Well....my brother died today.
Quite a character. It was just Mom him and me when I was 4 and he was 6. Lots of adventures. We moved a lot so we are both quite minimalists. My mom was a librarian so we had very intense quiet communication. Full conversations by a couple looks.
All the people who met him remember him by first name and when they met him.
Up and down the East Coast. Hampton RFK Philly Charlotte Raleigh Roanoke. Deadhead. 250 shows at least. Trust me anyone who ever met Jake remembers meeting him.
Funny smart really smart (Tolkien chapter and verse) loved food worked in lots of restaurants. We used to work in a pizza place where he tossed dough and I ran the ovens and the cash register. I wasn’t aware that we were “the show”. Families sat in the booths up front to watch us go at it about music pop culture history sports etc.
Scarlet Begonias
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Sincerest condolences. 
You are in my thoughts.
RIP, Jake.
You shared a treasure with us today.
Healing vibes on the way to you.
My condolences.
I extend to you and your family my condolences. May your memories of your brother eventually bring you peace.
With love and deep sympathy,
MIButterfly
and may your heart find peace, underpants.
Your happy memories will help to sustain you.
My heart to you.
I hope that your conversations will resume someday. I had a brother like that, miss him a lot.
Be nice to yourself.
I know you will cherish your memories of him for the rest of your days. He sounds like a great guy and your memories are heartwarming. Wishing you and your family lots of peace and strength at this heartbreaking time.
grieve this loss. Big hugs, underpants. 
It sounds like you'll always have wonderful memories of him.
Your brother sounds like quite a character who followed his own path. If you and your mother moved around a lot when you were kids, you probably were close friends throughout childhood. The double act in the pizza place has to have been hilarious.
Cherish your memories of him.
Sounds you have wonderful memories full of love & great times together. Can't hope for too much more than that in life
May Jake pass gently and be remembered fondly by all
So sorry, thanks for coming on here and sharing about him and you.
When that happens in my life I like to watch this, and thanks for including the Dead, I gotta re-learn that diminished run Jerry did on Help on the way/Slipknot.
Keep on keeponing.
Eko.
My heartfelt condolences to you.
Close sibling relationships are primally important to who we become/are. I'm glad that you had him in your life all these years.
When someone you love dies, the love doesn't. The love lives on in you. Sending you a big hug.
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Peace, strength and healing to you and your family.
I've lost two, it hurts
Your brother sounds like an amazing person. I wish I had known him.
Cherish those memories, they will be with you forever.
He sounds like a great brother and friend.
Maybe this will help some. When I lost my big brother, I started writing down everything I remembered about him, every story, every hug. Its something to hang onto. If he had kids, they'd probably appeciate it too.
Take care of yourself, and we're here for you.
My condolences to you and yours.
So sorry for your loss. May your memories of the good times bring you comfort.
May Jake cross gently and meet you on the other side.
I hope you two had a great relationship and the memories will be forever. 
❤ ''For we put the thought of all that we love into all that we make.''
- JRR Tolkien
If you'd been on the West Coast, he and my brother John would have definitely been friends. Love your memories here, may they and many more comfort you profoundly.
Blessings of peace, heaing and wonderful memories for you.
You are so lucky to have had a good relationship with a very cool brother.
Jake
Losing a sibling is really hard, a punch to the head and heart.
Be kind to yourself. Sending hugs.
You shared so much. It must be hard.
and to all who knew and loved him.
He was certainly a brother in the musical dimension.
That sucks, but the reality of mortality appears inescapable. Best thoughts my friend.
While the back story doesn't quite fit, this song always evokes all the folks I have lost.
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