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There was a woman and her husband who lived a few doors down. They would walk up and down the street every day, holding hands. They would wave as they walked by. She was a little thing, thin and under five feet tall. Her husband was Italian, with a huge smile and a robust laugh.
I became close to both of them, but to her especially.
After her husband passed away, she would be out there in the harsh weather, shoveling the snow off her long driveway. I would do my best to hightail it over there after a snowfall, and shovel her driveway before she had a chance to get out there. She was fiercely independent, and she would curse at me out of her window when I was shoveling. And she used the colorful curse words that I won't type here. GO HOME!! I WANT TO DO IT MYSELF!! I would ignore her and keep on shoveling.
In June of 1985, I drove home from a concert that I attended in Pennsylvania. It was very hot. As I turned down my street and drove toward my home, she was running down the street, crying, carrying her limp little dog in her arms. "I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S WRONG WITH HIM"!
I reached over and threw open the passenger door and told her to get in. There was a vet office a mile up the road. We sped to the office, and the dog was treated. Turns out it was just a problem with the heat.
Over the years, we would meet in the street in front of my house and chat. She called me by my nickname. She told me she loved me every time we parted, and I would tell her I loved her.
She would stand in the row of trees across the street, and she would talk to the birds there. I was watching her one time. She was looking up into a tree, and she was talking. She held out her hand, and a bird flew to her and landed on her hand. It was a small bird, maybe like a sparrow. I could see her talking to the bird as it sat on her outstretched hand.
We had two Shelties who were wary of other people. But when she walked by, they would start crying with glee. Whining loudly. She would walk up to the fence, and the dogs could not contain their excitement to see her. They would uncharacteristically whine loudly as she approached the chain link fence, and both of them would simultaneously be jumping on the fence as she approached.
Her voice would get high and playful as she talked to my dogs, and she would weave her fingers through the fence to pet them.
I've never seen anyone with a way with animals like that. Her ways were almost spiritual. The animals knew.
She passed away in her home, at age 103.
I miss her.
MacKasey
(1,496 posts)LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)She would curse out the plow drivers when they drove by her house and plowed her driveway in.
PJMcK
(24,805 posts)Thanks for sharing your story.
Happy New Year, amigo.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)surfered
(11,859 posts)AllaN01Bear
(28,685 posts)3catwoman3
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That must have been enchanting to watch her interact with the small bird.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)She was very gentle and loving, but you didn't want to mess with her. She would give you the business if you did.
We were about to get flooded. It was night time, around 1100PM, and the fireman were going up the street, knocking on doors and telling people to evacuate. I wasn't really concerned, because we were higher up on the street, but the firemen were insistent.
I was having a conversation with one of the fireman. He asked me who was living in her house, and I said "She's there alone". He said "we have a lot of houses to get to, can you check in on her"? I said yes.
So I walked to her house, and was pounding on the door. No answer, she was sleeping. So I tried the door and it was unlocked!
I'm thinking "Oh Jesus, I hope I don't give her a heart attack".
I was walking through her house calling her name, until I got to her bedroom and she yells WHO IS IT?
I told her it was me and asked her to come and stay with us, just in case the water gets up that far.
She lifted her head from her pillow and said "Fuck off, I'm not going anywhere".
Niagara
(11,596 posts)This will be my 2026 motto!
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)say it to a cop!
Niagara
(11,596 posts)I'll TRY to behave myself.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)Listen, I was born on a Thursday.
But it wasn't LAST Thursday!
Niagara
(11,596 posts)But for the most part I can behave myself.
Joinfortmill
(20,216 posts)BurnDoubt
(1,535 posts)To have shared Lovely Monents.
Priceless!
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)Last edited Wed Dec 31, 2025, 09:50 AM - Edit history (1)
She didn't like the way her hair had thinned out, so she would wear a wig when she went out. I used to tell her she looked better without the wig.
She didn't wear glasses except when she drove. I used to smile when I would see her drive by with her glasses and stupid wig on.
JMCKUSICK
(5,215 posts)LoisB
(12,429 posts)You are certainly one of them.
FarPoint
(14,569 posts)They see things we can not...like auras...they can see into the other side...They are here for us...
I think your dogs saw her white lite kindness aura...they know good things.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)littlemissmartypants
(31,855 posts)usonian
(23,708 posts)He'll be back.
Oh, for a few million more!
fierywoman
(8,510 posts)MiHale
(12,662 posts)Special people are drawn to special people
you are lucky, Lucky.
Silver Gaia
(5,260 posts)Our stories are important, and it is important that we share them. When we share them, they become part of the tapestry we weave that is our shared experiences. This story resonates deeply with me, and I am so glad to know about your friend. She lives on in your memories, and is now a part of our collective memories. Thank you.
onethatcares
(16,967 posts)we need more people like her....................and you.
