Have you ever cheated on a former spouse or SO?

[Kaleva]

Not going to ask about anyone's current relationship because of the transparency in polls now.

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	Yes
	2 (33%)
	No
	3 (50%)
	I have been the "other man" or "other woman"
	1 (17%)
	No but I've been cheated on
	0 (0%)
	No but I've had on line relationships. Do they count?
	0 (0%)
	None of your's or anyone else's business!!
	0 (0%)
	0 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided.
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[Chan790]

1. I don't feel represented in any of the options.

I'm poly and most of my relationships have been non-monogamous by agreement.

[Kaleva]

2. Thought about giving an option for those who were in open or poly relationships

But then I thought there wouldn't be any cheating, as I would define it, in such.

[Chan790]

4. There can be, actually.

Any poly relationship is going to have the parameters of the relationship outlined by compact. Some examples of such compacts. (This list is non-exhaustive obviously.)

• We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but only as a pair.
• We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but no intercourse.
• We can pursue outside sexual relationships but not in our {bed, home, community...}
• We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but I want to meet your partners first.
• We can pursue outside casual sex, but I don't want to know anything about your partners and kept completely separate from our home-life and no serious long-term partnerings.
• We can have sex with people other than each other, but only within this small agreed-upon group of (x) couples or (y) people.
• We can pursue outside sexual relationships, but not of the same sexual orientation as our relationship.

Violating such an agreement would be no less of an infidelity or breach of trust.

[Kaleva]

10. Then any of the possible answers in the poll would apply to your situation

If you didn't step outside the agreed upon arrangement you had with others, then you'd answer "No".

[pipi_k]

3. Both

cheated on, and have been cheated on, by former spouses/SO's.

That was years ago, though.

In the intervening years I have learned how to verbalize anger, frustration, or resentments instead of acting them out non-verbally.

[HopeHoops]

5. I haven't cheated on my current one either, for the record.

[Myrina]

6. Where's the 'all of the above' option?

[Kaleva]

7. An unsurprising response from a DIY & Home Improvement Group regular!

J/K!!

[Myrina]

8. Um, not a 'regular', but thanks for noticing ...

[Kaleva]

9. Got the idea of how to reply but needed to look at your profile to fill in the blanks.