with all teh patreus stuff got me wondering about affairs

[loli phabay]

cant do polls so just questions

have you cheated?
Would you cheat?
Does your spouse care if you cheat?
Do you care if your spouse cheats?
open arrangement?

personally i dont link sex and marraige as having to be one and the same so my views are probuably way different than most.

[Angry Dragon]

1. If your spouse does not care if you cheat is it really cheating??

As far as your last statement, just do not have sex in your marriage and you will be okay

[loli phabay]

4. no i mean i seperate having sex with just your spouse from marraige, you can be married and still en

enjoy sport sex for want of a better phrase, its not just confined to the marraige.

[Angry Dragon]

5. I understood what you meant

Just don't complain if your partner does not have time to play with you because they have found better players .............

[loli phabay]

6. yup if you play the game sometimes your on the sidelines. like most sports

[Lady Freedom Returns]

2. ....

have you cheated? No
Would you cheat? It is obvious that you never saw my mate!
Does your spouse care if you cheat? Yes and the one I cheated with would care a lot to!
Do you care if your spouse cheats? Yes and the one he cheated with would care a lot to!

open arrangement? Way to jealous for that!

[MiddleFingerMom]

3. When married (or even just in a committed, openly-proclaimed monogamous...

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... relationship), I took my commitment extremely seriously and NEVER cheated on
my wife (or SO). EVER... though I had lots of opportunities (my wife was SMOKIN' hot
physically and I never got hit on by so many women -- most of whom knew I was
married and had seen my wife). I was also in several long-term unmarried serious
relationships that were not considered monogamous by either one of us -- but we
vastly desired each other's company more than any other's for almost everything.
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However... I was in the Army when I was married (in the mid-70's) and I was the
ONLY enlisted man I knew who wasn't cheating on his wife (or at least TRYING to).
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I don't know about officers (or civilian husbands of that era) but in my particular
subculture, it was (except for me) absolutely universal among the husbands that
I knew.
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I've always been an honest man -- and this just seemed an even more important
thing to be honest about.
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[Angry Dragon]

7. good on you MFM

[HipChick]

8. Cheaters..

I worked in a place where all the married people were cheating....they didn't even hide it. Us, single folks would often joke, that we should call the show Cheaters...

[riderinthestorm]

9. Personally, living truthfully and honestly to myself and others brings me great happiness

Its just something that I've found (over many decades of trial and error) works for me. It brings a deep sense of satisfaction and, to use an old fashioned word, honor. I feel that at the end of my life, I'll be satisfied and that has come to mean a great deal to me. So with that said, my answers are probably pretty obvious....

have you cheated? No

Would you cheat? No

Does your spouse care if you cheat? Yes. It would be a deal breaker

Do you care if your spouse cheats? Yes. It would be a deal breaker for both of us

open arrangement? Nope. Why? Because sex is the "glue" if you will for a marriage imho. It smooths over the hurts and anxieties and pain. Its really, really hard to sustain the bitterness after making love. Diluting that "glue" with others would transform the nature of the lovemaking for us at least.