15 years ago and her younger sister, my mother, died 21 years ago. She is the last of her generation in our family. I will miss her.

[JoeOtterbein]

32. I'm....

....sorry.

(tears)

[HeartsCanHope]

33. I am so sorry for your loss.

Please accept my deepest condolences. I'll be thinking of you and your family. Take care.

[Trueblue Texan]

34. I am so sorry...

Thank you for sharing your wonderful memories of your grandma. I know your heart is aching. Peace and healing to you, Elessar.

[mokeyz]

35. Rest In Peace

to your sweet grandmother may her memory be a blessing. hugs to you and her loved ones.💙

[spooky3]

36. Condolences to you nt

[Magoo48]

37. Peace to you and your family.

[mahatmakanejeeves]

38. My (maternal) grandmother was my favorite relative.

I got along with her better than any other relative.

It hurts.

[Unladen Swallow]

39. Prayers to you and your family.

May God bless your Grandmother and each of you.

[Luciferous]

40. I'm so sorry for your loss

[Permanut]

41. Sounds like the Grandmother everyone would like to have..

Thanks for the nice tribute, I'll bet she would like it.

[TNNurse]

42. Sounds like she went peacefully.

How appropriate at her age. Thinking of you.

[Deep State Witch]

43. May Her Memory Be A Blessing

She sounds like a wonderful grandmother.

[malaise]

44. Sending good vibes

[AllaN01Bear]

45. ""

[Niagara]

46. Rest in Paradise, Elessar Zappa's Uno playing Grandmother

Sounds like there were wonderful memories at hand here!

[ShazzieB]

47. My sister was in hospice care when she passed away almost a year ago due to kidney failure.

One thing I didn't know about hospice is that they don't just care for the dying person; they also care for the dying person's loved ones. The hospice that handled my sister's care at the end has sent me things in the mail all this past year about coping with loss and grief. The most recent one was a poem that I found very moving. This is the first time I'm sharing it with someone, but it won't be the last.

‐-------------------------------------------------
ON THOSE DAYS

On those says
When you miss someone the
most

as though your memories
are sharp enough
to slice through skin and bone

remember how they loved you.

Remember how they loved you
and do that
for yourself.

In their name
in their honour.
Love yourself
as they loved you.

They would love that.

On those days
when you miss someone
the most
love yourself harder.

Donna Ashworth
‐-------------------------------------------------

I'm still in the process of learning how to do this, but every time I try, it helps.

[Fla Dem]

49. I'm so sorry for you.

Losing a Grandmother that was so much of your life is truly sorrowful. As time goes on you'll reflect on her with much love and joy.

[Donkees]

50. 🌸

[Marthe48]

51. I hope my grand kids remember me with such affection

I'm glad you had a loving Grandma. Condolences.

[MLAA]

52. Sending kind thoughts to you and all your Grandma's loved ones.

🩷

[choie]

53. I'm so sorry Elessar

It sounds like you had a beautiful relationship. Please accept my condolences.

[skylucy]

54. I'm so sorry, Elessar.

[blueseas]

55. Condolences

Sorry

[calimary]

56. She'd want you to take good care of yourself, especially now.

Do it for her and in her honor. You know she’ll be watching, cuz she’ll be watching over you EVERY day now. From “the balcony seat”.

[LA Blue Bengal]

57. So sorry for your loss

Sounds like you were lucky to have her

[debm55]

58. Kick

[area51]

59. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Elessar Zappa]

60. Thank you all for your kind responses.

I showed my mom the thread and she got teary eyed by the idea that strangers are showing so much care.

Thank you all!

[summer_in_TX]

61. I'm sorry you lost your grandmother, Elessar.

Like other energies, love never dies.

In my imagination at least, my parents as have just stepped into another room. They aren't far from me. I don't get to spend time with them in person now, only visit in my memories.

You have a lifetime of wonderful memories, it sounds like. I can tell she loved you very much. You were blessed to have her.

[SleeplessinSoCal]

62. She has your love.

You must have always been a great comfort to her.

[gademocrat7]

63. Condolences, Elessar

on the loss of your beloved grandmother.

[CaptainTruth]

64. So sorry...