A dear friend died today. Heart attack.

[Ilsa]

He was less than 50 years old. He had been my son's caregiver for the last two years. He didn't treat me like an old lady even though we were 20 years apart age-wise. He was kind and friendly, considerate of my feelings. We teased each other about anything and everything. Hated politics. Despised Trump. I'm going to miss him like crazy.

He was the person I saw and talked to more than anyone except my grown boys.

[Attilatheblond]

1. Holding you in my heart

Words are no comfort, but know your loss is shouldered by others who care.

[Ilsa]

11. Thank you so much.

I've dealt with alot of loss over the last 2-3 years.

[Pachamama]

2. Heart attack under 50....that is so young

I am so sorry to hear this loss for both you and your son…and so sudden.

He sounds like he was a really kind and decent person with a loving heart that the world needs more of and not less.

[Ilsa]

10. He was a good person, as well as a bit of a mess.

He was an ADHD kid with learning and memory difficulties born into a family of overachievers. He had a bit of that "if it feels good, do it," mentality, and was never quite fully mature. His wants typically overruled his thinking about consequences. He was really sweet, and we will miss him.

[Shellback Squid]

3. I'm so sorry, don't have words

[Ilsa]

12. Thank you. My

heart has been heavy since I heard. I'm in a little shock.

[UpInArms]

4. (((((hugs)))))

I am so sorry 😢

[Ilsa]

13. Thank you. I'll take the hugs, even vitual hugs.

I'm in shock, I think.

[MIButterfly]

5. Dear Ilsa, I am so sorry for your loss.

I hope good memories of your friend will eventually help ease your pain. I send to you my deepest condolences.

Love,
MIButterfly

[Ilsa]

15. Thank you. I keep thinking,

"May his memory be a blessing."

[riversedge]

6. Seems he was a good man. May the angels care for him now.

[Ilsa]

16. Thank you. I hope so. nt

[LoisB]

7. Goodness. I am so sorry. May he rest in peace.

[Ilsa]

17. Thank you for your kind words. nt

[iemanja]

8. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Ilsa]

21. Thank you so much. It's a shock to the system. nt

[iemanja]

29. I can imagine.

Best wishes to you.

[calimary]

9. So sorry to hear.

How are YOU doing? Anybody close by or easily reachable, who you could talk to? Sounds like it might be helpful. Hopefully you don’t have to mourn alone.

[Ilsa]

18. I sent his mother a text that I

need to mourn him with others who cared about him. She responded that they'll let me know about funeral arrangements, shiva.

[Figarosmom]

14. That's awful.

Was it something congenital? Or a product of our country's Healthcare system? 50 is really young.

I'm sorry you lost a friend. Good friends are not so easy to come by these days.

[Ilsa]

19. He took responsibility for his health being screwed up.

He ended up with cardiac stents, diabetes, etc. I think there is a combination of issues, including long term use of prescription meds, etc. He wasn't an alcoholic or illegal drug user.

[irisblue]

20. I am sorry for your and your sons' loss

[Ilsa]

22. Thank you. My disabled son doesn't understand

death. It will be awhile before he forgets this cargiver.

[sdfernando]

23. I'm so sorry

Way too young to leave this world!

I hope you find peace and comfort in your memories.

[Ilsa]

24. Thank you so much for your kind words. nt

[niyad]

25. Holding all of you in love and light in this grieving time. Huggggs for peace

and comfort.

[Ilsa]

33. Thank you so much for your kind words. nt

[virgdem]

26. Sending deepest condolences on the loss of your dear friend.

May his memory be a blessing💔

[Ilsa]

34. Thank you. As long as I am alive and in my right mind,

his memory will live in our household.

[KitFox]

27. Oh, how tragic! I am so sorry for your loss of this special person in your life!

The suddenness and his youth somehow makes it harder, I’m sure. Sending gentle hugs🩷🩷🩷

[Ilsa]

36. I thought his heart condition was improving. His

ejection fraction rate had been increasing. His diabetes had been problematic, though.

Thank you for your kindness.

[SheltieLover]

28. Deepest condolences to you & your son

[Ilsa]

37. Thank you so much. He was one-of-a-kind. nt

[KT2000]

30. I'm sorry

He was one of your custom-made family members. So special to find someone else on the same wavelength, so I can see how you will really miss him. Peace.

[Ilsa]

38. Thank you so much for your

thoughtful words. His vibrant personality was a gift. "Custom-made family member" is a perfect description.

[Nululu]

31. So sorry

He sounds like a gem

[Ilsa]

39. His presence in our lives was a gift Thank you

for your condolences.

[no_hypocrisy]

32. Very sorry for your loss.

Some people come into our lives casually and leave as family. You were fortunate to have this man.

[Ilsa]

40. Your words are so true.

In the movie "Knowing," Nicholas Cage's character, a cosmologist, struggles with his family's faith and his loss of faith after his wife's sudden, freakish death. Perspective, randomness, and possibly devine intervention are the real themes of this mysterious movie. Did God send this person to us? I choose to think this is true.

[debm55]

35. I am very sorry IIsa, May his memories be a blessing to you. and his family.

[Ilsa]

41. Thank you so much. He was here when our family

needed him.

[debm55]

42. He will forever be a part of your family. As your family was apart of him.

[Marthe48]

43. I'm sorry for your loss

Good people who become friends are hard to find. You and your son were blessed to have him, even for a short time.

[Ilsa]

45. Thank you so much. We were very blessed

to have these two years.

[littlemissmartypants]

44. Nothing prepares us for such a loss. Condolences to everyone. ❤️

[Ilsa]

46. There were days when he was

ill, and I wondered if his body was shutting down. He always bounced back.

His parents knew his life span would be shortened, and they planned for his passing. Of course nothing can prepare a parent emotionally for the actual loss of their adult child.

Thank you for your thoughtful words.