PittBlue
(4,722 posts)What a beautiful story. How lucky for both of you to be friends and neighbors.
Picaro
(2,340 posts)Thanks for sharing this
What a wonderful story about an almost magical character.
Happy New Year.
HeartsCanHope
(1,536 posts)How lucky you both were to have such a lovely friendship!
Attilatheblond
(8,376 posts)You were blessed to have known such a spirit. She was blessed to have you as a friend who took the time to look after her.
And we are blessed by your reminder that such spirits are among us. May we all take enough time to recognize them.
Fla Dem
(27,442 posts)CousinIT
(12,305 posts)May her memory be a blessing to you.
Deuxcents
(25,646 posts)Brainstormy
(2,530 posts)to a beautiful friendship
Martin68
(27,149 posts)MIButterfly
(2,201 posts)She sounds like a wonderful and feisty lady. We should all be so lucky to know someone like her.
Thank you for posting this, LuckyCharms.
patphil
(8,745 posts)Your story brought tears to my eyes.
Harker
(17,464 posts)please send me a signed review copy.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)Harker
(17,464 posts)I'm just starting Patti Smith's "Bread of Angels." "M Train" was strangely absorbing, and my wife's eldest son's girlfriend gave me a copy of her newest memoir. She gets me.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)She's a beautiful soul. Enjoy your read.
Harker
(17,464 posts)I'm sorry I hadn't read her prior, as we would have had much literature to discuss.
Talking music with Lenny was fun and mutually rewarding, I think. I got to thank him for "Nuggets", which is a great assemblage of garage bands from the latter half of the sixties.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)Harker
(17,464 posts)I was fifty years a Coloradan, and have only been out this way for a few years.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)you could teach me how to read?
Seriously, I love to read, but I'm either on the internet all of the time, or doing work...and I don't take the time to read actual books.
I used to read a lot...not so much these days.
I should.
Harker
(17,464 posts)I had an uncle who read maybe 250 book a year.
When my mom and I used to visit him and his wife (my mom's sister), he'd say "hi" and disappear until about the time we were ready to leave. He'd have made a wrought iron plant stand, or something elegant of etched glass for us.
The moral of the story is that if you don't talk to people, you can read, and get a lot done.
Harker
(17,464 posts)yellow dahlia
(4,756 posts)yellow dahlia
(4,756 posts)yonder
(10,249 posts)FemDemERA
(693 posts)And what a wonderful neighbor you were to watch out for her all those years.
Thank you for sharing.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)I would thank you all for your kind comments individually, but I didn't want this thread to get too swollen with my comments.
I don't know why she is on my mind so much lately. I'm trying to figure out when she died...I'm thinking it must have been sometime around 2015.
I was in my twenties when we met. So she must have been in her 70s then when we met, if I did that math right?
There is so much I want to type about her and her husband, but I've probably said enough, and I don't want to reveal more about her...out of respect for her memory.
We had the same birthday. I still have all of the cards she sent. Every year she would.
Do you ever have people just kind of fall into your life, and you don't appreciate the great significance of that until some time later?
wolfie001
(7,189 posts)I felt I knew her by the time I finished reading this essay. Brilliant!
Irish_Dem
(80,106 posts)Some people are earth angels.
It is a privilege to know them.
Faux pas
(16,183 posts)people
(833 posts)Wild blueberry
(8,147 posts)Thank you. May her memory be a blessing.
Hope22
(4,497 posts)Thank you for sharing. My heart is with you. What year was she born? My friend who lived to 103 was born in 1909. Oh the memories!
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)She would be 113 now.
Hope22
(4,497 posts)I have so much respect for people who lived from early 1900s into the 2000s. The changes and discoveries .nothing if not adaptable! 🙏🏼💗
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)Dad was 46 when I was born in 1958. mom was born in 1918.
Dad 1912-1970
Mom 1918-2012
Bayard
(28,767 posts)She sounds like my kind of person. You were lucky (!) to have each other.
ancianita
(43,005 posts)Hesed is a tender consideration for the dignity of another person and a heart filled desire for another person to experience goodness. It is a love that is dependable and unwavering, and it's a mercy that is patient, generous, and undeserved.
One thing loving-kindness isn't is "nice." Loving-kindness is strong, bold, and decisive. It is gentle when gentleness will best serve the person before you. You were these things.
Your loving-kindness was and is spiritual.
You loved your neighbor as yourself.
You miss her because you still love her.
LuckyCharms, you were blessed and were a blessing.
Long may you run.
LuckyCharms
(21,999 posts)I wish you many blessings and happiness.
Trueblue Texan
(4,226 posts)Your words make your friend come alive for us. Thank you for sharing her. She was an amazing experience.