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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsYour success in life...
is not defined by the possessions have, or by the things you have accumulated.
Rather...
Your success in life should be solely measured by the things you have overcome.
If you view your life in this manner, your life will change for the better.
Everything will change for you, and your heart will be still. You will have a calm and proud joy.
Times are tough.
You're tougher.
I typically like to use words to communicate rather than emojis...but in this case, if you happen to need it...
debm55
(55,931 posts)LuckyCharms
(21,876 posts)I have gone through much of what you have, Deb.
So I think about you quite a bit.
I understand you.
You know...having someone understand you is all you really need to get through life.
Yes, we need basic material things to survive.
But to survive emotionally...all you need is just one person who understands you.
That's all I need anyway.
We don't really know each other at all in the scheme of things, but I understand you.
And I have those days where I think I'm going to lose it, but I remember that there are a few people that understand me.
And the people who mistreated me or walked out of my life become less of a heartache...because there are one or two people who understand me.
Try to think of things this way Deb, and you will flourish.
niyad
(129,683 posts)LuckyCharms
(21,876 posts)Kali
(56,647 posts)I think empathy and compassion, helping others is another mark of "success."
I don't feel I have overcome a lot. I have been privileged and lucky, but I try to be a good person most of the time.
LuckyCharms
(21,876 posts)And I agree with what you said.
My view is empathy and compassion are what each of us need to give, to provide, but not to the point of us being taken advantage of.
When I am having a tough time, and I can't sleep because of it, I think of a time I helped someone. Not of something I gave them to help them, but rather, I think of a time I really pulled someone out of a dark place.
That calms me, and I then sleep like a baby.
Empathy and compassion does more for us than it does for the person we provided it to.
OldBaldy1701E
(10,225 posts)Thanks for this, Lucky. It is nice to hear.
LoisB
(12,386 posts)LogDog75
(1,114 posts)We tend to believe that success is to be rich, to have power/influence, to be a celebrity, etc.. The problem with this is 99% percent of the people won't be successful. People are competitive by nature and if someone you know has more or achieves more than you then you view yourself as not being successful. All that does is cause stress on yourself and feeds a feeling of being a failure.
Instead of trying to met an unrealistic and artificial standards others judge you by set your own, realistic and achievable standards.
You don't have to be the best at anything to be successful; being good at what you're doing is sufficient. Remember, the only person you have to worry about judging you is you.